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~Alixa56:iconAlixa56: Oct 17, 2007, 3:32:34 PM
Right now i am more miserable then I've ever been in my life, the guy I am painfully in love with and have been going out with for almost a year now told me yesterday that he thinks he might be gay. He had said the same thing to me about two months ago but a few weeks later he told me that it had only been a phase he was going through and that he was over it. Now hes telling me that he no longer loves me even though he still cares about me, and he just isnt phsically attracted to me anymore. He said that what he told me two months before was true but he had lied about it being only a phase. I'm the only girl hes ever loved, and before he thought he was just bisexual but now he thinks he isnt attracted to girls at all. It's really complicated and i know hes extremely confused about his sexuality right now, and even though we are still going out, we no longer kiss, make out or do anything else physically with eachother. A week before we had gotten into a fight and hadnt spoken to eachother at all since yesterday, when he told me about him possibly being gay. I'm really worried he might be right and i dont want to lose him as a boyfriend, but how can he know hes gay when hes only 15? Could this possibly be a phase hes going through like he said before? Please help i dont know what to do...

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~Alixa56:iconAlixa56: Oct 17, 2007, 3:52:46 PM
cmon somebody answer me
~InvaderLii:iconInvaderLii: Oct 17, 2007, 3:53:40 PM
well I know he could he be sure. I'm 13 and Im sure I'm bi. But as for losing him, even if he does leave, you'll have a good friend. but, if you cling and don't accept his choice he'll hate you and you won't even have him as a friend. I would support him. be a friend, not a lover. becaue a friend is what he needs right now. And who knows, if he's NOT gay than he'll leave you anyway for not being supportave.

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~mutantsupermodel:iconmutantsupermodel: Oct 17, 2007, 3:59:21 PM
He might be gay.


The probability is that he is just sexually curious. All adolescents go through a period of sexual exploration and curiousity at that age, it's part of development and finding your own sexuality. Doesn't mean you're gay. It means you're hormonal and discovering sexuality for the first time.

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~xxIceWiccanxx:iconxxIceWiccanxx: Oct 17, 2007, 4:03:26 PM
At 15, it is entirely possible that he knows for sure he is gay. But then, it's also possible that it is just a phase. A lot of teenagers go through phases where they are confused about their sexuality.

Your best (and really, your only option) is to just accept him for who he is, even if it means your relationship has to change. You think it's hard for you right now, but think about what he's going through. You would only be losing one person (him), but when he tells other people he is gay, he risks losing nearly everyone he knows, family included.
~Alixa56:iconAlixa56: Oct 17, 2007, 4:04:15 PM
well... thanks, i am supportive of him and he knows i still love him but i'm not clingy, and i also know he'll never *hate* me.
~Alixa56:iconAlixa56: Oct 17, 2007, 4:05:49 PM
thats kind of what i thought as well, and i hope its only curiousity, but it worries me because he shows next to no attraction towards girls.
~Jack-Evans:iconJack-Evans: Oct 17, 2007, 4:49:34 PM
if hes 15 you are probably younger, so there will be more real man in your life after this guy... how could u possibly be painfully in love at 15? at least he is honest...

As ive said ur young ull get over it,... cuz he is either gay or doesnt know how to break up with you.
Either way, you cant make someone love you, not even God can...
You can only give him time =)

Could be worse, he couldve said I wanna be a woman and, you couldve gone to their parents saying how much you support him, and then find out if its true or not when his parents are so confused about him...actually you can go.. but thats blackmail nevermind... Things can alwaya be more dramatic =)

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`Prince-Charles:iconPrince-Charles: Oct 17, 2007, 5:12:30 PM
I was SURE about my sexuality at age nine.

I was SURE about my sexuality at age thirteen.

I was SURE about my sexuality at age fifteen.


Now I concede that human sexuality is too complicated to label.

You can't change how he feels now - but if I were him, I wouldn't be so "sure". ESPECIALLY at fifteen - hormones are going crazy - things can change and change again.

I would recommend "taking a break" from your relationship. Let him explore what he feels now if that's what he wants to do. But I think continuing to date in this situation is going to put too much strain on your friendship. Let him "go" for now - in a few years he might come back, but that's less likely if you cause much stress by not letting him be free to work this out.

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~darkland8:icondarkland8: Oct 17, 2007, 6:02:16 PM
well he loves you,and you love him right? i think thats all that matters, tell him you still love him and what not. and most of all remind him why he loves you =D