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Tomboy or girly girl?

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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2012
Oh, gods... I spent so much time searching for the right place to ut this in because I'm just plain tired and stupid right now.

To the question of the day: Tomboy or girly girl? And yes, I mean it as a girlfriend, lover, crush, whatever romantic. Even as a friend with benefits.

This question is free to answered by anyone who is attracted to females or could imagine they'd be into the fairer sex. So, people, let me hear your thoughts! I would really be glad if you put some soul into that answer and explained why on Earth you prefer your choise.

Thank you and have a fine day! Waiting for your opinions!
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:iconvanhir:
Vanhir Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Somewhere in between, for relationships, for everything else I'm not too fussy. :shrug:
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rocket-child Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012  Student Filmographer
I'm a tomboy but I've never met a guy who prefers me over a girly girl
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012
That's a shame... Luckily I've met a few. Good luck with finding such!
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rocket-child Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012  Student Filmographer
I've always been considered 'one of the guys' so when we grew up my friends went after girly girls.

Also I don't flirt like normal girls. I use to tackle and fight with guys I liked (even friends not just romantic interests), it was my way of showing physical contact without hugging but they just thought that I was weird and that I should act like 'a normal girl' :(
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MarinRin Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, if I was a boy I would rather go with the tomboyish one because I think girly girl can be pretty "self-centered" (y'know with salon, make-ups etc)
Just if only I WAS a boy lol ^^;
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012
Yeah, that's true...
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StrawberryGumiho Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
If I were to go for another woman... I think I'd want someone who fell in the middle. Like Amber from F(X), she looks very tom-boyish, but is still stylish and girly. A good balance.

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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012
She DOES look pretty stylish...
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Operia Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I am such a tomboy that often people mistake me for an actual guy. I find it amusing :lol:
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2012
Surely :D
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Operia Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You learn to laugh when it happens all the time :giggle:
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KelvinCheng Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Tomboy's I can see being more fun for some reason, just maybe cause you can do more "guy" things together with your partner?
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Lilibodett Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconscaryfaceplz: TOMBOY.
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Princess-Amy Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
I'm a girlie girl!
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jadecharm Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2012
Both - I think a balance is just right for me in a partner.
I'd like to know that one doesn't over power the other.

Nobody is perfect but I'd like to think most people have more than one side to them.
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WizardOfUnseen Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Be what you want to be It is the only way you can be happy
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ForeverTeaTime Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Mmm, I am not sure to what extent I could feel serious attraction to another female in that way.
First of, because most of the time I find people my gender either absolutely agravating or completely dull and boring. Secondly, because I have the intention to stay with my current lover who happens to be male. (There was another secondly at first, but I decided to keep that to myself...)

My dislike for the female sex also reflects in fiction also: I almost never like a female character, ever.
However the ones that I do like, tend to go in the same direction and I tend to like them mostly because I think of them as attractive or sexy (without neccessarily feeling attracted to them personally in a sexual way).
They tend to be like this:
- They are powerful: They know what they want and they tend to get it. They don't take shit from people and don't let others walk over them. They definitely do not look up to men.
- They are feminine in appearance: Red lipstick, (dark) dresses that emphasise their nice figures and shoes with high needle heels are part of their look.
- They are very much aware of their sexuality, without being slutty. They use their sexual power to their behalf, but plug out before any real action is to take place.
However, I think my reaction to this kind of person in real life would probably be strongly negative, very possibly because they are proprably very very frustrative to be around. As I suppose most of the time they'd avoke reactions of distaste (for not agreeing with their ways), jealousy (for not being more like them, getting the attention they might get) or frustration (for being able to make them yours).

Anyway, lots of talk and social (self-)analysis, and not answering the question. So here it goes, to answer the question:
In a hypothetical situation I would prefer girliness over tomboy-isness.
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TheAwesomeFaerie Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012   Traditional Artist
I don't really fit into either category :dummy: I don't like pink, I'm not sweet or quiet, I cut my hair short and I rarely wear dresses or make up. Yet I'm not a "tomboy" either, I'm shit at sports, I hang around with other girls, I put some care into my appearance. I suppose I'm Arty/nerdy. I prefer reading to sports or shopping.
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sagethethird Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
I don't see why it has to be put in to those two specific categories. Or any category at all.

it says nothing about them personally, and nothing about how comfortable they would be with me, so it really doesn't point to any specific reason why I would or would not want to date said girl.

There are many reasons I wouldn't date many girls. All of them more often than not involve character and none of them seem to involve whether or not they are "girly" whatever one defines that as.

describing a girl as a "tomboy" IMO is a bit sexist because who's to say how a "girl" should act? if "tomboy" means acting less like the traditional passive role that has for centuries been the unfortunate stereotype of women, then I'd rather have someone who's confident and not passive so yes I'd like what you'd call a "tomboy"

but where is the line drawn? why should we analyze the merit of a woman based on how they act or dress? this says nothing about their humanity.

I'd rather date the loud obnoxious woman who donates to charity and sees me as a human being than the quiet polite girl who supports racism and intolerance.
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
Firstly, thank you for the long answer, and secondly, I agree. This question of mine is very plain and in many ways stupid, but it is meant to be answered like so. I acknowledge your points and agree on them, though.
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sagethethird Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
indeed.
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Degyfridou Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
I'm a tomboy. My mom actually has to force me to wear lip gloss/nail polish/dresses :(
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
Pretty much same for me! Don't be afraid, you're not alone ;)
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Degyfridou Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
Yesssssss :D
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saxeh Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
* girl.
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Keeper-Of-Pickles Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
A healthy mix of both.
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C-y-n-d-i Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
I like to be girly girly, but I can be a tomboy too. It depends on my mood XD But when it comes to dressing up for something fancy, I'm girly with the jewelry and makeup!
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Neiot Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
If I were to mention what I am, then I would rate as a tomboy. I have my girlish outbursts, but overall, I simply hate the thought of being girly-girlish.
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Civyx Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
I loooove tomboys.
Ive never been with nor do I think I could be with a really girly girl.
I mean I could be with a girl who looked like a girly girl but not one who acted like it.

I want someone who I can take camping who wont complain about bugs, and wont completely freak out if they cant shower for a couple days.
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
Camping? Oh I love that <3 So much fun.
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Civyx Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
I like a girl with hairy armpits and dreadlocks who doesnt wear perfume or heels
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HelloKittyNya Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I want a girly girl. I want to be the man in this relationship.
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b1ackskies Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I'm kind of in between? I like wearing makeup and dressing pretty and smelling nice but I also can be wild and messy and I curse like a sailor ._.
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B-gata Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
If I was attracted to girls I guess I'd probably go with tomboys since the definition for that seems more fun...and wouldn't most modern girls be tomboys?

Though the girls who act like anything stereotypically girly is negative--acting like it's a sin to like the color pink or enjoy dolls or dresses--would probably not be my type. But I rarely see that from adults anyway.
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Mkemaster Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
I don't like to label, I just prefer certain type of girls.
I like them tender, but not in dresses, I prefer girls in shirts and Converse shoes. :)
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catzii6 Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Student General Artist
I'm both :D
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
That's handy :D
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tdroid Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
I'd say a middleground if I had to generalize. Too much in either direction sounds bad, if that is all I can judge after. That said, in an actual situation it would depend entirely on their personality. If I meet a really awesome tomboy and we develop a relationship, I'm fine with that. Same with a girly girl.
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Engelsblau Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
I don't like how you generalize.

And duh, I was about to turn to lesbian, I think I'd like the girly girls better. :shrug:
Most tomboys I know don't seem to take much care of themselves...
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Shikooko Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012
Sorry... I hate it too but tend to do it anyways. I'm such a bad person :(
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Mkemaster Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
No judging, but girls with hairy underarms and sweaty smell? ewww no thanks I will go with girly girls.
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B-gata Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
Underarm hair and sweat is more of a human characteristic than something related to girliness, lol.
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Mkemaster Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
I just meant that girls that don't take care of their hygiene aren't really my type :iconimnottrustingyouplz:
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B-gata Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
Oh, then I agree. I prefer manly men rather than dudes with hairy pits and a sweaty smell, too.
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UltraLiThematic Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Heh. Heh. Heh.

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B-gata Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
Oh, I found a wonderful plz account on your page :iconhecryplz: . I will have to use that in the future.
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UltraLiThematic Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:icondummylaplz: :iconwelcomeplz:
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Mkemaster Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
wut? :iconnotimpressedplz:
Sarcasm?
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B-gata Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012
Just a little.
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Yangyexin Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012   Digital Artist
Neutral.
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