you're not loving yourself if you keep this relationship going. love is about give and take. do you really think this relationship could last? you deserve more than that. i've sort of been in the situation you are in, and it took me a while to realize that a breakup was the best option. he's just using you for his own emotional sustenance. if you care about yourself, just get out of it.
it's hard to break up with someone, but sometimes it's the only way. call the police if you're scared for yours or anyone else's safety. ya gotta put yourself first in this kind of situation.
Break up with him and get a restraining order if you have to... I had to deal with a situation like this once... And the guy didn't kill himself and is actually happy with someone else and grateful that I finally made him quit being a babyabout it
I wish he would just find someone else but he's convinced he never would, like an idiot. It's just that I believe it when he says he'll kill himself or something because he tried to with the last bitch he was with. But yea, he is being a huge baby, it's amazing that I'm 5 years younger and he's the one that has fits like a 2-year-old
If you really want him to quit, then you are going to have to stand up for yourself. If you are afraid that he is going to try to kill himself, then tell one of his friends so they can make sure he doesn't do anything stupid.
You have to understand that he won't kill himself. I've been in a borderline abusive situation before and one friend said something to me that really changed my perspective and helped me take charge:
If he's treating you like this it's because he's selfish and doesn't honestly care about you. The most important thing to him is himself, and because of that he would never put himself in any real danger, and he certainly won't kill himself. You're the only person in real danger in this situation.
As for wanting another girl to come in and take him away, don't give yourself the easy way out! If you don't want to be with him that's the end of the story. Break up, don't take the calls, don't give in, report him to the police every time he won't stay away. You have a change to take charge and put yourself in a better situation, aren't you worth that?
Sounds like my ex-fiance'. Well, up until one night he beat the shit out of me and called his parents to come over and help him move at 10:30 at night. Stole a thousand dollars and some furniture from me and married another girl a year later.
Get the hell out. Don't talk to him, don't let him talk to you. Block his phone, block his text messages, move somewhere else. Live with your parents, live with a friend, go somewhere he won't find you. Be completely devoid of contact with him for three months, and then... he'll be gone. Three months, I'm telling you.
Every time you let him back into your life, you show him you're pathetic and easily influenced. Do you want to be sending him that message?
You're quite welcome. I hate seeing people in relationships similar to what I was in, especially now that I've found a man who was nothing like my ex-fiance'.
For the most part, I think women date these abusive men because they think they may be able to change them, or because they think they can't get anyone else, and neither of these things are true. Statistics show there are something like a hundred people out there who are your "one true love." Even though that's quite a small number compared to how many people there are in the world, it at least means that you don't have to settle for second-best, because there IS someone out there who will treat you like a princess, and whom you will love enough to want to treat them like a prince.
he obviously has some serious problems
if he wont leave you alone, tell the polive ur situation and they might give you a restraining order and put him in rehab cus he ses hes guna kil himself. its not fair for you to continue living in fear of him so u shud go to the police about it. do ur friends and family no? cus they will definately help you.
the only place wer i went rong is with the drugs, but apart from that u handled this really well n i feel so sorry for you xx
hope this helps :hugs: