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Married with Children.

:iconnosugarjustanger:
nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2012
I discovered two of my friends who recently got married to their loved ones, and one of the couples has a child coming their way. :crying: Another pair just got engaged as well.

I am only 23. But people (friends) around me are getting hitched :o (And I am not.)

I feel the pressure. Sorta. And I feel relief, as well. I don't know how to describe this. :grump:

Is anyone going through what I am going through? :slow:
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transe Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012   General Artist
You feel the pressure at 23?? :O
I think it's better to wait until you find the right person, rather than end up like me, divorced at 31. After all, "the rest of your life" could mean a long, looooong time... :lonely:
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Hah. Just a little. Not a whole lot. I am more relieved than anything... I don't think I'm at the age where I want to be engaged or married, but I do want to be in a serious relationship like I was for the last few years.

But I want it with the right person, too. That's not easy. I don't want another break up. :(
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transe Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012   General Artist
You're lucky is your parents don't pressure you. You should hear mine! lol
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
lol, I'm 23, my parents aren't gonna pressure me! :lol:

But I am sure when I approach 26-27, they might. :ninja:
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Tracy-Williams Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I have been with my husband since I was 17, I am now 29. It took us 10 years before we got married, we wanted to be sure it was a for life thing :D

Your special someone is out there <3
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Woah, that's insane! 29 years old and already over a decade together. :clap:

He is out there. I know it. :hug:
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Tracy-Williams Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah it is insane LOL sometimes there is a fine line between love and hate hahaha. He is my best friend though.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Haha. Well, that's the beauty of relationships. Sometimes, it's so easy to hate on the person but when the hate stops, love can begin and is even stronger. :lol:
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Tracy-Williams Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
So very true :D
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
:highfive:
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cerebellaArt Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm engaged, but I've been engaged for like 3 years lol. However a lot of my friends from high school (I'm graduating college in May) are already married and/or having babies. I constantly have people asking me when I'm going to have children or telling me I should be having children and I'm only 21!
In the end, it doesn't matter what people around you are doing or what they say. You don't need to be in a rush to take steps in your life you're not ready for. Take your time, enjoy yourself. You don't need to feel like you are lagging behind. Your time will come.
In response to your "why you need a boyfriend" thats all nice and dandy but serious relationships are in no that simple. I love my fiance with all my heart and don't want to be with anyone else, but he is also the one who drives me crazy the most. But he is also the one who makes me the most happy. Its the guy who sees you at your worst and still wants to be with you that's the right one. He'll probably show up when you least expect it.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Well, I had a couple of serious relationships in my life lasting over a couple of years... so I do know what's at stake when it comes to a committed relationship. I am just hoping that I'll meet someone who loves me 100%, that i can love 100% too.
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creyk Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Actually, the sooner you get married, the bigger the chance for a divorce.
Statistics say, people who get together in their thirties only have 20% of getting a divorce, for people in their 40 only 5%.
I guess you know that in their 20s it's 50%
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Thank you for informing me. :lol:

I think most people who rush to get married don't know each other enough to make that decision... I'd rather be damn sure of the man I'm spending "the rest of my life with" as I don't like to think of me being a divorced woman one day. :no:

I'm hoping to get married around 28-29, if not 30-31. :)
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creyk Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
You're so welcome dearie :love:

Partly that, and also people change. And then they don't want to grow together but want the other to be something they just have in their minds...:shrug:

That's a good time! And plenty of time until then, to meet the right one^^
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Yep. I heard that most people are not done growing when it comes to their mindset before they get to their late 20's, so I suppose I have a few years to go. :lol:

Hmm, yes, I am excited to know who's my Mr. Right will be! ;)
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creyk Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:nod:
Growth is continual, if you think about it.

Oh, I know the answer to that:nod:
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SoNotCoolDude Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012
I am 20 and there has been 4 engagements from my friends this year.

Kinda makes you think on one hand whether are they naive / foolish to rush in so fast, and on another hand envious of such an union. Especially young couples who are determined to defy all odds and stick together.

"Do I have such courage in me to do the same?"
"Can I put my faith in love to that extent?"
"Will I be able to give up my other dreams?"
"Will we be able to ride the waves together?"


I don't know. I guess I have not fallen that deep in love yet.


And there's the quote..."Love is blind. And marriage restores its sight."~~
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
Wow, your friends marry at such an early age :o

Well, at least you're wise enough not to rush into things you're unsure of. Better to be safe than sorry. :hmm:
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Chi77y Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist Interface Designer
This belongs in your journal.

Oh shit, please don't ban me.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012
I have not banned anyone ;)
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Chi77y Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist Interface Designer
:iconworshipplz: you are a good person
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saxeh Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
For me , no . but for you , I guess thats the life irony .
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012
True, but I feel like I've tried my hardest..
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CrimzonLogic Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student General Artist
I don't really get pressure to get hitched. I don't think I want to get married, actually.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
Time will tell..
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ByrnethAu Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
No worries. There will be another wave of this in the 30's.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
Hahaha, I can imagine that. :lol:
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Mkemaster Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
No. :iconthefonzplz:
I'm 18, single and most of my friends are single haha.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
You can all hump each other now. :B
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Mkemaster Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
haha XD swwy
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Zero587 Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
22, and never once been with anyone in all my years. I just never found a reason because i just enjoy being by myself. :)
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
What is so fun about being you?
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Zero587 Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
Hm. I havent the slightest clue since everyone has their perspectives on how they see themselves.
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Princess-Amy Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
I'm 35 and unmarried!! I do wish i could get pregnant though :( silly body not letting me :(
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
:(

Is there any alternative ways?
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Princess-Amy Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
nopes :(
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fIOMERA Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
21, never even get or gave a kiss or a mate, and I am cool. Things just dont get just like that, I mean everybody meets someone at the end but u have to be sure if u wanna get married to someone, I mean is the person u r going to see an live with all your life (unless u get divorced). Dont rush, enjoy yur life and friends or get some who arent hitched, and youll eventually find someone. Just dont feel presure for that.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
Rushing is not a good way to go about it, so I am with you. :nod:
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fIOMERA Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
good, and enjoy being single with some friends!
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012
As long as they're single :P
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fIOMERA Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
alright, that will do.
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Deadly-Tea-Party Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional General Artist
I'm 25 and single and I don't give a two hoots about marriage. :la:

That's the same with me, though with me those friends are acquaintances that were studying on the same Photography and graphic design course as me. Some of them are younger than me by 1-2 of years and they're engaged set to marry.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
Sigh. I knew how it felt like, to be excited about getting engaged. :(

Now I am turning 24 soon, and I could only sigh.
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SCDragonLady Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No, but then again I'm only 18. Though in a few years time, if things work out between my boyfriend and I, I could be one of the people that get married early. :lol: I admit, I never intended to settle early, mid 20's is my preferred marriage age, but with my current boyfriends whole no sex before marriage thing... I really don't have a choice, as such.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
You'd get married just to have sex? And you don't even know if your boyfriend is good in bed? Ohhhh such a bad investment. :stare:
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SCDragonLady Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well, not just for the sex, but I admit that it will come into it. :( I know it shouldn't, but the fact that his actions are influenced by his God in such a way means that it has to come into it...
Honestly, I don't agree with the whole virgin at marriage thing. Of course, with my current boyfriend, I don't have a choice. I'll try not to marry for the wrong reasons, but I do fear that I might. That's a while off though, I refuse to marry while I'm still in university (2 more years).

Yes, it is a "bad investment" in terms of just the bedroom. The taster I have received so far has been... mediocre, at best. Worse, he knows he's not the best there. :lol: That might be because of inexperience...
That is not why I'm with him, of course.

Well, that turned into a bit of a rant, sorry.
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nosugarjustanger Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
You guys have such different ideals... it's hard for me to understand, unless he's like a God or something, worth risking good sex for. :lol:

You'd always have reasons why he'd be bad in bed due to his inexperience and all that, and I don't know - 2 years is a long time. A lot of things can change, but eh, I hope you're happy with your decisions. :o
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SCDragonLady Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I don't even understand why we can't have sex before getting married, but that's his choice. I don't really get a say in that matter, which can get rather annoying at times... I suppose I can sacrifice it because I don't know what I'm sacrificing, since I'm still a virgin.

Yeah, 2 years is a long time. I'll see what happens, I might not have to make the choice at all. Practice should improve his... other skills in the meantime. :dummy:

Thanks, I hope I'm happy with my own choices too. :)
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morbid-angelic Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
:rofl:
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