Hm... So basically... people around you are close-minded...
Don't worry. We are all a bit rebellious anyway, because, come on, we can live EXACTLY as our parents would like us too. This is not rebellion. It's personality.
I hope it'll get better.

(LOL FOR THE RELIGIOUS PART.)
(religious people always make me laugh... with an exception when they are wonderful people.)

Ok, first of all you are really pretty normal.
Rebellious teens, all too common of a label right? Well, sorry to say but get used to it. I get labeled that a lot too and how..i'll never figure out. See you can be doing everything people want you to, and they will still have to find fault, they will still have to find a way to label you with your peers. You don't do drugs, you obey curfew, play video games, have good grades, and yet...you are a rebellious teen. Take me for instance, I am an A-B student, a volunteer firefighter, an EMT, an Auxiliary secretary, a girl scout, a volunteer counselor, a praise band member, and a youth group member. What more can you ask for? I still get labled.
I am afraid, that you just need to ignore it and keep being you. That's all you can be after all, you are human.

It's probably different in America but rebellious teenagers in Britian tend to be the majority of teenagers (I'd say mostly working class though). Because teenagers start to become curious about the world and want to start exploring life they start to go out drinking, smoking, taking drugs, getting piercings/tattoos e.t.c. basically doing anything that society/parents frows upon. They do this because it's exciting/fun, sometimes they do it out of pure boredom and others do it to break away from parents and become independant. Now the reasons why you have been called a "rebellious teenager" seem to be because your family is very religious, they seem to have old fashioned veiws about issues that have been widely accepted by the majority of the world e.g. homosexuality. I can't tell you how to get them to understand you or how to hide things about yourself not to get labelled. But what I can tell you is to believe in what you believe, don't let people bring you down and brainwash you into their way of thinking. Who the hell knows where we came from? Who knows that their is some man in the sky that created us or if life on earth was caused by some freak scientific event? No-one does! Of course everyone is allowed to have their own beliefs but no-one has they right to tell you what to think or what to be.

I can honestly say I was not raised in an environment even close to what you've been dealing with. My mom was not religious by any means, she believes in god and wants me to believe the same way as her, but she doesn't jam it down my throat. The one time I ventured into a discussion with her about Paganism (not Wicca, but general Paganism) her only comment was "it sounds like a cult to me". That was the last really religious discussion I had with her, even as open-minded as she is she just can't wrap her head around the fact that anything besides Christianity isn't necessarily a cult. Aside from the religious thing, the fam was pretty open and accepting of everyone. I have 2 gay aunts, one on my mother's side and one on my father's. If I'd turned out gay they would have shrugged and said "nothing new". One of my aunts is in a committed relationship with her girlfriend and they have 2 boys (the biological children of my aunt's girlfriend, adopted by my aunt). They're all accepted as family.

And believe it or not, even with a pretty open environment like that I was still labeled a "rebellious teenager". Of course, for a time I actually was. For the most part I was pretty easy-going, until I met this guy who turned my life upside down. It only got bad when he called my mother a whore and she banned me from seeing him, so I tried to go behind her back and ran away a few times. Didn't turn out well. But it did teach us all a lesson. It taught me that I could have a backbone, and that I could make my own decisions and stick by them. It taught the family that I was willing and able to make my own decisions. And it taught us all that while they may have my best interest at heart, some things need to be handled differently and sometimes I need to make my own mistakes and learn my own lessons. I kept trying to see this boy, until eventually he coldly cut me off over the phone and called me "annoying" and dumped me. I got no love from my mom about my first heartbreak, she just said "good riddance" and I had to deal with it on my own. She cut me off from my friends and I just became a shut-in the rest of the summer. Thankfully I do have enough of her in me to get pissed off at this boy when I heard he wanted to ask me out again. I walked up to him the first day of school and asked him if he loved me and wanted me back, he said "yes" and had a really good fake sad-serious face on. I then screamed "WELL YOU SURE HAVE A FUNNY FUCKING WAY OF SHOWING IT" in his face and walked away. That pretty much marked the end of my rebellion. And it honestly wasn't really that bad, yet I was still tagged as a "rebellious teen".

I think being labeled a rebellious teen is something no teenager in America can escape. You could probably do and say everything your parents expect you to, and someone somewhere would say "that's a rebellious teen". You'd say one wrong thing and all of a sudden you're a disrespectful slouch with nothing better to do with your life than cause your parents grief. To me you don't sound rebellious at all, but to a super conservative traditional Christian you're a nightmare. OMG he doesn't want to convert the world to Christianity, and he's gay! *le gasp* Quickly, we need to show him how horrible and disrespectful he's been! Try not to let the label get to you so much. As I said, pretty much everyone is a "rebellious teen" at some point in their life. Some people really are rebellious, and others like you and I are perfectly average people who get a bad rap because we once dared to express ourselves.

Things will get better. My mother and I couldn't stand each other for a long time and I went to live with my grandmother as soon as I turned 18. Of course that didn't help the mom relationship at all for a while, but I had to get away from her. We get along much better now that we don't live under the same roof. We just aren't compatible house-mates and we both know it. She decided to accept me and my choices, and I decided to respect her views and appreciate that she only ever wanted the best for me. The same may happen for you and your family, if they're willing to accept the fact that you are your own person and you're willing to accept that they only want to protect you. Even when they start preaching about hell and the consequences of not having Christian friends, they're only trying to protect you according to their own beliefs. The complication there is I've known a lot of Christian families to disown their own kids for things that go against the bible, and I only hope for your sake that it doesn't happen to you. But even if it does, take heart in the fact that you have friends who love and accept you for who you are, and that there are places for you. You're not a freak, and you're certainly not rebellious in my book. As long as you're ok in your own book, you'll do just fine

I can relate to you on a lot of these points, but I wouldn't say you're rebellious. You just don't agree with your parent's viewpoints and you're discovering who you are. I think you would be rebellious if you weren't handeling it well and started doing things you know will piss off your parents exclusively for that purpose. But it sounds like you spend a lot of time at home instead of running around and wreaking havoc in your town, so I don't think you'd really fit the category of 'rebellious'.
And no, you're not being stupid. It's brave of you to not lie to yourself about who you are, what you feel, and what you believe. (:

The gay thing is probably a game-breaker for them. Can't do much about that. The rest could be attitude. You can follow all the rules, but it's how you _act_ that pisses off some people.

ALSO..

You say you're the youngest? How many older brothers do you have? The more older brothers you have by the same mother, the statistically more likely you'll be gay. I forget by what percentage it was. It's one of those epigenetic things about the conditions of the womb and such.

ANYWAY... just thought I'd add that.