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How do you get personal?

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:iconnosugarjustanger:
`nosugarjustanger Dec 8, 2012
Recently, my friend got here and I had to play the tour guide and long story short - I just can't stand his body odor. Even worse, is when that B.O is mixed with a case of having too much of cologne on. :bleh:

He wanted to hang out again - and after putting up with him and this problem for a whole day out of friendly obligation, I decided that I didn't want to. But I don't want to hurt his feelings, so I decided not to return any calls or pick up any calls at all. Yeah, I suppose that was pretty cruel, but how else would I deal with this sticky situation?

I think I am not the only one who has trouble telling the truth especially when it is a personal matter. I can't be objective about this. If a person stinks, then that's what it is. How would anyone coat it? Gifting him a box of deodorants? :unimpressed:

So I'm just curious to know, how the hell do you get personal? Especially when it's regarding an embarrassing matter?

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:iconmisterturtle:
~MisterTurtle Dec 30, 2012
I suck it up and try to put it as gently as it can be without being too soft on the matter.
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:iconnosugarjustanger:
`nosugarjustanger Dec 31, 2012
Easier said than done. How would do all that? How do you go gently without being soft?

Doing it isn't as simple as thinking you can :lol:
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~MisterTurtle Dec 31, 2012
I can show you how to go gentle without being soft. :horny:
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`nosugarjustanger Dec 31, 2012
Ahh right.
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:iconmisterturtle:
~MisterTurtle Dec 31, 2012
You knew that was coming.
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`nosugarjustanger Jan 1, 2013
I knew it all along. :dead:
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:iconforeverteatime:
~ForeverTeaTime Dec 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You could somehow manipulate things so that it appears the topic comes up casually, and then after having had the opportunity to test the ground for a bit and having it found safe enough, you could go for something like 'yeah actually about that, and I find it hard to tell you this, but I am not exactly keen on the way you smell either'.
Course when the ground isn't safe you have to bug out and come up with something else... or lose touch if you really can't seem to think of anything else and can't handle it anymore. :(
The latter is quite cruel, and it is really a last resort, and it shouldn't be something you should be happy about doing: but lord knows, I think a lot of people have bugged out when a friendship became too awkward. :/
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`nosugarjustanger Dec 31, 2012
Yeah, I think a lot of friendships have been hurt by honesty just as much as lies. :( Some people can't handle it well. It's something that I hate doing... but meh, I chose to lose touch with him because I can't tolerate smelly people... it grosses me out. So that's the story, at the end of it.
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~ali1411 Dec 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
d0nt ignore him....tlak to him normaly and tell him the nicist way
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`nosugarjustanger Dec 26, 2012
And if he gets mad?
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