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!latifah27:iconlatifah27: Sep 21, 2004, 11:21:33 PM
I've been there. And I've given all the wrong reactions. Last year, a couple good friends of mine abruptly told me that they no longer wanted contact with me. And I made an ass of myself, grovelling and pleading for them to take me back. When I could have just said these easy words and forgotten about them:

"You're a jerk. Good bye!"

That's all you need to say.

Yes, this is a weird thread for the "Help With Life" forum, but I had a feeling that there is something that needs to be done for people like myself, who don't have any self-respect, and depend on others for approval. Then maybe there would be alot more happy people out there.

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~blacksheep85:iconblacksheep85: Sep 22, 2004, 1:04:20 AM
Gawd, I SO know what you mean. There's been so MANY times where I just didn't realize how much I didn't need those kind of people. Guilt tactics always took hold of me, and afterwards I would figure it out and feel so stupid and hurt even more. I agree with you totally. If you haven't done anything wrong, there should be no apologizing. Besides, friends should understand that friends make mistakes, and if they're willing to admit them and try to make things better, then dropping them is stupid.

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!latifah27:iconlatifah27: Sep 22, 2004, 1:07:15 AM
Yep. There is one however, who I really should have let go. She was telling me that she was ok with me asking her all these questions, and then later on, she just up and left me for that reason. And she slagged off in her journal about me putting some secret of her's in a fanfic, when she had told me she was more than happy to let me do that. I should have put more value on myself, but instead, I made myself look very cheap.

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~blacksheep85:iconblacksheep85: Sep 22, 2004, 1:14:02 AM
Yea. It sucks when we do that. But the best thing to do is think of it this way: They made themselves look like more of an ass by dropping you.

It's a confidence booster. :hug:

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~following-the-leader:iconfollowing-the-leader: Sep 22, 2004, 2:09:25 AM
I've been in both positions -- as the one discarding the unwanted friend, and the one being discarded. Generally, if you want to get rid of someone, then they have done something to annoy you...but you're right, the best reaction from both parties is a nice big 'Fuck you.'

Burn those bridges. Burn them to the ground.

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!latifah27:iconlatifah27: Sep 22, 2004, 2:14:45 AM
Yeah. But still, if a friend is being annoying, it's best to just say "What you're doing is annoying, please stop" the first time that person does that, if the two of you are friends. Otherwise, he(like myself) could end up feeling very used and abused.

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`dust:icondust: Sep 22, 2004, 2:30:43 AM
I just stopped talking to them unless they had something I needed. Right now one of them has one thing I need, and after I get it, I'm done with them.

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~niak23:iconniak23: Sep 22, 2004, 2:58:05 AM
i dont know if thats such a cool thing to do =/ not only does it make them feel right to treat you the way they do and people like myself would be very hesitant to be your friend in the first place.A reputation you will make indeed =/ I am not saying you are useing people but it sounds like it
~mindslyde:iconmindslyde: Sep 22, 2004, 4:14:51 AM
You got it exactly right :thumbsup:

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