You feel the pressure at 23?? I think it's better to wait until you find the right person, rather than end up like me, divorced at 31. After all, "the rest of your life" could mean a long, looooong time...
Hah. Just a little. Not a whole lot. I am more relieved than anything... I don't think I'm at the age where I want to be engaged or married, but I do want to be in a serious relationship like I was for the last few years.
But I want it with the right person, too. That's not easy. I don't want another break up.
I'm engaged, but I've been engaged for like 3 years lol. However a lot of my friends from high school (I'm graduating college in May) are already married and/or having babies. I constantly have people asking me when I'm going to have children or telling me I should be having children and I'm only 21! In the end, it doesn't matter what people around you are doing or what they say. You don't need to be in a rush to take steps in your life you're not ready for. Take your time, enjoy yourself. You don't need to feel like you are lagging behind. Your time will come. In response to your "why you need a boyfriend" thats all nice and dandy but serious relationships are in no that simple. I love my fiance with all my heart and don't want to be with anyone else, but he is also the one who drives me crazy the most. But he is also the one who makes me the most happy. Its the guy who sees you at your worst and still wants to be with you that's the right one. He'll probably show up when you least expect it.
Well, I had a couple of serious relationships in my life lasting over a couple of years... so I do know what's at stake when it comes to a committed relationship. I am just hoping that I'll meet someone who loves me 100%, that i can love 100% too.
creykFeatured By OwnerNov 30, 2012Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Actually, the sooner you get married, the bigger the chance for a divorce. Statistics say, people who get together in their thirties only have 20% of getting a divorce, for people in their 40 only 5%. I guess you know that in their 20s it's 50%
I think most people who rush to get married don't know each other enough to make that decision... I'd rather be damn sure of the man I'm spending "the rest of my life with" as I don't like to think of me being a divorced woman one day.
I'm hoping to get married around 28-29, if not 30-31.
I am 20 and there has been 4 engagements from my friends this year.
Kinda makes you think on one hand whether are they naive / foolish to rush in so fast, and on another hand envious of such an union. Especially young couples who are determined to defy all odds and stick together.
"Do I have such courage in me to do the same?" "Can I put my faith in love to that extent?" "Will I be able to give up my other dreams?" "Will we be able to ride the waves together?"
I don't know. I guess I have not fallen that deep in love yet.
And there's the quote..."Love is blind. And marriage restores its sight."~~
21, never even get or gave a kiss or a mate, and I am cool. Things just dont get just like that, I mean everybody meets someone at the end but u have to be sure if u wanna get married to someone, I mean is the person u r going to see an live with all your life (unless u get divorced). Dont rush, enjoy yur life and friends or get some who arent hitched, and youll eventually find someone. Just dont feel presure for that.
I'm 25 and single and I don't give a two hoots about marriage.
That's the same with me, though with me those friends are acquaintances that were studying on the same Photography and graphic design course as me. Some of them are younger than me by 1-2 of years and they're engaged set to marry.
No, but then again I'm only 18. Though in a few years time, if things work out between my boyfriend and I, I could be one of the people that get married early. I admit, I never intended to settle early, mid 20's is my preferred marriage age, but with my current boyfriends whole no sex before marriage thing... I really don't have a choice, as such.
Well, not just for the sex, but I admit that it will come into it. I know it shouldn't, but the fact that his actions are influenced by his God in such a way means that it has to come into it... Honestly, I don't agree with the whole virgin at marriage thing. Of course, with my current boyfriend, I don't have a choice. I'll try not to marry for the wrong reasons, but I do fear that I might. That's a while off though, I refuse to marry while I'm still in university (2 more years).
Yes, it is a "bad investment" in terms of just the bedroom. The taster I have received so far has been... mediocre, at best. Worse, he knows he's not the best there. That might be because of inexperience... That is not why I'm with him, of course.
You guys have such different ideals... it's hard for me to understand, unless he's like a God or something, worth risking good sex for.
You'd always have reasons why he'd be bad in bed due to his inexperience and all that, and I don't know - 2 years is a long time. A lot of things can change, but eh, I hope you're happy with your decisions.
I don't even understand why we can't have sex before getting married, but that's his choice. I don't really get a say in that matter, which can get rather annoying at times... I suppose I can sacrifice it because I don't know what I'm sacrificing, since I'm still a virgin.
Yeah, 2 years is a long time. I'll see what happens, I might not have to make the choice at all. Practice should improve his... other skills in the meantime.