I've always been considered 'one of the guys' so when we grew up my friends went after girly girls.
Also I don't flirt like normal girls. I use to tackle and fight with guys I liked (even friends not just romantic interests), it was my way of showing physical contact without hugging but they just thought that I was weird and that I should act like 'a normal girl'
Mmm, I am not sure to what extent I could feel serious attraction to another female in that way. First of, because most of the time I find people my gender either absolutely agravating or completely dull and boring. Secondly, because I have the intention to stay with my current lover who happens to be male. (There was another secondly at first, but I decided to keep that to myself...)
My dislike for the female sex also reflects in fiction also: I almost never like a female character, ever. However the ones that I do like, tend to go in the same direction and I tend to like them mostly because I think of them as attractive or sexy (without neccessarily feeling attracted to them personally in a sexual way). They tend to be like this: - They are powerful: They know what they want and they tend to get it. They don't take shit from people and don't let others walk over them. They definitely do not look up to men. - They are feminine in appearance: Red lipstick, (dark) dresses that emphasise their nice figures and shoes with high needle heels are part of their look. - They are very much aware of their sexuality, without being slutty. They use their sexual power to their behalf, but plug out before any real action is to take place. However, I think my reaction to this kind of person in real life would probably be strongly negative, very possibly because they are proprably very very frustrative to be around. As I suppose most of the time they'd avoke reactions of distaste (for not agreeing with their ways), jealousy (for not being more like them, getting the attention they might get) or frustration (for being able to make them yours).
Anyway, lots of talk and social (self-)analysis, and not answering the question. So here it goes, to answer the question: In a hypothetical situation I would prefer girliness over tomboy-isness.
I don't really fit into either category I don't like pink, I'm not sweet or quiet, I cut my hair short and I rarely wear dresses or make up. Yet I'm not a "tomboy" either, I'm shit at sports, I hang around with other girls, I put some care into my appearance. I suppose I'm Arty/nerdy. I prefer reading to sports or shopping.
I don't see why it has to be put in to those two specific categories. Or any category at all.
it says nothing about them personally, and nothing about how comfortable they would be with me, so it really doesn't point to any specific reason why I would or would not want to date said girl.
There are many reasons I wouldn't date many girls. All of them more often than not involve character and none of them seem to involve whether or not they are "girly" whatever one defines that as.
describing a girl as a "tomboy" IMO is a bit sexist because who's to say how a "girl" should act? if "tomboy" means acting less like the traditional passive role that has for centuries been the unfortunate stereotype of women, then I'd rather have someone who's confident and not passive so yes I'd like what you'd call a "tomboy"
but where is the line drawn? why should we analyze the merit of a woman based on how they act or dress? this says nothing about their humanity.
I'd rather date the loud obnoxious woman who donates to charity and sees me as a human being than the quiet polite girl who supports racism and intolerance.
Firstly, thank you for the long answer, and secondly, I agree. This question of mine is very plain and in many ways stupid, but it is meant to be answered like so. I acknowledge your points and agree on them, though.
If I was attracted to girls I guess I'd probably go with tomboys since the definition for that seems more fun...and wouldn't most modern girls be tomboys?
Though the girls who act like anything stereotypically girly is negative--acting like it's a sin to like the color pink or enjoy dolls or dresses--would probably not be my type. But I rarely see that from adults anyway.
I'd say a middleground if I had to generalize. Too much in either direction sounds bad, if that is all I can judge after. That said, in an actual situation it would depend entirely on their personality. If I meet a really awesome tomboy and we develop a relationship, I'm fine with that. Same with a girly girl.