Stop being a fucking baby and have sex jesus christ. Or wait until marriage to be a failure at sex and lose an obviously great girl. "Oh noes my life is over because my penis was in a certain location on the planet before I was married". Its dumb, get over it.
Failing that give me her number cause if thats true she isnt going to stick around.
Well, sex is an important part of a relationship, my friend.
Personally, I think that the tradition of waiting for marriage is sooo outdated. What's the point? So you can give your future wife an awesome gift? I think it would be an even more awesome gift if you got some practice in and were able to give her some pretty mindblowing rather than awkward sex on your wedding night.
Kaemon1243Featured By OwnerFeb 6, 2008Student Photographer
OH...wow hard indeed! try to talk to her ok? if she loves you then she'll wait till you get married or whatev. or you could go against your morals and do it ALL NIGHT LONG! but talk to her please. it usually helps
YTcyberpunkFeatured By OwnerDec 9, 2007Hobbyist Traditional Artist
If you don't want to do it don't do it. I'm sure this girl is nice, but it's usually only one relationship in your life that will last forever. Don't throw away something you're saving over a relationship that probably isn't permentant. Just my 2 cents.
tell her how you feel and to not keep bringing it up. if it continues and you still want to stay a virgin then your going to beak up. its a lot of tension, especially because you both don't understand each other. If you stay together then one of you is going to have to give something up...in this case its sex or virginity and a girl won't want to give up sex.
well, i guess either you change your opinion or you should break up. i mean, someone who love sex, don't wait. when you like to swimm or whatever, you won't stop just because your boy/girlfriend are afraid of water. yeah love can do alot but every human being have their own needs and if you can't give her what she want, then sooner or later she search that on someone else.
i think you just live once. when you love someone, why not share something special together and discover other worlds together. i don't think sex is a sin or somethin' like that. sex is a way of share closeness, love and the feeling or being something special.
Personally if you really want to wait until marriage dating a girl that has Nymphomania is probably overall a very bad idea. I know from personal experience because my boyfriend is one. I'm lucky to be with him because I'm hyper sexual and thus sex for us isn't a problem. My condition is simply a less severe form of Nymphomania.
But take it from me. Nympho's need sex. It's not a matter of waiting or not. Because she cares about you she may try and wait it out, not do anything, but eventually whether she wants to or not she'll end up trying to force you or she'll cheat on you. It's the way these things work.
If you're set on staying with her and not doing the whole sex thing my recommendation is to look into alternative things. You can still get her off without actually having intercourse. As long as she gets off, I'm sure she'll be happy. Then you can keep your vow, and she'll be happy too.
I think generally the wait until after you are married is a bad idea.
My reasoning for this is that sex is another way to connect with someone. It is one of many ways to establish trust, and a better understanding of the person whom you are with.
If you and your partner do not seem to connect with each other during sex, it can hurt the overall relationship. (especially in your situation where she is a nympho).
Think of it with the same respect of living with someone before marriage. If you don't live with someone for a while before getting married, it can hurt the relationship afterwards if there are things that just do not jive well in that new environment and it may bring up "why the hell would I marry this person?" type of thoughts.
Same thing can be said with sex.
Now I am not saying run over and go "Hey, lets just do it!"
If you think she is the lady for you, talk with her about how you feel about the situation.
Let her know there are some things you need to talk about, do it in a comfortable, private setting and let her know you are a virgin and your thoughts. Judge her reaction and make decisions from there.
Stick with what you believe. I told my boyfriend that I wouldn't have sex until I was married, and he admitted that he was still a virgin too. We waited until our wedding day to finally do it, and I'm glad that we waited! If you really like this girl, don't be afraid to discuss your morals with her! Don't falsely advertise yourself as something you don't want to be. Good luck!
I talked to her, and expressed that I wasn't really ready to take that step just yet. She smiled, and said she'd gotten that impression from me, and that she respected that. Apparently, guys have a problem saying no to her! So, after a bit of soul-searching, she called me and said that she was willing to wait, and if I wasn't comfortable with her screwing around (Which, i realized i'm -not-) she would do her best to be faithful.
So, in the end, we're together and she's doing her best despite the fact that I'll never quite let her get some, and I feel like the relationship's better off for it.
Well....let her know. Just tell her and see if she's ok with it.
I wouldn't let her sleep with others if I were you...it rarely ever works out for the best, but it's your decision not mine. You need to do what you think is right. Mull it over.
What you want a bunch of internet people to sway your morals?
Do it or don't do it because it's what you think is right and what you want to do. Take some time out and think about it and talk to your girlfriend about it.
What do you want to do? Seriously? Think about it.
Forget what she wants to do. Forget this dogma crap that's been instilled into you about the virtues of getting a girl to sign a contract before you do her... what the fuck is that anyway?
Anyway, put that aside for one moment, clear your mind and determine what you want.
Personally, I think there are advantages of waiting until you're in a loving, lasting relationship first. But love isn't determined by law. You shouldn't need a contract first, and if you do then there is something fundamentally wrong with either you or your relationship.
But that's just me.
I also think that given her sex drive and yours (given that you can wait it out quite happily) there's a fair chance she's going to be looking for it elsewhere sooner or later anyway. It's not going to be the quality but the quantity that will matter to her. You're probably best off telling her you're waiting for marriage and either end it there or let her end it as a result of hearing you say that.
Oh, and any delusions about your first time going to be special are probably best off abandoned now. It won't be.
both me and my boyfriend are virgins and we choose to be, not because we follow a religion but because sex complicates a relationship. If you can live without sex then you know your love is deeper then just pure lust...which generally dies.
Stick to what you believe in. I personally have the sex drive of a teenage boy but if my boyfriend said "hey I want to wait to marriage, I really see a future with you but just don't feel comfortable going against what I believe is right for me" I would wait for him. And not sleep around with other men either. If you're horny you can pleasure yourself, no big deal. Of course it's not the same but if you love someone, just kissing that person is like an orgasm. Well atleast to me. So stick to what you believe in, that is probably the only thing that will make you look back one day without regret.
If you really feel that strongly about your believe stick with it. Otherwise she's not worth the effort. But be nice about it cause she will be the one having a hard time. If it was me I would abandon my belief, and use that nympo! I mean sex is perfectly healthy! (Mind you protection please!)
Get laid. Seriously.
If you 'save yourself' for marriage...what a waste. How are you gonna know if your mate sucks at sex? Or if YOU do, for that matter?
Sow your wild oats...and you've got a nympho on the ready, to boot.
My advice: tell her to grow up. If you've only been dating for a few weeks there is no reason that talk of sex has to come up whenever you are alone together. People who have been telling you to "do her" clearly haven't noticed the time thing. I don't think you should wait until marriage to lose your virginity, but I also don't think you should rush into anything with someone so childish and demanding. You should both be more comfortable with one another before you decide if you like her enough to not wait until marriage.