you know, after all, internet's the only place where real life losers (cheerful losers, negative losers, whatever) get to finally express themselves and relieve all of their anger and frustration (or their care and affection, in the case of good peeps). its not about society, its about the very human nature, what people finds relief on. being a jerk, attacking anybody and/or everything. thinking they have the higher moral ground and all? perhaps, most likely. you cannot escape your own ego anyways: you understand the world and universe around you through it. so in the end of the day, after 'so much shit' you went through at work or in school or whatever, hey, telling a random someone they "look awful" or "go kill yourself" is, actually, relieving. call it a shit thing to do but hey- people copes with their own issues the way they want to. namely being an ass online, or consuming pornography, or smoking, or anything.
of course after the deed is done and the person they attacked so much is dead its like "damn, seems like we went a bit too far" lol, but, uhm, its also the person's fault for not dealing with all of the harrassment in a proper way- i was bullied myself (not that much though) and i went along with it as most as i could, and that didnt turn me into no mass shooter or person who plain hates society (im against everything but because of more mental reasons ). and hell, even in here on the web ive received plenty of shit too, lots of people who has told me to end myself and to stop trying. yet im still here, not victorious in any way, but fuck, i wouldnt let them get under my skin, you know.
granted, theyre not millions of random anonymous fuckers who attack me for no good reason but, again, especially if youre well known you need to develop a good way to deal with both the positive and negative attention. say, as an example, that chick who sold her tub water online, hasnt killed herself and we're both aware she most likely receives plenty of hate for the shit she's doing, too!
im not saying it is either. im just saying its an understandable thing to do from whatever frustrated loser there is out there. i mean, what easier way to feel better yourself than to make someone else feel worse. depending of course of who you are and how you cope with life.
anonymity, naivete, youth and overall just plain sadistic fun at the suffering of others I mainly keep my hateful comments on a certain message board though, anything posted there is not taken seriously most of the time and when it does like, dud, you don't even know who posted that, it could've been a dinosaur sketti slobbering neckbeard mommy's basement dweller. hateful comments on twitter where you can directly screech at them aren't really my taste because if the person read and genuinely would feel upset over my post i'd just feel bad
Hate comments such as just criticizing someone, because you don't like them are wrong. If there is a reason why you don't like them, for example, they abuse animals, then sure you can totally go off. Even though, yes they can change...but still.
Of course. Regular criticism is normal. Trust me, they can be harsh, but that's still not cyber bullying. Maybe you think someone should dress in a more respectful manner or maybe you criticize their life choices if they are acting recklessly. Even I question Trump's decisions. Trust me, I often do. Lol. However, I don't leave him hate comments or anything.
While I don't doubt that, I know some people myself that troll online just for entertainment's sake but are nice people otherwise. But that's a huge difference, as cyberbullying and trolling (be it maliciously or humorously) are two very different things.
It is heartbreaking how many people use the anonimity of the internet as a shield to do stuff they would never do in real life. Scary how humans can be, right?
It is also heartbreaking how many people that are alone, lonely, in need of support and broken seek that comprehension and acceptance in social media to find a lot of hate that drowns them deeper in depression.
I know, it's horrible. Sulli was lonely and dealing with a lot in her life. The comments seemed to bother her so much, because she was already sad. I find it strange that some of the people here don't understand that. They keep saying stuff like, "Who would kill themselves over hate comments?" *Sigh*
It really is. People that can't see pass the comments and think she committed suicide because she didn't grow a thick skin should think twice before commenting. Or grow some empathy.
Brains, humans and their minds etc they're complex. The way they work and the way external stuff influentiates them is different for everybody. You can't just say "wow she should have learn to stop caring". It makes you part of the problem.
True. It seems that majority of these people have already shut down in some shape or form. Humanity is becoming more and more like this. More cold with less empathy and yes, it is the cause of the problem. I wrote it as "due to hate comments", because it says that in the news, but I don't mean literally just hate comments only.
I think the reason is that the internet makes it incredibly easy for people to make their opinions heard and combined with the right to freedom of speech then you happen to have a lot of people abusing the power of the internet.
Except that those people don't understand how freedom of speech works. It's regulated by laws and private companies so when you voice your opinions on a social platform you HAVE TO keep it within the law and make sure it is also within said platform's Terms of Service.
All freedoms come with a responsibility, too. That is often forgotten.
this. also, insults are NOT protected under 'freedom of speech'. insults are not needed to deliver a point of view or an idea. and nobody is required to listen to insults. so yes certainly hateful comments can be removed by law.
thicker skin? there's block/ignore and do not feed. you can't do that in real life (block), so just deal with it. with cyber bulling they are literally words on a screen. once you let the words in, you're basically done for, with any bullying. and keep in mind, to some folks words can be offensive, to others not so much. and we should factor in trigger words as well as sensitive folks. this is life, people bully, or some are so sensitive that they assume it's bullying, but honesty it's just one more word overly used. like racist, bigot, love, hate... people call others bullies when they don't agree with what they are saying, they post/share things that contradict what they assume to be right, etc.
I wish it was easy to have thicker skin for some people. I got used to being verbally abused by my mom, but it causes a lot of phycological problems for me such as self hate and depression. I used to feel horrible about myself and other people calling me ugly sort of confirmed how I felt. Now I don't even care anymore, but to stop caring can be good or bad depending on how it's handled. It's easier to become cold and bury your emotions or pretend to be happy. It's really not just the words that bother you, but if a certain situation comes up in real life and you all of a sudden need support...seeing hateful comments really makes you feel even worse.
It's one thing to talk bad about the person, but to talk about their family too? To criticize you left and right is horrible. I often wonder how sad celebrities must be. Especially seeing them get plastic surgery.People are different from one another. Some take their own life from having a break up, some people don't. I don't see it as anyone being weaker than the other, because it's not weakness. We all look for an escape. I agree that some have become overly sensitive for no reason since there will always be someone who doesn't agree with you. I know a lot of people won't agree with me and that's fine.
most plastic surgeries are business decisions. and yes i agree it is sad. (though i also understand that the average viewer prefers to watch a young man run after 'the bad guys' than a grandfather... the former looks more 'visually pleasing' or whatever, so as actors age, they have less roles available to them.) though i think wrinkles can make some faces look more handsome. it depends.
Well, sometimes it's the agency who thinks that the person should get plastic surgery. Sometimes it's just the person who wants to look younger. Majority of them get Botox, but I noticed a lot of people often say that they hate their nose (me included) and want to change it. I would think of plastic surgery to change my whole face as much as I could, but it's not like I could get that much money. Even if I could, I'm glad that I didn't do it out of self hate. I'm glad that I don't listen to those crap comments anymore or people randomly sending me a note with a long stream of course words and insults. I'm glad for the block feature, but besides that, I'm thankful for waking up. My mental health was much worse years ago.
yes, verbal abuse is bad, there is therapy and not wanting to be a victim and get help. it can take awhile, but people can overcome the abuse. one either lets themselves be bothered by it, or use it as a learning tool so, in the future, words (text/spoken) have little to no meaning. you must train your mind to be like this, it can transpire, just takes time.
people attack people's family either verbal/physical, there's some unspoken rule, but people do that. the worst is political attacks. people enjoyed when trump's family was bullied/threatened, but it's still wrong, yet people cheer it on. so no this type of behavior isn't right, but people do this regardless. they been bullies and thugs long before anything else. the battlefield, sporting events, politics talking to one another, etc.
No, it's not about anyone being "too good for this world". Why do you assume that? Also, even if someone tried to reach out...same old same, "Oh just get over it. At least it was just verbal abuse. Other people have it worse." Yes, other people have it worse. However, any form of abuse is bad. Any form of bullying is bad. What I'm trying to understand is, why are people so cold? Is that how you cope with life? Weed out the prey and only have predators left?
Yes, I know it's really bad. I'm not a fan of trump, but at least I don't talk bad about him or his family. Thank you for the advice about therapy and what not. You're right, I hope that more people can learn to use the hateful words as something to learn from. Soon words will only be words with nothing hurtful attached to them.
It's not just mean comments that would cause someone to take their life. Why does everyone assume it's only just the comments? Maybe people have other problems in their life and rude comments add on to that?
i can hazard a guess? money issues, trust issues, mental health issues, physical health issues, sleeplessness, overwork, not gettung enough rest, having nobody to confide in, nobody who truly cares about them, ...the list can go on
yet more issues (could be) racism, sexism, homophobia....