mom wants to follow me to college
she told EVERYONE that she's going to follow me to college, so she's not joking. she gets angry when someone says that she should "leave troy alone for once"
and then she's like "WHY DO YOU NOT WANT ME NEAR YOU? DO YOU HATE ME? YOU'RE NOT GOING TO COLLEGE AT ALL THEN"
if she was the stereotypical middle-class mom who's all loving and overprotective and "wants the best for me", i'd bit the bullet and tolerate it since its not like she would hurt me or my study. then i can tolerate her "empty nest syndrome".
but i swear to god that she will constantly try to interfere with my life, find more opportunities to criticize me and tell me "see, you shouldnt have come to NY", and accuse me of hanging out with atheists or homosexuals.
what... should i do. how do i keep her from coming hahahaha
and then she's like "WHY DO YOU NOT WANT ME NEAR YOU? DO YOU HATE ME? YOU'RE NOT GOING TO COLLEGE AT ALL THEN"
if she was the stereotypical middle-class mom who's all loving and overprotective and "wants the best for me", i'd bit the bullet and tolerate it since its not like she would hurt me or my study. then i can tolerate her "empty nest syndrome".
but i swear to god that she will constantly try to interfere with my life, find more opportunities to criticize me and tell me "see, you shouldnt have come to NY", and accuse me of hanging out with atheists or homosexuals.
what... should i do. how do i keep her from coming hahahaha
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Get a restraining order. Seriously.
She's manipulating you (or attempting to). I think you need to leave immediately, away from the family, away from your mother.
You're an adult now and she cannot and does not have the right to belittle your mental state like she is.
I had my mind belittled by my stepdad(not even close to how bad your mother is) when I was younger. I just sat and took it for 10 years, until I graduated high school. Then I took escape for a year in the Navy, near Chicago. It was a chance to run away and live alone for a while, away from my stepdad. He would call my mom and my sister names, and even say things like "its your fault your mom is so depressed" or "I hope your sister gets blown up in Afghanistan" all in order to make me snap, or to get me to become his emotional/mental "gohper".
Its not the same situation at all, but the fact is, she IS smashing your mental state for her own gain. This is mental abuse. Emotional abuse. Psychological abuse, whatever you want to call it. Even if she's feeding you and giving you a shelter, I call that cover-up since, if she didn't do that, it would be blatantly obvious she's abusing you. And the thing with the dog (I read from a conversation in a different HWL post) was horrible. It was animal abuse, and she even used it to manipulate your mind. Saying things about it being worm-filled and nasty, she tried filling your head with thoughts and things that only SHE could 'protect' you from. It sounds like an attempt to make her seem like your only source of protection and love, which is hilarious because its so horribly untrue.
It take a TREMENDOUS load off your shoulders when you get away from the stress and fucked up household. I hope for the best for you.
<3 Good luck with all of this.
You're an adult now and she cannot and does not have the right to belittle your mental state like she is.
I had my mind belittled by my stepdad(not even close to how bad your mother is) when I was younger. I just sat and took it for 10 years, until I graduated high school. Then I took escape for a year in the Navy, near Chicago. It was a chance to run away and live alone for a while, away from my stepdad. He would call my mom and my sister names, and even say things like "its your fault your mom is so depressed" or "I hope your sister gets blown up in Afghanistan" all in order to make me snap, or to get me to become his emotional/mental "gohper".
Its not the same situation at all, but the fact is, she IS smashing your mental state for her own gain. This is mental abuse. Emotional abuse. Psychological abuse, whatever you want to call it. Even if she's feeding you and giving you a shelter, I call that cover-up since, if she didn't do that, it would be blatantly obvious she's abusing you. And the thing with the dog (I read from a conversation in a different HWL post) was horrible. It was animal abuse, and she even used it to manipulate your mind. Saying things about it being worm-filled and nasty, she tried filling your head with thoughts and things that only SHE could 'protect' you from. It sounds like an attempt to make her seem like your only source of protection and love, which is hilarious because its so horribly untrue.
It take a TREMENDOUS load off your shoulders when you get away from the stress and fucked up household. I hope for the best for you.
<3 Good luck with all of this.thank you.
i dont want to join the military though lol because that's like giving my life to them
i can leave for new york within two months (and not take my mommy with me!!!)
i dont want to join the military though lol because that's like giving my life to them
i can leave for new york within two months (and not take my mommy with me!!!)
Oh nonono I'm not telling you to do that. It didnt work for me either... discharged after 13 months including boot camp. That was just what I had to do to get away for a while. c:
Yay! Good luck on the time inbetween leaving and now.
Yay! Good luck on the time inbetween leaving and now.
ugh yea
Nuu, not the mom! DX
What's the difference between your mom and a corpse?
A corpse can't follow you to college.
A corpse can't follow you to college.
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Hey, look, I'm not suggesting anything. You come to your own conclusions about what you need to do. 
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Don't worry. I won't tell anyone.
Reverse it on her.
Start including her in everything you do. Talk to her non-stop about things you love but she doesn't care about. Bring her with you whenever you go out and introduce her to all your friends.
She'll love it for about a week or two, after that she'll get sick of you always calling her, showing up at her house, asking her to go places, etc.
Start including her in everything you do. Talk to her non-stop about things you love but she doesn't care about. Bring her with you whenever you go out and introduce her to all your friends.
She'll love it for about a week or two, after that she'll get sick of you always calling her, showing up at her house, asking her to go places, etc.
hahaha great idea
she knows that i watch porn, but she accuses me nonstop even though i dont watch all the time
maybe i should make her watch porn with me too and make her hang out with my gay friends aaaa, thatll teach her
she knows that i watch porn, but she accuses me nonstop even though i dont watch all the time
maybe i should make her watch porn with me too and make her hang out with my gay friends aaaa, thatll teach her
Ugh, asking your mom to watch porn with you, that's too much...
it should scare her off
Yeah, but my mom watching porn with me is something that would haunt me forever... and what if it doesn't scare her, huh? 
oh shit then i must run for sure then
run forrest, run!!
run forrest, run!!
At my dorms, they don't give a persons room number to anyone, not even family. Go to housing and your dorm office and make sure they do that or request it. If you want to take additional steps (and i suggest you do) tell them you did not leave home on good terms with your family and that your mother has threatened to stalk you, and that you would feel physically and emotionally threatened given her presence. Give them a picture of her, and ask that if she is seen around the dorms to please have security escort her off campus. I suggest going to the humanities department at the university as well in case she tries following you to class.
I doubt she'll really follow you, but take those precautions and you shouldn't have any issues. You can hang out with all the atheists and gays you want to
I doubt she'll really follow you, but take those precautions and you shouldn't have any issues. You can hang out with all the atheists and gays you want to
not sure about physical because mom cant fight me physically anymore but yes, emotionally threatened.... i am afraid that if she's near me, she's going to collect information and blackmail me with it saying that she's going to tell everyone else about my life, endanger my identity, etc and berate me in front of my friends
hell, if i had kids i wouldnt want them to know who their grandmother was. of course my mom wouldn't "hurt" my friends or my kids but the emotional tension, the way how she treated me all these years can't be just forgotten you know.... i wouldnt feel safe with her around my friends and kids
yea there's high chance that she might not follow me around, but there's also chance that she might... considering how much i pissed her off my trying to be independent
hell, if i had kids i wouldnt want them to know who their grandmother was. of course my mom wouldn't "hurt" my friends or my kids but the emotional tension, the way how she treated me all these years can't be just forgotten you know.... i wouldnt feel safe with her around my friends and kids
yea there's high chance that she might not follow me around, but there's also chance that she might... considering how much i pissed her off my trying to be independent
I remember you posting before about how she was talking about moving the family out of the country or something? (was that you?) seems she might be full of a lot of empty threats. Even so, tell the dorming people you feel threatened by her presence and give them a picture, tell them they need to escort her off campus if she comes wandering around.
Trust me when I say that once you move out, your life gets so much better. I didn't have a good relationship with my mom and when I moved out of the house, it was like the weight of the world just rolled off my back.
Trust me when I say that once you move out, your life gets so much better. I didn't have a good relationship with my mom and when I moved out of the house, it was like the weight of the world just rolled off my back.
most of her threats arent empty lol
and yes that was me!!! she actually DID pack up stuff in our house, getting prepared to leave, trying to buy tickets for australia (i took my passport from her so she cant just buy one without making sure i had it)
and then she learned that there are alot of freemasons in australia so she sort of... stopped
and yes that was me!!! she actually DID pack up stuff in our house, getting prepared to leave, trying to buy tickets for australia (i took my passport from her so she cant just buy one without making sure i had it)
and then she learned that there are alot of freemasons in australia so she sort of... stopped
Is freemason just her word for...liberal?
no idea lol
she thinks freemasons are satan worshippers who are secretly trying to take over the world with the illuminati and she thinks the governments are filled with freemasons lol
she thinks freemasons are satan worshippers who are secretly trying to take over the world with the illuminati and she thinks the governments are filled with freemasons lol
Ah. Makes perfect sense.
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