I've been single for about 6/7 years now and I've really embraced it by now. All of my friends and my sister are having dramatic relationship trouble, have to arrange everything with their significant other while I just sit there and do whatever I want and nobody nags at me. I love it. I used to worry a bit about being single but now I honestly don't really give a poot. Relationships are only "important" because somehow biologically we have to reproduce.
they're not important and you can live a happy life without one. Society just likes to think that everyone should have a significant other and those who choose to remain single are labeled "losers". Well fuck that shit you're living your life for yourself not society, so if you don't want any part in relationships, that's your decision. It's too bad people can't respect the decisions of others.
A lot of people I know put a good deal of value into relationships, and keep trying to put me with people, even though I have no interest in relationships right now. I'd rather concentrate on graduating next year, saving for my car/college, and I'm happier by myself anyway. Much less stress.
Don't let people try to push you into something you don't want. Do what makes you happy.
You can do whatever you want, but remember that your only point of reference right now is relationships with teenagers. Every relationship is a learning experience and most people get better at them as they get older.
According to your profile, you're 18 years old. This means you only have experience with dopey teenage girls who are not mature or experienced, don't have it in their nature to commit and will change their feelings quickly. Very limited experience. Also, there are two sides to the equation. Don't be whiny. You gotta work on yourself to be attractive and worth keeping in the first place.
People are obsessed with the idea of falling in love, settling down and living your standard fairy tale life.
Relationships are NOTTHATimportant, if you find someone to love, you find someone to love. Congrats, you got lucky. If you don't, well it's not the end of the world.
People are just so afraid of being alone, they don't stop to realize that you don't need people around to have fun and enjoy life. You CAN be one single person and find enjoyment in both big and little things.
If you want to stay single, you go for that. You do that. Be happy and alone, its completely possible no matter what anyone else says. But at the same time, don't completely shut down relationships. If you meet a person you could really love, go for it. Don't let past hurt stop you.
Depends how you feel. Stay single and don't look, turn down girls you dont like, but if you find yourself head over heels and in love, why push it away? Go for it if YOU feel something, not because someone else confessed.
Man I know how you feel. I was in an abusive relationship for over 4 years, got cheated on 30+ times, and before that rejected, teased, and bullied because of how I looked. Relationships sucks. People suck. But everyone is dateable. Just because you've had bad relationships, doesn't mean you'll never have a good one.
All I'm saying is that if you want to stay single, then do it! Its understandable if thats what makes you happy. But if being with someone will make you happy, but you are staying single out of pain, don't. And don't shut yourself off completely. If you find love, take it.
Personally, I'm 26 and the reason I looked, was because I was beginning to feel a bit lonely. Sure you can have your friends to back you up, but sometimes, you just need someone who really cares for you.
Now I might not be ready to look again at this point, but I'm not saying never. After all, I do want to become a father.
I know a number of people that are avoiding any romantic relationships until they have their career or other part of their lives secured. And there's nothing wrong with that. Frankly I think a lot of it is social pressure to have one, from peers to relatives, to fit in with normal.
It's human nature to live, procreate, and die, and we tend to be monogamous while doing it. You can do whatever the fuck you want, but you certainly don't sound asexual and changing your entire life course because of some broad that dumped you is pretty ridiculous. There's nothing forbidding you from simply not dating right now, because you need time. But you'll look like an idiot if you keep saying this when you're in a negative mindset and get a girlfriend a year from now.
And I mean, if you're not asexual, there's no logic in quitting. Sure, protecting yourself from heartache, but we as a race wouldn't have come very far at all if we just gave up that easily.
That sucks, but it's not as if you're special for having six breakups: We all go through a lot of heartache before we find "the one", if you will. You can give up now and accept no one ever loving you as a definite thing. Or you can try, and maybe succeed. But giving up guarantees failure.