Yes, I agree. Although, I'll share that sometimes, I find it a tautologous situation when I'm deciding whether I'm doing something for myself or because I was influenced by something or other external factor (like my family, my culture, education, etc.). I mean, who can really tell whether you do things out of personal choice as opposed to being influenced by something else? I mean, we are what we are because we were influenced by these things but I wonder sometimes if we can all be truly true to ourselves, sans the influence.
But then again thinking that way, like I said, is tautologous and leads us in circles, haha. I've been there and I still haven't found an answer
True, that kind of thinking can lead in circles. I guess the best way to do it is to think about whether it will make you happy. If the answer for why you're doing something is "So that others will find me more attractive" then it's probably a bad idea, because it won't be a choice for you.
We are not born the way we feel we are on the inside.
People wear clothes, accessories, piercings, tattoos, get nose jobs, liposuction and so forth for various reasons. Rather it's because they were bullied and want to escape that desperately, think it will give them a better chance at finding a job, they want to feel better about themselves, they want to express who they are, they love fashion and body modification as an art, doing it as a tribute to a lost one, therapeutic reasons, trying to become something they want to strive towards, trying to return to something they have lost, or were really drunk on a Saturday night and thought a tattoo of Lady Gaga on their ass was totally cool. So I think anyone can do as they wish with their bodies, but in plastic surgery, surgeons like tattoo artists should be highly trained in what they do and you should listen to your fucking doctor if they tell you they can't give you a boob job without inducing a heart attack (Kanye West's mother died trying to get a breast reduction and ignored the doctor who told her it's not possible considering her condition).
People with good plastic surgery you could never tell. However people with bad plastic surgery gets made fun of and mocked for 'being superficial' when the way I see it people are being superficial towards their own personal choice. This is coming from something with only ear piercings but wears tons of makeup and people are constantly assuming how unhappy I am because I happen to like drawing on my face.
I've already gotten a few ear piercing and often dye my hair, so I guess I've already modified myself. The colors I chose for my hair are often colors like red, deep violet, maroon, 'different' colors then the normal shades of hair because I want to be different, I guess. As well as I have plans in the future to get a couple of tattoos, small ones, and perhaps a few memorial pieces. And I'll admit that I have looked into breast augmentation procedures to even out my chest because (as they are now) my current bust is painful and effects my back and posture. So, yes, I do modify my normal self.
However, regardless, there will always be those who disapprove of any kinds of body modification regardless of beauty or otherwise, so I think that hoping for a day when it will be totally accepted is a lost cause.
Thanks for your input and sharing your personal experiences
Follow up question: How do you decide on the permanent modifications on your body? Out of curiosity it's because sometimes people get tattoos of, say, a favorite animal but then overtime they decide that it was an ugly tattoo. I know there are ways to remove the tattoo but that's such a toll on your skin (and your wallet).
Also, is being "different" part of what beauty means to you (more importantly, your beauty)?