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Girl getting the guy a ring?

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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
I thought I'd give a bit of background information before I get a lot of "blah blah blah" messages from people about being stupid. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. He's about a year and a half older than me. We often talk about the future so it's not as though I'd be shoving something uncomfortable down his throat by the thought.
In my mind it seems like such a great idea. I made us a set of rings to wear with a design on them to represent "infinity" and I planned to give him his tomorrow with a big I love you speech. As the hours pass by and tomorrow comes closer...it's just making me nervous.
I don't want to look stupid or something, so what are your thoughts on the girl giving the guy a ring?
It's not really a "promise" ring. When you say that people often think lots of things like a promise to get married or whatever, but to me that's shoving too much in someone's face O.o
Also he's 17 and I'm 16. I didn't really want to say that since it sounds young, but since people could think worse with the word "high school" figured I might as well get it out there.
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TheaAtherea Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013   General Artist
I gave my boyfriend a ring on our first anniversary. I am giving him another one on our second anniversary later this month. :) I don't think there is anything odd about it at all. It's a meaningful gift that he can wear to his office job. I personally prefer to get him geek gifts -- something that fits his personality, not just his finger. The triforce from Zelda is a running theme, in part because it's an elegant expression of his nerdy side, and because he loves the symbolism (power, courage, wisdom).
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
I love Zelda and found these really awesome rings for it:
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I want them:P but my boyfriend(sadly) isn't very into Zelda:/
Thanks for your response:) and I hope he loves the second set you get him
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TheaAtherea Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013   General Artist
Those are awesome. :D

The first ring I got him was actually one I found through dA -- [link]
He loves it, but the material has started to get rough and almost rusty on the inside. Something to do with acid levels in sweat. :( It's a lovely ring, but it's a little bulky and has some sharper edges on it.

Custom Tungsten is the store I got this most recent one from. They have a page for the ring here. I had it engraved with our initials on the inside. It's a lot more elegant and comfortable to wear, and the material won't have the same problems as the first. No clue what I'm going to do for year 3 though. :giggle: I don't think I can get much better than that.
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
I like them both a lot:)
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kafine Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013   General Artist
There's not a gender problem. It doesn't matter who gives someone something and a lot of couples exchange trinkets and tokens.

I'd be careful of making too huge a deal out of it though. A ring has the cultural implication of staking a claim on someone or anticipation of long commitment and it's possible that he (and others) will see it as more heavyhanded a gesture than intended.

Don't refrain from making the gift... Just try not to be offended if he prefers to wear it on a chain instead of on his ring finger ;)
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
Alright:) thank you
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nonecansee Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist
It's a sweet gesture and the first posters of this thread have already said what I pretty much wanted to say :D

There's nothing wrong with wearing the same or similar accessories with your loved one. In fact, it might even be helpful for those people who don't have a clue and attempt to hit on you and you don't want them to.
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
We had a matching set at one point just something simple that he got at a craft fair or something, but mine was too large so I had to wear it on a chain around my neck. I'm pretty sure my niece and/or kitten stole it since I have to take it off to sleep._.
Part of the reason I wanted to make them in the first place, thought it would mean more if I did so than to just go out and get another set.
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nonecansee Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist
Aww :love: That's all the more thoughtful of you. :)
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
Considering he's not happy about the misplacement of the other o.O My theory is my sister, who is married and lives else where, will find it somewhere in her house. My two year old niece loves taking her aunts things and hiding them:)
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Euterpe-The-Egret Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I think you are a bit young to exchange rings. It is cute but a little extreme, especially with an "I love you speech." I'd say you both were a bit young to even be "talking about the future."

Just my opinion here.
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
Thank you for an honest opinion:)
As far as the speech goes...it'd be the same as any other thing I do just maybe not typed this time:P lol I always write him stuff for in cards and such.
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Euterpe-The-Egret Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
:shrug: When I was 16, I always felt that I was too young to be writing love notes and making exclamations of "true" love (or even just plain love). I saw my other friends date multiple people that they "loved" so much. They dated for a few years and then cried their eyes out afterward. Love is a strong word that tends to be thrown around quite frequently today.

Being 22, still feel that 16 is too young for all that. Hormones are crazy and boys are quite dumb at that age (they still are at 22...). Anyway, that is just my opinion.
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
For me there's a fine line between my relationship, some of my friends, and some other people. Not saying mine is better than others in any means O.O either. Just I have some friends who are in very nice relationships and I'd like to consider mine nice as well:P. But at the same time I do see the people telling each other they love each other after a week or so o.O so...love is thrown around a lot. I do agree with that statement o.O
Your opinion is welcomed, thanked and agreed with in a good many of your statements:P So, thank you:)
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Endeavor-To-Freefall Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
You can do whatever you jolly well please. Seems like a nice idea to me, the only thing that really matters is how he views it.
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
I suppose you are right:)
Thank you
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Somnusvorus Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013   Digital Artist
As long as you're not thinking of getting married at your age, it's fine.
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
Oh gosh no lol
No marriage...with him or anyone...until I'm out of college.
And maybe wait til I pay off some student loans._. stupid student loans:P
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Somnusvorus Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013   Digital Artist
Like I always say when people want to have kids; have kids when you have a stable job, a stable home and a stable relationship. Same goes for marriage, because it's a business. I wish you guys luck. <3
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EricaD218 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Photographer
Thank you:)
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Somnusvorus Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013   Digital Artist
No problem. =]
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