I want to play devils advocate so bad and logicallly justify all of these spirit lifting phrases that don't work. However I will not. I spent a lot of my life quite pessimistic, and theres nothing wrong with being a pessimist contrary to popular belief, but this meant I never took other people's optimistic attempts at help seriously, nor did I make any of my own. So in order to finally accept these phrases I began logically justifying them in my head and winded up changing my world view bit by bit.
The reason, why I say I won't go through this post and validate every attempt at lifting spirits, is because its all a matter of belief. What made me a pessimist is that I know there is no point to any of this, all of life, there is no purpose. What made me an optimist was figuring out we make purpose if we want it.
And if you dont believe in any of these phrases, theres really no point in me trying to make someone believe in them. Because while they are all ultimately purposeless, like everything else, nothing really has to be if you let it.
Every single motivational quotes are just simply useless fake optimism meanings for instant gratification and has really no input about really “reality” and I just wished it would replace every single motivational quote into de-motivational quotes like these such as:
“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”
“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.”
There are two ways to make me feel better, and two exactly: by either shutting the fuck up, leaving me alone, and staying out of my business, or actually solving my problem (which almost always deal with other people). Doing anything outside of these will more often than not piss me off even worse and, in turn, make the entire situation worse (someone very recently learned that lesson the hard way)
The issue is not that the advice is almost always unsolicited, but that the advice comes from people who do not have the brains or the guts to actually solve the problem that the person they are trying to help is having
Yeah I’ve always hated that particular saying and never came to terms to it, as we can change what the “is” is. Alot of the other sayings at least have something to do with patience, humility or gratitude
I get what you're saying, but put yourself in their shoes. What is there to really say? Nobody knows the future of anything. The most they can do is provide comfort in the best way they can, whether it be by a hug or encouraging words. I imagine some people feel anxious by the stress of their friends and family, and don't always know what to say. Not everyone is a poet.
I do hate it when people tell me or anyone that, "Others have it worse than you." I mean, no shit, Sherlock. That is like...the shittiest thing to tell someone when they feel down, and it doesn't make anyone feel better, like at all. Might bring them down worse, make them feel like you don't care at all, but okay.
Yeah I think “cheaters never prosper” may have held merit in popular opinion a few decades ago, but to a millennial it means nothing. Patience on the other-hand is more complicated but delayed gratification is more satisfying than instant gratification, however to have patience means you’d have to be waiting on something to begin with- and sometimes having to wait shouldn’t be necessary, but the ability to read a book for instance relies on you waiting hours for a conclusion- this kind of patience is related to academic success. But sometimes I think patience isn’t necessary and is just used as a bluff