Shop Mobile More Submit  Join Login

Details

Closed to new replies
December 3, 2007
Link

Statistics

Replies: 126

Help, my girlfriend is a nympho

:icontsunamiworlds:
Tsunamiworlds Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2007
So, I've been dating this girl for a few weeks, and she recently admitted to me that she's a nymphomaniac. Unfortunately (?) for her, I've yet to tell her that I'm a virgin and I'm waiting for marriage. My folks like her, and we get along great, but I don't know what to tell her. When we are with other people it's never a problem, when we're alone the topic always comes up. Always.

Part of me wants to tell her she's fine to go screw around with other guys, but the other part is kind of wondering if I should just go for it (if you will).

Please help. What do I do?
Reply

You can no longer comment on this thread as it was closed due to no activity for a month.

Devious Comments

:iconwrathlon:
Wrathlon Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2008
Stop being a fucking baby and have sex jesus christ. Or wait until marriage to be a failure at sex and lose an obviously great girl. "Oh noes my life is over because my penis was in a certain location on the planet before I was married". Its dumb, get over it.

Failing that give me her number cause if thats true she isnt going to stick around.
Reply
:iconmegachaos:
megachaos Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2008  Professional General Artist
if you're abstinent, then you shouldn't be with her at all. you shouldn't be unequally yoked with someone whose beliefs don't parallel your own
Reply
:iconpsychogizmo:
psychogizmo Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2008  Hobbyist Photographer
Well, sex is an important part of a relationship, my friend.

Personally, I think that the tradition of waiting for marriage is sooo outdated. What's the point? So you can give your future wife an awesome gift? I think it would be an even more awesome gift if you got some practice in and were able to give her some pretty mindblowing rather than awkward sex on your wedding night.

PS. Sex is awesome.
Reply
:iconkaemon1243:
Kaemon1243 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2008  Student Photographer
OH...wow hard indeed! try to talk to her ok? if she loves you then she'll wait till you get married or whatev. or you could go against your morals and do it ALL NIGHT LONG! but talk to her please. it usually helps
Reply
:iconskkulptor:
skkulptor Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2008
if u dn't someone else will :) it's jus a matter of time. Be a man and give the women what she needs.
Reply
:iconytcyberpunk:
YTcyberpunk Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
If you don't want to do it don't do it. I'm sure this girl is nice, but it's usually only one relationship in your life that will last forever. Don't throw away something you're saving over a relationship that probably isn't permentant. Just my 2 cents.
Reply
:iconamberglass:
AmberGlass Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007
tell her how you feel and to not keep bringing it up. if it continues and you still want to stay a virgin then your going to beak up. its a lot of tension, especially because you both don't understand each other. If you stay together then one of you is going to have to give something up...in this case its sex or virginity and a girl won't want to give up sex. :)
Reply
:iconvillanelle:
Villanelle Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007   Photographer
It seems you two are incompatible. Even if you have sex to please her (and OH GOD DON'T, do it for YOU, not someone else!) you'll still be walking on two different roads with the sex thing.

Unless, of course, she's not actually a nymphomaniac and, not realising you're a virgin, is telling you this so you'll like her more. Keep that as a possibility.
Reply
:iconcenaris:
Cenaris Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007  Hobbyist General Artist
If anything, I think girls are more interested in sex than boys, it's just nature.
Reply
:iconfullmoon-child:
fullmoon-child Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007   Photographer
well, i guess either you change your opinion or you should break up. i mean, someone who love sex, don't wait. when you like to swimm or whatever, you won't stop just because your boy/girlfriend are afraid of water. yeah love can do alot but every human being have their own needs and if you can't give her what she want, then sooner or later she search that on someone else.
i think you just live once. when you love someone, why not share something special together and discover other worlds together. i don't think sex is a sin or somethin' like that. sex is a way of share closeness, love and the feeling or being something special.
Reply
:iconhomedoggieo:
homedoggieo Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007
Marry her?

:shrug:
Reply
:iconshinseikatai:
ShinseiKatai Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007  Professional Digital Artist
Stick with your morals. If she loves you and wants to be with you she'll respect it.
Reply
:iconvampunk1111:
Vampunk1111 Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
You shouldn't EVER tell her to go screw with other guys cause she'll end up leaving you for one of them.
If she really is a nympho then I'd say go with the flow and and give her what she wants ;)

And if your waiting for marriage to have sex then all I can say is since this girl is a nympho then I think shes the wrong girl for you:/ because I doubt she'd change
Reply
:iconfall0ut:
Fall0ut Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007
if u tell her to go screw with other guys she will think its normal to cheat on u

i dont even know wat man would ever say that to his girl... thats pathetic i would feel like a loser... a tool
Reply
:iconamimad:
AmIMad Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007
Personally if you really want to wait until marriage dating a girl that has Nymphomania is probably overall a very bad idea. I know from personal experience because my boyfriend is one. I'm lucky to be with him because I'm hyper sexual and thus sex for us isn't a problem. My condition is simply a less severe form of Nymphomania.

But take it from me. Nympho's need sex. It's not a matter of waiting or not. Because she cares about you she may try and wait it out, not do anything, but eventually whether she wants to or not she'll end up trying to force you or she'll cheat on you. It's the way these things work.

If you're set on staying with her and not doing the whole sex thing my recommendation is to look into alternative things. You can still get her off without actually having intercourse. As long as she gets off, I'm sure she'll be happy. Then you can keep your vow, and she'll be happy too.
Reply
:iconsepts-shadow:
Septs-Shadow Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007
I think generally the wait until after you are married is a bad idea.

My reasoning for this is that sex is another way to connect with someone. It is one of many ways to establish trust, and a better understanding of the person whom you are with.

If you and your partner do not seem to connect with each other during sex, it can hurt the overall relationship. (especially in your situation where she is a nympho).

Think of it with the same respect of living with someone before marriage. If you don't live with someone for a while before getting married, it can hurt the relationship afterwards if there are things that just do not jive well in that new environment and it may bring up "why the hell would I marry this person?" type of thoughts.

Same thing can be said with sex.

Now I am not saying run over and go "Hey, lets just do it!"

If you think she is the lady for you, talk with her about how you feel about the situation.

Let her know there are some things you need to talk about, do it in a comfortable, private setting and let her know you are a virgin and your thoughts. Judge her reaction and make decisions from there.

Hope this helps.
Reply
:iconcabinetminister:
CabinetMinister Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2007  Professional Digital Artist
I have no advice.
I just want to praise this thread title. It is beyond awesome.
It's like a drive-in movie.

Hope your problem gets solved.
Please continue...
Reply
:iconnursethalia:
nursethalia Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Stick with what you believe. I told my boyfriend that I wouldn't have sex until I was married, and he admitted that he was still a virgin too. We waited until our wedding day to finally do it, and I'm glad that we waited! If you really like this girl, don't be afraid to discuss your morals with her! Don't falsely advertise yourself as something you don't want to be. Good luck!
Reply
:icontsunamiworlds:
Tsunamiworlds Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
So, here's what happened:

I talked to her, and expressed that I wasn't really ready to take that step just yet. She smiled, and said she'd gotten that impression from me, and that she respected that. Apparently, guys have a problem saying no to her! :lol: So, after a bit of soul-searching, she called me and said that she was willing to wait, and if I wasn't comfortable with her screwing around (Which, i realized i'm -not-) she would do her best to be faithful.

So, in the end, we're together and she's doing her best despite the fact that I'll never quite let her get some, and I feel like the relationship's better off for it.
Reply
:icontheserpentssong:
TheSerpentsSong Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007  Hobbyist Artist
d00d sex is awesome.
Reply
:iconpaulstrealer:
PaulStrealer Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
If both of you are happy now, then let sleeping dogs lie.
Reply
:iconthe-fallen-immortal:
The-Fallen-Immortal Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
morals first.
Reply
:iconvibexeuphoria:
vibeXeuphoria Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
think of it this way, if you do give her your virginity... she won't appreciate it 100th as much as a fellow virgin. don't throw your innocence away.
Reply
:iconrasukai:
Rasukai Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
You decide.
Reply
:iconmedicalmaladies:
MedicalMaladies Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
Gah. D=

Well....let her know. Just tell her and see if she's ok with it.
I wouldn't let her sleep with others if I were you...it rarely ever works out for the best, but it's your decision not mine. You need to do what you think is right. Mull it over.
Reply
:iconelasticlogic:
elasticlogic Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
When I saw the topic of this post, my reaction was "I fail to see the problem here".
Reply
:iconjoebob777:
Joebob777 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Stick with your morals. Whether you wind up having sex or not, she's probably going to jump 2 or 3 other guy's bones anyway.
Reply
:iconshidaku:
Shidaku Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
have sex.

thats what you should do.
Reply
:icontremault5:
tremault5 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007  Hobbyist General Artist
self respect is a very important part of any relationship. remember that the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.

if she cares about you, she will respect that.
if she doesn't, then you are incompatible.
Reply
:iconash360:
Ash360 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007  Student Digital Artist
What you want a bunch of internet people to sway your morals?
Do it or don't do it because it's what you think is right and what you want to do. Take some time out and think about it and talk to your girlfriend about it.
Reply
:iconnavagon:
Navagon Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
What do you want to do? Seriously? Think about it.

Forget what she wants to do. Forget this dogma crap that's been instilled into you about the virtues of getting a girl to sign a contract before you do her... what the fuck is that anyway?

Anyway, put that aside for one moment, clear your mind and determine what you want.

Personally, I think there are advantages of waiting until you're in a loving, lasting relationship first. But love isn't determined by law. You shouldn't need a contract first, and if you do then there is something fundamentally wrong with either you or your relationship.

But that's just me.

I also think that given her sex drive and yours (given that you can wait it out quite happily) there's a fair chance she's going to be looking for it elsewhere sooner or later anyway. It's not going to be the quality but the quantity that will matter to her. You're probably best off telling her you're waiting for marriage and either end it there or let her end it as a result of hearing you say that.

Oh, and any delusions about your first time going to be special are probably best off abandoned now. It won't be. :p
Reply
:icondangel88:
dangel88 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007  Hobbyist General Artist
both me and my boyfriend are virgins and we choose to be, not because we follow a religion but because sex complicates a relationship. If you can live without sex then you know your love is deeper then just pure lust...which generally dies.

Viva la Virgin!... or summat.
Reply
:iconwaterspirirtjess:
waterspirirtjess Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Stick to what you believe in. I personally have the sex drive of a teenage boy but if my boyfriend said "hey I want to wait to marriage, I really see a future with you but just don't feel comfortable going against what I believe is right for me" I would wait for him. And not sleep around with other men either. If you're horny you can pleasure yourself, no big deal. Of course it's not the same but if you love someone, just kissing that person is like an orgasm. Well atleast to me. So stick to what you believe in, that is probably the only thing that will make you look back one day without regret.
Reply
:iconcandykins:
CandyKins Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Just save your virginity.

Seriously.
Reply
:iconmattlock-adv:
Mattlock-Adv Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
If you really feel that strongly about your believe stick with it. Otherwise she's not worth the effort. But be nice about it cause she will be the one having a hard time. If it was me I would abandon my belief, and use that nympo! I mean sex is perfectly healthy! (Mind you protection please!)
Reply
:icon072570:
072570 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Get laid. Seriously.
If you 'save yourself' for marriage...what a waste. How are you gonna know if your mate sucks at sex? Or if YOU do, for that matter?
Sow your wild oats...and you've got a nympho on the ready, to boot.
Reply
:iconshidaku:
Shidaku Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
yeah, but once you're married, it's missionary in the dark man on top only and it's only for baby making, not fun. So it doesn't matter if you're good or not.
Reply
:icont-loid:
T-LOID Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Heck, I'd do her.

and I second what =chrisbucks said.
Reply
:iconchrisbucks:
chrisbucks Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
You can do things other than penetrative sex.
And if you're wondering about just going for it, ask yourself why you're waiting for marriage and why that is important. :shrug:
Reply
:iconmorthax:
Morthax Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007  Hobbyist General Artist
You should tell to your girlfriend soon as possible that she ain't getting any sex before your married. She will either accept it, or leave you. I would leave a guy, or get sex from someone else.
Reply
:iconceciliaiscrazy:
ceciliaiscrazy Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Lucky bastard.
Reply
:icontsuki-wo-nusumu:
Tsuki-wo-Nusumu Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
My advice: tell her to grow up. If you've only been dating for a few weeks there is no reason that talk of sex has to come up whenever you are alone together. People who have been telling you to "do her" clearly haven't noticed the time thing. I don't think you should wait until marriage to lose your virginity, but I also don't think you should rush into anything with someone so childish and demanding. You should both be more comfortable with one another before you decide if you like her enough to not wait until marriage.
Reply
:iconneo-kaiser:
Neo-Kaiser Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
So women who love sex are now immature? :|
Reply
:iconvillanelle:
Villanelle Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007   Photographer
Anyone, male or female, who brags about being a "nympho" at every given opportunity is clearly insecure/immature about it.
Reply
:iconneo-kaiser:
Neo-Kaiser Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2007
Ok, at what point in the OPs comment did he say she always brags about it?
Reply
:icontsuki-wo-nusumu:
Tsuki-wo-Nusumu Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
Exactly what Tryptonique said. I don't know why you try to pick fights with me without reading what I'm actually saying.
Reply
:iconneo-kaiser:
Neo-Kaiser Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
According to the OP he hasn't told her anything
Reply
:icontsuki-wo-nusumu:
Tsuki-wo-Nusumu Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2007
He might not have told her he's a virgin, but if he hasn't told her no every time the topic has come up, then they would have had sex by now.
Reply
:iconneo-kaiser:
Neo-Kaiser Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
The OP didn't state that she's asking for sex everytime they're alone
Reply
:icontsuki-wo-nusumu:
Tsuki-wo-Nusumu Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2007
"[W]hen we're alone the topic always comes up. Always."
Reply
Add a Comment: