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How do you get personal?

:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2012
Recently, my friend got here and I had to play the tour guide and long story short - I just can't stand his body odor. Even worse, is when that B.O is mixed with a case of having too much of cologne on. :bleh:

He wanted to hang out again - and after putting up with him and this problem for a whole day out of friendly obligation, I decided that I didn't want to. But I don't want to hurt his feelings, so I decided not to return any calls or pick up any calls at all. Yeah, I suppose that was pretty cruel, but how else would I deal with this sticky situation?

I think I am not the only one who has trouble telling the truth especially when it is a personal matter. I can't be objective about this. If a person stinks, then that's what it is. How would anyone coat it? Gifting him a box of deodorants? :unimpressed:

So I'm just curious to know, how the hell do you get personal? Especially when it's regarding an embarrassing matter?

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:iconmisterturtle:
MisterTurtle Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2012
I suck it up and try to put it as gently as it can be without being too soft on the matter.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
Easier said than done. How would do all that? How do you go gently without being soft?

Doing it isn't as simple as thinking you can :lol:
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:iconmisterturtle:
MisterTurtle Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
I can show you how to go gentle without being soft. :horny:
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
Ahh right.
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:iconmisterturtle:
MisterTurtle Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
You knew that was coming.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2013
I knew it all along. :dead:
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:iconforeverteatime:
ForeverTeaTime Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You could somehow manipulate things so that it appears the topic comes up casually, and then after having had the opportunity to test the ground for a bit and having it found safe enough, you could go for something like 'yeah actually about that, and I find it hard to tell you this, but I am not exactly keen on the way you smell either'.
Course when the ground isn't safe you have to bug out and come up with something else... or lose touch if you really can't seem to think of anything else and can't handle it anymore. :(
The latter is quite cruel, and it is really a last resort, and it shouldn't be something you should be happy about doing: but lord knows, I think a lot of people have bugged out when a friendship became too awkward. :/
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
Yeah, I think a lot of friendships have been hurt by honesty just as much as lies. :( Some people can't handle it well. It's something that I hate doing... but meh, I chose to lose touch with him because I can't tolerate smelly people... it grosses me out. So that's the story, at the end of it.
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ali1411 Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
d0nt ignore him....tlak to him normaly and tell him the nicist way
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2012
And if he gets mad?
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ElectricHorse Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It's not your fault that he has B.O... if he gets angry then he gets angry. Rather tell him and let him be angry than leave him with his issues and have him embarrassed by other people too.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012
You have a point there. :)
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:iconmisterkhact:
MisterKhact Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2012
:iconterrycrewsplz:

BUILDING KICK
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2012
sounds ViOLENT :crying:
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:iconskullwarrior13:
skullwarrior13 Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
Just tell him straight to his face, no emotion; complete apathy.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Or I could just simply ignore him.
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:iconfolji:
Folji Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Bad body odours can be one hell of a minefield. Either the person didn't realise it and all's fair, or they're painfully aware of the fact... :paranoid:

Then again, if they are painfully aware of it they should be making some effort to try and smell nice!
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Sometimes, they just can't help it. Due to genetics and bad luck, I suppose. So I would rather not be involved in hurting someone's feelings, if it's something they really can't fix. :crying:
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:iconfolji:
Folji Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Guess some people do have that problem... though personally I can't recall really encountering any. At least not in that way!
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012
Well clearly you've never had that unfortunate experience. :dead: It sucks for them. Google it up and you'll know :innocent:
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:iconfolji:
Folji Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Googled and found out about trimethylaminuria. Does not sound nice. :saddummy:
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012
Aww, that's so sad. :hmm: Some people must have that.
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:iconfolji:
Folji Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I feel kinda bad for them now!
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2012
Oh well... there's nothing we can do. :crying:
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:iconlisareyofhope:
LisaReyOfHope Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Don't you think it would be better to tell the truth than to have him think he did something wrong or that you just didn't like him? Some people are like smokers and garlic eaters are oblivious to their own smell or bad breath. You may have been doing him a favor to tell him so he could take corrective action. .
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Bt he's a casual friend - I don't feel the need to help him/tell him about something so offensive.
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:iconlisareyofhope:
LisaReyOfHope Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Wouldn't you want to know if someone found your smell or breath offensive or would you want to go blissfully on your way and having someone think you were a little stinker?
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Well, I think I would know it, if I do have a problem. I don't believe that people are that unaware of themselves, especially about problems like this.
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:iconlisareyofhope:
LisaReyOfHope Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
The problem is, people tend to not know if their breath is bad unless they have a tooth decaying and can smell or taste it. It's kind of like cigarettes, litter box smell or houseatosis. Some are just clueless because they have become so use to it.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
Yeah, that's the major problem... when they don't know that they have a problem. :(
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GigaPipen1407 Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I usually go blunt out and say it, or be open, but stumble, pause and say "Um" a lot while I do.
If it's a personal issue, I just talk with a friend or my aunt/grandma about it.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
It's an awkward situation, for sho.
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:iconpinkishhair97:
pinkishhair97 Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm usually like Fluttershy when it comes to these things...
"Um... I'm-I'm sorry b-but... you have really bad halitosis..."
But it usually works, because they know what's wrong, but also knew that I didn't want to offend them.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012
What you said would offend them too. =p
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:iconpinkishhair97:
pinkishhair97 Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Oh, I know what I SAID would offend them. It's the fact that your acting like Fluttershy =P
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012
I wonder what Fluttershy is and she's a pony. :dead:
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:iconpinkishhair97:
pinkishhair97 Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
What? :O
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012
Fluttershy is a character in MLP.
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:iconpinkishhair97:
pinkishhair97 Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Yeah. And the most adorable thing on the earth.
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:iconworldwar-tori:
WorldWar-Tori Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2012   General Artist
You could always get personal and shower with him?

Or less creepily if a holiday or birthday is coming up gift him one of those shower kit things they sell all over the place.

Other than that, you could just say dude, you smell horribly. Or you could tell him the smell of his man perfume makes you dizzy or ill or something. Making it sound like you're flawed and suggesting if he wants to hang out he should smell differently.

Or you could just not return his calls, that works just as well.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012
I chose to not return any of his calls. ;)
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:iconcammieobscura:
CammieObscura Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
Wouldn't that have hurt his feeling more that if you had told him the truth? Or was it that you really didn't want to hang out with him again for other reasons?
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
I think I would hurt his feelings... either ways, I just can't hang out with him.
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:iconworldwar-tori:
WorldWar-Tori Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012   General Artist
eh, whatever works.
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:iconvelvetfish:
VelvetFish Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2012  Student Filmographer
"The sides of your torso smell like a 2 week old crime scene in a back-alley abortion clinic. Wear some deodorant, or i swear to god, i'll cover you in Axe and set you on fire."

That's how you get personal.
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:iconultimateridley:
UltimateRidley Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Axe? Really?
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:iconvelvetfish:
VelvetFish Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012  Student Filmographer
yeah... probably worse than the fire, imo.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2012
You would do that? :ohnoes:
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:iconvelvetfish:
VelvetFish Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012  Student Filmographer
if he's that good of a friend, and his BO is that bad, then FUCK YES.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2012
The situation is very different if he's not a good friend.. so nobody (including me) bothers to tell him.
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