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Single male parent adoption, Good idea? Bad idea?

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~Rush-the-chosen-one May 25, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

Ok this question is not for a immediate help, but I believe this discussion can help a lot of people ^^

Ok so I'm a guy, got a good family (parents, brother, etc.), enough money and no desire for marriage but with a desire to be a father.

Is it a good idea for a single male man to adopt a child? Why?

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~Crazy-Switch Jun 4, 2012 Writer

I think it's a great idea, if you really want a kid.

You're in Brasil, correct? (Stalking your profile for this answer) I have relatives in Brasil that have adopted older children. Young kids are more "popular" there because of some myth that a child can't think of a new person as a parental figure past the age of four or something. Maybe an older kid is a wise choice.

~Rush-the-chosen-one Jun 5, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

One thing is certain, i will not adopt a baby! No way XD

Yep, there is some stupid popular belief about that, i don't care about it ^^

~Crazy-Switch Jun 5, 2012 Writer

Well, that's perfect, then! You're probably exactly the parent that some of the kids dream of having.

~Mem-The-Great Jun 4, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

I don't think it's a very good idea. Every child deserves a father AND a mother. I know you have good intentions, but it's just not fair for the child to grow up without a mother. Especially if you adopt a girl.
If you really are longing for kids, a good thing to do would be to temporarily foster some. But most of the kids in foster care have been through traumatic experiences or are special needs. Make sure you have enough time, patience, and love for them.
You probably don't feel like marrying right now because you just haven't met the right girl. Don't worry, you're still young, you have plenty of time.

*kaikaku Jun 6, 2012 General Artist

I grew up without a mother. She died in a car crash when I was tiny. The idea that children NEED to have a parent of both genders isn't true.

~little-wild-one Jun 6, 2012

It's still better to have just one parent to look after you than none at all. Plenty of widows and widowers do an awesome job of raising their kids alone. Many kids in orphanages are already missing both of their parents, why not give them the next best thing?

~i-stamp Jun 5, 2012

Every child deserving a home and a provider of any sort is more important than having a opposite-sex double parent.
All evidence points to children of single parents doing far better than children raised in the foster care or adoption systems. Furthermore there's no evidence that, if gender roles are important at all, can't be taught by other family members, friends and their family and teachers.

~Rush-the-chosen-one Jun 5, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

My experience with psychology in municipal schools tells me that "a father AND a mother" don't always works.

~Mem-The-Great Jun 5, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

How so?

~Rush-the-chosen-one Jun 5, 2012 Hobbyist General Artist

There are a lot of intra-family child abuse and negligence cases with traditional families and when i say a lot... is... A HOLE FREAKING LOT...

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