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I just want to know what you think about this...

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cxmbUfuckingasshole Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013
Hi

I had a friend, the friend had some very bad problems some time ago
Which were real, but again, long time ago

So i started realizing that even if the scars were real, this person talked so much about it, always, at all times, makes art showing how much life has been hard on her life. Then i understood that she had a new problem. She was getting addicted to the attention and the pity of others when she exposed what happened to her

So, eventually things got to me basically saying this:
-Hey, I am sorry, but even if you are fooling everyone else with your self-pity, I can tell you are now addicted to all that attention!, that is not going to help you!

To tell EVERYONE how sick you are, and ACT sick, is not going to help you, AND YOU KNOW IT, you just love the attention! And even if your problems were and are real, they are in the past, you have a new problem-


Needless to say, suddenly i become the bad guy, and the f-ing a-hole

The thing is that now aches so much to be alone because of that. Makes me wonder why i wanted to help what i considered my only friend if this is my reward

Usually when someone rejects my help, i just move on and wish them a good life

But for some reason this time is breaking me, and it started to show on my job, on my art and projects, and my personality also.
I'm really struggling to overcome this, but i feel like i am draining all my energy.

To the point i am here, posting this to all of you strangers… Which makes me feel humbled and a little uncomfortable, as i do believe that the internet does NOT help to solve problems like this...

Yet... i am getting desperate of feeling this way
Thanks for reading

Thoughts? I feel like i can't be objective about this anymore
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2lazy2talk Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
just step away, if she solved her problems but became an attention seeker, might aswell do it.
Personally I can't handle those people, I just feel like I need to hit them with something.
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cxmbUfuckingasshole Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2013
It's funny, because i always feel that way, that i want to hit them with a bat or something haha

And at some level, i kind of did with my words :T

But yeah, been stepping away on the last month!
Thanks!
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SmarticleParticle Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Did she get help for the problem in the past? Even if it was a long time ago, it could seem very real to her if she never got proper help for it. I mean, obviously I don't know exactly what she went through but something happened to me a while ago. The person who did it got away with it so the thing still seems very real to me, but at least I have blackmail material. Perhaps that's what's happening to your friend. She could be crying out for help.
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cxmbUfuckingasshole Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013
She got help from the past, from countless people and also profesional help
She even has a therapist and a counselor for which she has not to pay for. :T

Yes the problem is real for her. However what happens is that everyone has problems, and i simply do not agree with wasting life away.

Now, i don't want to sound insensitive, specially when you tell me that the person that harmed you got away with it ): I know that is a little off topic, and i am a stranger to you, but i do believe that karma exists, which means that not only those who do harm will get what they deserve, but also means that if something was taken from you, it will be payed off

Yes... she was crying for help, thing is that when help arrived, she kept crying for help... Do you understand why do i see a problem there? /:
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SmarticleParticle Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Ah, I see. Put that way, it does sound like it is the attention she is enjoying. I don't think there really is a lot you can do for her, but if you leave her then maybe she will see it as a wake-up call. Good luck! :hug:
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cxmbUfuckingasshole Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2013
Thank you very much (:
The best of luck to you too!
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Adiraiju Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I had to learn the hard way that Honesty is simply not always appreciated. Especially blunt honesty. It's like what happened to Galileo: if somebody's benefiting from a lie, they have no reason to discontinue the lie, and they can go to some truly terrifying lengths to keep it continuing.

If you want her back in your life, contact her. If you don't, don't. I understand it's hard to decide, but doubt in itself shows that you probably don't want her around, and you're probably (read: almost certainly) better off without her...
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cxmbUfuckingasshole Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2013
Ah! Blunt honesty! Everyone wants to say it, but no one wants tu hear it! haha

You are completely right about someone benefiting from a lie, i have not think about that...
We humans are a very curious species huh? /:

I am better without her.. We both are better without each other, for that matter
The decision has been made
But sometimes the soul is stubborn ...

But fear not! Reason has always prevailed in the end!
Thanks man! I really appreciate your insights
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Adiraiju Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Curious isn't the word, buddy...

And you're welcome! Good luck with everything!
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cxmbUfuckingasshole Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2013
that's why i used italics, ha ;D
Thanks man!
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