I need a girlfriend too!!! Wait, I don't Do I? Let's see... supposing that a month has 43829.1 minutes & I only felt the need of needing a girlfriend for only 15 minutes & 73814.1 minutes feeling happy to be a single, so that means I don't need a girlfriend after all, sorry! That said Supposing that you're from America, if you need a boyfriend. All you need to do is to get drunk in a bar full of men. Best of luck
may I point out that people that freak out in a, you know, real panicking way, might be arachnophobic? Being scared of spiders most often isn't a reasonable response, and it's rather obvious they won't harm us and are indeed most likely more afraid of humans than we are of them. Sadly, even the best arguments fade when face to face with spiders.
However, this is no reason to be in need of a boyfriend. You already got some pretty good advice here I suppose so theres not much to be added from my side. You like male attention? Go out and be a flirty girl (not saying 'hey, jump straight into bed with them', but go and have some fun, many men actually like giving a pretty girl attention and will be happy about a nice flirt). You are an independend woman, thought. There is certainly no NEED of a boyfriend, althought it might be convenient at times. Rather, find some good friends that will help you out in stuations like this