Why are people against gay marriage?


xxdabombxx's avatar
I honestly don't get it. *sighs*
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Airthir's avatar
It's not against "gay marriage" it's against gay rights. It's like outlawing sodomy.
FalseShepherd's avatar
It's just another excuse to hate people, with no real valid reasoning behind it, IMO. I don't even believe in marriage anyway - about 20k upward for some person to ask you a few questions about the wed-to-be and vice versa before giving you permission to kiss the bride to get a silly piece of paper to 'officially certify' that the newly-weds love each other, even (Or whomever) though some people don't marry for love. Arranged marriages for example, or even sham-marriages.

I mean, marry someone to show them you love them? Fine. Have a special day to celebrate joining with your partner and splash out on the planning/event? That is fine too. But I personally don't want or need the approval of some religious traditional event that debatably has no bearing/influence on how the two people last together and has no solid proof of being anything other than one persons idea that spread like wild fire and so many people decided to believe it and teach of it like its Maths. It's no different to kids and the tooth fairy, or Father Christmas in my eyes.
HelloAmerica's avatar
that city was destroyed 4 other reasons like trying 2 rape angels NOT because of gay people
sana24's avatar
I believe this is because the term "marriage" is originally a religious thing as the couple is married before God. Although gay marriage doesn't bother me one bit, I suppose I can understand how some might find that religiously offensive.

Perhaps we could just change the name of gay marriage, yet offer the same rights as any other marriage?
Airthir's avatar
Marriage is a legal institution. God and religious issues really have nothing to do with the federal and state courts of law.

As for changing the name...no. There are "civil unions" available, but that, frankly, is offensive. Why shouldn't gay people have all the rights of heterosexual people, including the right to call their union a marriage? I saw a protest sign reading "I didn't ask her to civil union me" and I think that sums it up quite nicely.
cake-fiend's avatar
Marriage isn't really originally anything. We don't even know when it started, and it has no single origin.
i-stamp's avatar
There's some law that prevents us from doing that. Specifically the separate but equal clause made to end segregation. Just like you couldn't have a black fountain and a white fountain, you can't have gay marriage and straight marriage be two separate but equal things.
Now you could get rid of the word marriage all together and call them all civil unions as they have in other countries. But I think that's unnecessary for two reasons. We already have civil unions which are something else entirely and there are both religions and non religious institutions that preform marriage, who want to preform gay marriages, and can't just because others don't like it. And that shouldn't be others call.
sana24's avatar
Damn! There really does seem to be no easy solution to this... Thanks for telling me, I had no idea such laws existed
chickensandsheep's avatar
A lot of people just don't understand gays. I read online animals can be gay too - as many as 1 in 10 rams (male sheep) prefer another ram vs a ewe (female sheep)
Vanhir's avatar
I don't blame them, rams are much hornier. :iconrimshotplz:
chickensandsheep's avatar
pretty much all animals are. -_____-
Vanhir's avatar
You damn well better have got that joke. :stare:
Justyne's avatar
This, to a huge extend, is a semantic debate.

There are lots of people who see "marriage" as a religious term rather than a secular one. As such, they would define marriage as the union between a man and a woman. If you take this point of view a union between two women doesn't make sense.

Amusingly, a lot of the people who take this view of "marriage" a perfectly fine with homosexual people having "civil unions" or something else that gives them the same or very similar rights with a different label.

A lot of people who take this view see marriage as institution created for the raising of children. While this is not historically accurate or universally agreed, it's not an absurd viewpoint either. At this point the debate shifts to whether homosexual or bisexual people would be fit parents. If you see homosexuality as immoral... well, at that point you'd have to take offense as a homosexual couple raising a child would result in the child being exposed to undesirable behavior.

If you reduce marriage down to what it really means in legal terms, tax benefits, regulating inheritance etc you'll find the number of people against "gay marriage" is suddenly a lot lower.

Huge part of this debate seems to be people not getting the separation of church and state into their head.

note: this is not my personal view. Just trying to explain.
Thordis-System's avatar
because people are judgemental and stupid.
SGT-Conley's avatar
Ignorance, xenophobia, and blind unquestioning faith (and that sadly includes atheists).

To be brief: those who've been misinformed, brainwashed, and have chosen to live as troglodytes oppose racial/sexual equality.
EternalJedi's avatar
The same reason that people were against interracial marriage.
MarioLuigi96's avatar
I've got 2 reasons people may be homophobic:

1. They listen to this crappy old book written hundreds of years ago, translated countless times and blindly follow everything it says. It tells these people that 'a man cannot lay with another man' or something.

2. They may be repressing homosexual desires themselves. I learnt about it in psychology class: [link].

obviously, if you are homophobic, you would be against same sex marriages, so thta is a few reasons :)
ReptillianSP2011's avatar
1. There are atheistic homophobes.

2. It seems to ignore observations that shows that arousal is not always a indication of one's sexuality and it also ignores how emotions can alter one physiological erectile state. In many studies regarding arousal and sexual orientation, there are evidences of some degree of discordance with arousal patterns and yes even there is evidence that there is some degree of it in males.

There's a lot more than 2 reasons.
MagusTheLofty's avatar
It's basically because some old story book says that being gay is bad, and some people take this story book seriously.
d3lanoz's avatar
So first of all the bible condems it but then again so much priests these days harras children so they should kinda shut the F up.
Others just don't understand why they whould wanna.
Some more others are just homophobic.
And then the people like me that don't care and say let them do what they wanna we don't judge you for doing the things you wanna do.
der-freishutz's avatar
gay marriage is homophobic, as you are pressing hetrosexual values upon them.
"Oh a civil ceremony isnt enough, the only way to be properly married is in a church like a natural heterosexual couple"
whats wrong with a civil ceremony anyway? Would gays prefer to get married under the house of god where it clearly states that they are unnatural?
yeah nah, not good at all.
EternalJedi's avatar
A civil ceremony isn't enough, because legally, a civil union for a homosexual couple isn't the same as a marriage for a heterosexual couple.

The issue isn't that homosexuals can't have a religious wedding, it's that homosexual couples are being denied the rights given to heterosexual couples.
der-freishutz's avatar
i dont think that a gay relationship should be the same as a straight one, as they just are not the same, they furfil different roles in society and are veiwed differently.