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That's Not Me

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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2013
For the last year I've been going to a Lutheran Church and called myself a Christian. I only went there because an old girlfriend of mine told me I had to become a Christian. So I tried it, and enjoyed going to church. But I don't think I ever really believed in the faith. I said I did, joined the Church but I always had doubts. I feel like a hypocrite due to this last year and feel like a bad person. Am I?
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sandmanfallingout Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
ps most people will say they are christian and will go to the church but they dont realy care its just interanment

i am just like you i do not realy even care to much if there is god i go to a church i am not a meber but i am the show up half the time and big help type person most every one knows i go to church to help out and being intertaned is basicly how they pay me

if you like going to church go to church if you dont belive then make it clear just dont be disrespect full and in the way christiany is one of the most leniant religon there is so it most likey wont matter if you truely belive

ps i have 2 people at the church i go to and they are athist
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013
I see
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sandmanfallingout Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
so just dont worry if you want to go to church do so just dont disrespect the church

if you tell them i dont realy belive in god they will slam you with the gosip if they do that ingnore them and just nod your head
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013
ok
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nicetints Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Digital Artist
If you end up not believing, then really you don't have anything to worry about...other than if and when you decide to tell other people.
I was born and raised to be a Christian but lost my faith somewhere around junior high or early high school, and so far my mom knows (and despises it) but my father accepts it completely (even if he thinks that maybe one day I'll change my mind, he's not pushing it).

That aside, you're not a bad person. It's normal, even for those who are dedicated.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013
well thank you
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dragonsangel Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Maybe you feel that way because the Lutheran Church is wack.

I'm Christian but I ain't level with the beliefs of the Lutherans. mind you I have a few Lutheran friends.

It sounds like you were investigating and you found it's not for you. that's fine. I did lots of investigation of different religions (some not even christian) before I came to a conclusion.

Bottom line is, you can't become a christian unless God works in you, and calls you to. He sometimes uses people to do so, but, more often, people are willful and just do things according to their own desire (i.e. they don't listen to God).

my advice is simply to be open to God. the most important thing in life is love, and he's the source of that good thing. there is nothing else that matters.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013
well I was Evangelical Lutheran (not Missouri-Synod)

Well I just cant claim to know if there is a God
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Stygma Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is life. We have to try and sometimes we fail. It's normal to test ourselves. It's normal to have doubts. You want to try to fit in. You want to taste the joy the other believers seems to experience. You want to understand. But, faith doesn't come from the brain, it comes from the heart. You're not a bad person. You just had to try... and fail to learn. You've learned about yourself and it's a great thing. Knowing what you know now, it's time to accept that you're not the Christian you were aiming to be. You don't need a label to be good, to do the right things. Religions help some people, but others don't need a shepherd; they can walk all alone in the right path.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
well thanks
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fantasylover103 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You are not a bad person. Christianity is not for everyone. If you feel it's not good for you,stop.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
thanks
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fantasylover103 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
No problem!! :)

But seriously. If it's not right for you, stop.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
oh alright
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fantasylover103 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Only if you want to though!!
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
well Im done with it
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fantasylover103 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Do you want to be done with it?
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
yes
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Knightster Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
Being hypocrite doesn't make you a bad person.
You tried it, didn't believe in it and now you just need to move on. Simple stuff.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
I shouldnt feel so bad then?
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Knightster Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
Why? You haven't hurt anyone, you don't have a reason to feel bad.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
I feel like I let down those in my Church and my Christian friends, not because Im not Christian (hell, they wouldn't mind that), but because I used to me and left.
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Knightster Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
Did any of your friends expressed disappointment over you leaving?
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
yes, my devout Catholic friend said he was disappointed and my Orthodox Christian friend said he can't agree with my choice
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Knightster Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
And by doing so they make you feel bad, which reinforces you feeling like shit.
Typical church tactics.

I say you should move on and stop paying that much attention to religion.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
Well to be fair my Catholic friend says he'll still be my best friend and my Orthdox friend says he has no choice but to accept it

But yeah, I wish religion played no part in social relationships.

Im trying not to pay that much attention
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Allviran Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I personally wouldn't say it makes you a BAD person. Sometimes it just takes trial and error to see who you truly are.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
I still questioned everything the entire time. Its like, I went for the social aspect
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PaintingSaint Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013   Digital Artist
You don't HAVE to be a Christian. As a Christian, I'm frankly concerned that your girlfriend insisted you become one. Whether you decide to become a Christian is up to you. It's never a case of fake it til you make it. So, don't go by how you feel, or what others expect of you. Why not look up things about it and decide for yourself?

This is a good website for doing that: [link]
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
Shew spoke to me in tongues and I was moved to explore Christianity. I enjoyed learning about it, but never believed.
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Mercury-Crowe Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
I thought going to church without believing was a sin...

Are you a bad person? Well I went to church...with my now husband...who left Christianity a year or so later, anyway.

But apparently I'm evil, so, you know. *shrug*
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
So youre evil, and I sinned, okay...
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prosaix Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
Well yeah, faking does make you a bad person. What if it was something else would people be as lenient?
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
maybe
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Self-Epidemic Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Like orgasms, am I right? :P
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prosaix Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
Absolutely not! :iconmadnoesplz:
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Aristedes Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
I'm a deist so forcing one view on another is wrong but I'll say this don't be ashamed of your own beliefs and morals even if they not what your girlfriend's wants it to be at the same time do not be afraid of others' beliefs as they all have lessons to give, directly or indirectly.

If your not Christian then find something better that fits you.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
well Im no longer with her, yet I continued to go for months
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Aristedes Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
ah that seems more out of habit then anything else ^^; but do what you like doing some people don't go to church for religious reasons but to talk to people. Its up to you if you don't feel comfortable doing it then don't
if so then write down your core values and find something that fits you.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
I just- church is fine for those who believe in my eyes
I dont believe, so I just cant go

But thats a good idea, but I know what my values are
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Aristedes Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
ah good and I wish you gl sir :)
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
thank you
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Aristedes Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
np :)
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
:hug:
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
No, you aren't a bad person. I went to a Catholic Midnight Mass last year to try it out for once, and OMG the amount of shit the priest was full of! :stare: [link]
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
sO Im not a bad person?
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If this is your greatest flaw, then not. :)
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
oh well thanks
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FreakyLaurent Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Professional Photographer
Four words . . .

Please do have FAITH !
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Knightster Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
In other words: STFU and just accept it! If you repeat it over and over often enough, you'll believe!
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