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Why is my friend pushing me away??

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xMorbid-Heartx Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013
Recently I’ve been texting this guy I knew from high school who is really shy, but has a great personality and is really funny. I didn’t know him well back in high school, he was my ex-boyfriend’s (who I am on friendly terms with) friend. Since college, I’ve started to gradually become friends with him by talking to him through texts and hanging out with mutual friends when we can (he lives 3 hours away from me). However, lately he takes a very long time to respond to texts or simply doesn’t respond at all. My friend assures me that he is probably just busy, but I feel like he somehow is now uninterested in a friendship. You might be asking yourself “Ok so what. You lost a semi-friend, big deal.” But, I think through our conversations and hanging out I have developed a crush on him. What should I do? Does his aloofness mean he is now uninterested and doesn’t even want a friendship?

I realize with the lack of information this is hard to answer, but I really don't know what to do. Should I just let the friendship we had just fade away?
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lukasbennett Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Professional Photographer
just talk to him... be honest.

if you dont ask, you dont know... at least you know where you stand!

he might be busy, he might not be interested in you, he might be playing hard to get... it could be a number of things... just ask!
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chubbycheeksmylove Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist
well, there are people who gets shy and try to distance themselves to the person when they knew that person like him/her. Like me :D
I cannot say that he is like that but, we don't know. I agree on :iconrascalcat34:'s opinion.
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
An idea for texting:
"You seem to be distant with me lately. Is everything alright? Am I burdening you?"
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xMorbid-Heartx Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
I think that's a good idea, but my only worry is that I'll come off as being needy or overbearing. I don't want him to feel like I'm pressuring him to give me attention.
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, maybe he feels that you already are! That's what you want to find out, right? You can even add that you honestly don't want to be like that with him, and that's why you're asking, willing to step aside a bit in case he needs a little space to breathe. :)
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signsofortune Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
These kind of relationships in my experience can be very delicate and touchy circumstances.

I think the reason is that one person's crush makes them act different, and then the other person will act different based on that, and then on top of natural changes there are the changes in behavior each person makes on purpose.

Anyways if you want to be his friend I think you should just be patient. Your needy feeling is there because you have a crush, like you said. He either doesn't understand this or he is uncomfortable with the way you are acting.
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xMorbid-Heartx Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
I hope it's not the way I'm acting. I'd hate to seem needy and annoying to him. I don't know, the last time I texted him (which was a few days ago) he didn't text me back. I've made sure not to text him since then and just wait to see if he will text me back (so I won’t seem annoying), but it's killing me. I feel like one moment we're close, then the next he's incredibly distant.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013
Did you ever give him a hint that you had a crush on him? Perhaps he feels awkward if you did. But if you didn't then maybe he really is just busy. And if he doesn't want friendship, then he is a fool.
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xMorbid-Heartx Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
I don't think I have, at least not on purpose. I'd hate that to be the case though. I'm not sure why I've developed this big crush on him, but I really love his friendship too. It would be kind of hurtful if he didn't want to be friends on me based on a suspicion that I like him.
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DanceAndMakeRomance Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
Why not be straightforward
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