i'm not the most approachable person at this point in time.
in the past though ah it pains me to this day but I was stoned out of my brains so I couldn't really help it, i was at this small gatho and just to be brutally honest here everyone there was awkward as fuck except me and this girl named Erin, we were cracking all the jokes on everyone and the only people making it a good time but so anyway after a little bit Erin hits me on the shoulder and is like "lets go for a walk" and i'm just like "huh?" and then she just brushes it off but jesus how could I be so stupid
I'm a bit of a Puritan, so I kind of believe that 'flirting' in the definition of acting overtly like you're sexually attracted to someone probably isn't exactly morally squeaky-clean unless you're already in a stable relationship with that person (maybe not romantically, but a meaningful and respectful relationship all the same). Of course, this may change depending on the context, but it's the general way I see it when talking to people in real life.
Naturally, I have never in my life had the direct experience of being flirted with by anybody, so the correct answer to this question would be 'I wouldn't know'.
like that will ever happen they go straight to trying to pay me for sex or I'd be like *wakes up in the middle of the night 5days later* /ohhh wait were they trying to flirt with me?? O_O/ I have my guy now so I dun need to worry about it either way
I'm rather oblivious when it comes to flirting. Mistake it too easily as being friendly. So assuming it was obvious to me, I'd probably try escape out of it lol I'm no good at handling myself in that sort of situation
Flirting is hard to elucidate. It's not an exact science. Too many variables and it is based on human beings who are naturally prone to be moody, temperamental, or preoccupied with other things at any given moment.
Flirting is like playing black jack at a high stakes poker game in Vegas. The chances of losing far outweigh the chances of beating the house and becoming an overnight Bruce Wayne.
Yet some would beg to differ I am sure. There are always exceptions. Some folks seem to operate endlessly in some kind of magical mojo and have an art for picking up a lover or getting a number when few others could. They know what to say, follow their gut intuitions and move in to steal a kiss and have all the right things going for them at the moment for the magic to happen. It almost always does for them. Eat your heart out Tom Cruise.
Thing is girls have a right to be suspicious of guys because they will flirt with anything that is remotely attractive in the heat of the moment. I know there are some diva crushers out there too who love to shoot guys down just because they can and watch em crash and burn. So that's why nerds like myself stand at the bar and are frozen in fear when they see the next generation of super hot Spice Girls coming into the club to set the whole place on fire with testosterone and raw male erotic energy.
Personally I think if you really dig someone, I think you have to try. You will never know what could have been if you don't man up and try to learn how to get into the deep heart of a woman. If you get shot down, you have to take one for the team and get up and try again. You have to play the long game and focus hard on the person that has stolen your heart but seriously not as a stalker. You have to know when no is final.
Otherwiseyou might just get maced, beaten up and arrested and that will definitely mess things up for your chances to go to law school at Harvard. Optimism is a wonderful thing but reality has its limits. I end this long rant with a quote from Alexander Pope: “Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.”
Ever since I looked up what flirting means by dictionary terms, I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between a flirt and casual banter. So I guess I'd treat a flirtatious situation as just friendly conversation.
I *think* that I was flirted with by a person at a museum with genuine kindness, and I instantly wanted to troll him. So I guess that's my reaction. I played the part of feigning interest until my aunt shooed him away from me.
Mostly benign stuff like copypastas, but more salacious if he was vying for more. He assumed I was a foreign student. I agreed. Since he asked if I had an FB (did not then) and wanted my phone number in the space of a couple minutes, I thought to screw with his mind in text before leaving the country.
But I had my reasonable fears that he could be a scammer targeting foreigners, hence wanting to see how far this could go until he did not want to talk to me.
If I'm out with friends, I'll get annoyed for sure though and they're getting shot down harshly. Unless they're seriously ridiculously good looking, hot and seemingly polite... then maybe I'll take his or give my number.
If it's someone my age I'd be polite and let them down gently because I'm already in a relationship. If it's someone who's older, I'd smile politely while trying to remember the self defense moves I've learned and back away, also thinking of an excuse to leave, hoping they don't follow me.
I'd probably not notice they were flirting with me anyways, unless they made it glaringly obvious. I've had people flirt with me and they had to tell me they were trying to flirt for me to realize it. I'm oblivious af