Once or twice, but normally I was the "golden child" of the family so it didn't happen often. It didn't leave that much of an effect on me so it was a fairly useless form of punishment. Once, though, I made the mistake of swearing in front of my dad. He washed my mouth out with soap. It was disgusting and has forever made me avoid using such language.
He told me many years later that he regretted doing it, though, and for my younger siblings he used different disciplinary techniques.
My mom is not a good reasoning person to ask why she spanked me. When shes really fed up with something, she really takes on other people? Her anger is absolute and lasts for hours. So I can't tell if I really did something wrong, or shes just unreasonbly mad. Occasionally if shes really angry, she's just slaps me once.
When we were younger, she was even worse with the spanking. She once hit my brother with a pool stick on the leg.
Most of time, its really really loud yelling to the point of insanity. You wonder how my dad and I take it everytime she is mad.
It was effective.. I'm a goody toe shoes now, but it made me fear my mother. I couldn't even go to her when had problems at school or when I felt depressed an suicidal. It pushed me to the verge of almost hating her cause I didn't understand why she had to hit me half the time. Thankfully now.. not scared of her. I still hold anger towards ger, but we get along other wise... Jus hard to deal with when your a kid. People asking you if you love your mom and you can't even say yes.
I was spanked by my parents multiple times when I was a child. They would buy canes to hit me, sometimes use a ruler or a comb. Due to my butthurt nature, I always snarled hurtful things in return and threatened to do many stupid things. Now I'm older, I think I definitely deserved it, and I behaved stupidly. Still, all that spanking has made me a rough and violent sort of person.
No, I wasn't spanked at all, but my mom did smacked me on my butt once and it was just meant as a shock, I think, cuz it wasn't painful. It was just to get me to snap out of it when I was so stubborn and did stupid things. But other than that, they only gave me tense reminders when they didn't like what I said or whatever. I love me parents.
I got spanked all the time when I was in elementary school/junior high school. If I don't get straight As in school, I get a certain amount of spanks for every grade that is not an A. When I get an A-, I usually get scolded. When I get a B+, I might be lucky and just get a scolding instead.
I'm the oldest in my family and my dad doesn't like how his first child wasn't a boy, so whenever my younger brother does something wrong, my dad hits/spanks me because it was suppose to be my responsibility to keep my little brother under control.
If I talk too much, cry too much, raise my voice, or anything annoying, I get spanked.
When I get spanked, I have to lay down, my face towards the pillow, and my dad takes out the belt. Sometimes he hits my thighs instead if he thinks he's done enough on my butt.
Nah, he's not retarded, I think most children of Asian immigrants are disciplined that way.
The funny thing is now I'm somewhat afraid to talk and go outside and interact with people (minus my friends, school mates, etc.) and my dad is calling me a useless child with a mental illness because he doesn't see me talking a lot. Sometimes I get in trouble for that.
I never got spanked when I was a kid, and I turned out fine. But my Dad WAS spanked as a kid, and he turned out fine. Then again I've seen the oposate happen. Spanking your child is not abuse in my opinion. But I think it's naive to assume that spanking's a sure fire way to raise your children. You need to find a balance.
Yeah, I used to get a 'smacked bottom' when I was younger for being bad. It made me terrified of my dad, but I was too young to remember really. Now though, he hates talking about it and I feel ashamed that he used to do it. It's made me somewhat intolerant of bratty kids ( I think..)
I was spanked up until I was 18 years old but I wouldn't exactly call the last years "spankings" so much as beatings. I think that spanking CAN be effective if the adults are consistent and justified in what they're punishing for. After my parents started beating me for unjustified reasons they didn't work at all and just made me very resentful and scared.
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I was spanked as a kid, yes. I was not terribly bothered by it; your bum is padded, so it's not at all the same as being hit on the face or anywhere else on your body.
That being said, I don't know that spanking, or any of my parents' punishments, was very effective. My parents were not very consistent with what actions would and would not lead to punishment, so it didn't work out so well.
Yes, and I think it was effective. Probably because I was very young when that happened and I understood that whatever it was it was bad. All I know is that spanking no longer works for children 3 and up, without an explanation and after 5, spanking doesn't work at all. I would spank my children, if I have any, but I wouldn't use a belt or a ruler.
I did the the occasional smack when I was naughty. Sure I hated it like Hell and thought my mother was "bad" for doing something so mean. But now that I'm older I don't care. I can only recall one instance when I was hit a lot more times than is justified, every other time I'm sure I deserved it and after each one it kept me on good tracks for a while afterwards, so it works but like everything it wears off over time and needs refreshing
But the main punishment I and my brothers got was having our favourite toys taken away or smashed...Oh how I miss my light-up auto-rolling flashing ball that was tragically smashed to bits in the mall because I got into a fight with my brother
you raise an interesting point. I vividly remember the last spanking I got. I remember not crying and thinking to myself, "pfffffffft, that was nuthin!" He never spanked me again. I wonder if he picked up on that vibe. interesting.....