Shopping or video games aren't very good date ideas. The point isn't to do what one party wants, it's to find a mutually fun activity wherein both people can get to know each other. Every date I've been on always involved making plans we both like. And then when you've been going out for a long time, eventually date night consists of wearing sweatpants, watching netflix and fighting over who has to make dinner .
Well,in my first date,we spent all the day playing RPG's,then he fell asleep over my lap.I freaked out and called his mom. " Hehe,nice way to sleep,son.I'm sure you are enjoying it...huhu.." "THIS ISN'T FUNNY!!!HELP ME HERE!!" "Nah....why?here,take your DS!You can play until he wakes up... or you can sleep beside him...."
Fine,I played for 3 minutes,but the battery was too low.*bip*Play time was over. I didn't wake him up,but I think he is a somnambulant.He took the RPG game's king figure and sayed(with the eyes closed): "See?This guy is awsome." And he hugged me.He then released me and layed on the floor, continuing to sleep quietly. I went to the door to get out ... but ... HIS MOTHER LOCKED THE DOOR!!!!!
Wow going shopping and looking at designer clothes all day?! *sigh* I feel like I'm w/ my girly friends. i wonder why i am friens w/ them and when I DID had a boyfriend I was the one that wanted to play video games. i think he didn't really...liked or cared about that... And I TOTALLY agree w/ you. Girls should do things that the guys want to do on a date. i'm such a tomboy oh well who cares
Dates are sipposed to be shared expeirences not just something HE or SHE wants to do..they are supposed to be something BOTH parties agree on...it's no wonder dating has become hard and complicated thing because whether its the guy or the girl, most people cant stop being selfish and putting their wants first. so you cant really blame a certain sex for any behavior.
I'm a female. If a man took me to a 'romantic dinner' or a chick flick he wouldn't see a second date.
And regardless of you being a girl I'm still offended that you seem to believe that all girls like that kind of shit. Or at least that's how I read it whether you meant it or not... In all serious I have NEVER met a girl in my life who wants to do that kind of shit with their boyfriend.
If I go on a date with a boy it would be to to a bar, or an art museum, or the comic book shop, or cuddling stark naked while watching old SF movies, or reading pulp SF, or playing RPGS, or well DOING ANYTHING but what you mentioned.
Instead of a romantic dinner or a movie, I'd rather go on a date with a little more creativity.
Here's something BETTER-- Find something you both find interesting and make a date around that? Yeah. That way it's fun for both. I'd be more inclined to go on a date with someone if it was more than "just lunch" and talking about the weather.
If the whole goal is find someone you want to be in a relationship with, then it makes sense to be upfront about what you want and are like to begin with. I think the problem is a lot of times guys seem to put girls they find attractive on pedestals, and they're willing to give and give and give even before getting to know them for who they actually are, which doesn't make sense to me personally, because if your constantly doing what they want to do, paying for everything, and not showing them the kind of person you are, then it won't matter if they like you, because it's not really you, not to mention you'll be in an unhappy give and give relationship(Probably broke too). So yes, I agree with you. A relationship is about give and take, it's as much about us trying to make that person happy as it is them trying to make us happy, obviously someone who isn't willing to do what you want to do, or pay for some of the dates, isn't the type of person you should be in a relationship with.
My best date was spending hours in a quiet coffee shop while playing chess together. A nice thing with chess was that we were able to hold many interesting conversations while in the game.
I went to the movies with her once. (We watched Revenge of the Sith.) It was not bad, but I found it rather boring. The fact that the movie started pretty late did not help; by the time the movie ended, we were half-asleep.
Just going out together while walking and taking bus ride to explore different parts of the city for hours was pretty fun as well. With walking and bus riding, you get to notice details that are typically ignored while driving.
YTcyberpunkFeatured By OwnerJan 24, 2013Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I seriously never understood why some girls drag their boyfriends to go shopping with them. Nor why some of them are so picky about being given material stuff. To me, a great date is seeing an action/sci-fi flick, going for a long walk through town, and eating at a cheap pizza place. Then again, this could be why I keep attracting losers.
My man is always trying to drag me out to dinner, or get me to go shopping with him. I'm thrifty, and I don't like to spend money on non-permanent things, like clothes and jewelry. It is funny, really, because I've played video games for years, and am proficient in photoshop and fight. It's always, in the past, hurt my relationships that I'm too much like a guy. This one likes it though. :3
ZeldaFREAK1432Featured By OwnerJan 24, 2013Hobbyist Traditional Artist
... ._. I'm a GUY and I would SOOOO much rather go see a romantic movie and go to a romantic dinner instead of playing video games, playing video games isn't a date either. Have you ever thought there were guys who liked seeing your best girl in pretty clothes, going to a movie, or going to a nice dinner? No. But I'm one of them.
Umm as a guy speaking, Playing video games would be a crap date. That's the stuff you do with your SO at home when yer bored. If you're going out on a date, it should be, A. away from home. B. something you can't DO at home, or don't do at home.
Doesn't have to be a dinner, but a boat ride would be nice.
Absolutely. I would Play Video games on a date, rather than go to a fancy dinner. //shot. I've been on a dew dates here and there, and we always do something we both like. Once, we went stargazing, his idea, but I loved it. xD Maybe a couple like that should take turns? Who knows?
I agree. Never had a date, not allowed to have one before I graduate from college, but I have heard from my friends what they have been doing on their dates/have been planning to do on their dates. None of the plans really sound fun for the boy; shopping, a hyper-romantic movie, etc. Luckily, I am a female gamer, and failed as a girl in some points, so that might help me with dates when I ever get one. ;D
With so many heartaches I had, I feel like by the time I'm actually gonna get a date, I might be grumpy or indifferent enough to just refuse silly things I wouldn't wanna do. Girl: "Buy me that dress or something" Me: "...No." I always thought I was one of those "Nice guys", and maybe I was to some extent, but lately I've realized how dumb that is, and enforcing the more asshole part of me, the one that has a backbone.
If the girl is just right, with the right attitude towards that, it might end up like hanging out with a best friend, which, in theory, shouldn't be that bad.
I agree entirely. I mean, my 'ideal' date is basically just cuddling with my fiance. Maybe watching Eureka (I've got him hooked on that now), or playing Portal, or something.
I mean, it's about the time you spend together.
Now if you're recently married (or going to be, or even, you know, not.), and you're going to the mall for lace, that's another thing. That's something he probably WILL enjoy seeing you try on. (lolplease ladies, don't kill me)
And some guys like fancy dinners.
But a date should be something you both agree on, that you'll both enjoy, and you're not going to bicker about who pays the bill. (Just go dutch if it bothers you so much. And if YOU'RE not willing to chip in... Maybe you should rethink being in a relationship. I'll stop there to avoid a rant, as this is already getting pointless.)
Dates should be fun for all. c: Unless you have a stalker.