Maybe if you could practice a sport...or at least workout!I've felt myself the effects of a bit of workout. Yeah some pushups,some dips,even attempting to do so as long as it makes you feel better.Maybe some dancing? Consider trying some Meditating,maybe some basic TaiChi or QiCong. Other things that really help are motivational songs/videos - I've got an idea!Check "COURAGE WOLF" He's one of the best coaches ever I'm not kidding.
I have tried it all. first, I have tried Karate. Shotokan Karate, after I get promoted for green belt. I quit because I feel like I want to try another this, second is I tried driving lesson. after learning and have a car. I also lost interest so I tried being a DJ. then band vocalist. u know, the more it takes for different taste, the more it.. I can't understand. having a BPD, ur like everything u want. u will try and if u already have it. u just wanted to quit tried another one. I have tried gyming, but still. I give up,
I am also video editing but nothing happens. all doesn't work, but yea... because I have interest of drawing or sketching, it kinda makes me forget my negative dark side. -___-
But that's amazing!Think of it this way : Tried two types of karate?Learned to drive,had the chance to be a dj and a band vocalist?You've got a car?The oportunity to even try such things would be an honor for me!Heck i can't even get common household materials for crafts,can't raise my voice in the house else everyone will complain.Not to mention i could never afford driving lessons let alone a car.I mean think of this : Not what you failed but what you succeeded.Not what you can't do but what you could do so far.The fact that you have a "wandering mind" is something not uncommon,especially for artists.I mean it makes you curious,allows you to try so many different things.
Therapy, medication and learning how to manage the symptoms. ever see the movie "Good Will Hunting?" The main character Will, played by Matt Damn has BPD. watch it if you haven't seen it. You might learn something from it.
Composure can and should be developed. Trying to be conscious about your feelings is the first step to stop them from tossing you around. When you notice that you're being too moody (in either way), remember that emotions are like your eyesight, hearing or any other of your senses: you wouldn't let yourself be fooled by any of these, right? You have to be skeptical about how you feel, and treat it as a mere signal. The source of the sensation is not always what induces it: like the world in the mirror is a mere reflection, maybe your anger toward someone or something is also one of your own disabilities you aren't satisfied with, and which you need to also work on in order to correct it.
Like the cashier didn't give back the change properly, and you only noticed it at home; you would be angry at the cashier, when you also didn't count the amount properly.
I don't say this is an easy thing to do. It takes a LOT of time. I've been on a conquest to reclaim myself for about seven years now, and I had a lot of hardships. If you find a role model – I suggest imagining something way cooler than any human being – then you can look at that, and try to become like it. At least, this worked wonders for me!
wow. its like u really know my feelings. yea, my feelings is really too moody because I am listening to this very wierd, I am not schizo but too many bubbles of negative shit running through my brain that I am so sensitive of it thats why I really have to burst of the anger. but yeah, running away from those stupid things in mind. how easily can I be skeptical. cause sometimes I can control it and be skeptical of a sudden but sometimes I cant so I just fight the shit out of him. I need big answer on how to be skeptical.
right now, I usually get into the internet to be skeptical but guess what. because of skipping to that. I also fall in love with a one internet guy. -___- and shit happens more for me
I am praising anime series for now. lol, as my role model. I don't know. I'm crazy, LMAO!
Practice makes perfect! And remember that all errors made are lessons in life for the future. No need to get overly dramatic. You seem to like Naruto, there might be some cool role models there, I'd personally go with someone like Kakashi or Tsunade, but it's more up to you to decide. I'd avoid to identify myself with overly negative characters like Orochimaru, though. You can also say that "Okay, so this character has some good traits, but that other one doesn't have this or that flaw, so I'll combine them".
Well, I have BPD, I'm unmedicated, and I'm engaged! I did see a therapist for 2 years who was extremely helpful in learning what my triggers were, how to identify my shift in moods, and how to cope with them. When I'm having an "episode" I tell my fiance that I'm being grumpy, and what I need him to do: Giving me space, hugging me, sometimes he even cooks me something lol.
Point is, yeah BPD is annoying, is stressful for all parties involved, but t's not impossible. Communication is so huge, I can't even begin to stress that. Just talk to the person. Ask them proactive question first, like "What can I do for you right now?" Or ask more specific things you can do like "Do you need space?" or "Do you want to do (whatever)?" and the like. Just let them know you're there. Hugest thing with BPD is a chronic fear of rejection, whether it's real or perceived. And rejection. So yeah. Stay calm and keep communicating. It's totally doable :3
I know how it feels. like u wanted to be a princess or basically, like a baby that ur bf will starting to take care of u all the time. give u too much attention. I am also giving my best, cause I am worried that he is hating me inside. u know the feeling. but my ex was kinda bit. too busy in job that makes me think something stupid again. u know that feeling like some bad stories about ur love is being created in ur brain that u wanna real fight him because u think he neglects u even tho its not because he is doing the rest for u and him.
once a hug, a kiss or a love trick. it turns me on so much . thats why, my babe says taking care of a BPD is like taking care of a new born baby that u know were to feed and shit. once u neglect, it will cry harder. but thats life, its still end up broken up into pieces.
JessicaAnn87Featured By OwnerJan 31, 2013Hobbyist General Artist
btw you CAN'T control their BPD, only they can. You can be patient and calm and try not hold the hurtful things said against you when they are angry, but its not up to you to control it. BTW...if they ask you questions base on paranoia, DO NOT feed their fears. example: I think I'm gaining weight...gah I wish I looked like that girl...do you think shes hot?" Its a way to get validation sometimes but nothing you say, honest or not will end the slew of paranoid questions following it. so you cant win.
but sometimes I can't control it. its like I want to shove it to his face that, ur lucky enough me have loved u and u can't find any other girl sweeter than me. thats how I feel. lol, I know I'm crazy but whatever
sometimes I'm so angry and sometimes so happy. like I'm high. we break up, then we make up. I dump him, I take him back. I look for other guy, I regret. I crawl to her for apology but then, I'm irritated that fast. like his love is getting empty or something. what I hate is when they are crying. but ugh! whatever, I'm just a bad person or something.
JessicaAnn87Featured By OwnerJan 31, 2013Hobbyist General Artist
I HAVE BPD. You need to have THICK skin and honestly, it wont work unless your partner gets the help they need. I have BPD pretty bad too. They will push you away and hate you one day and love you like the greatest thing since sliced bread the next.
I do it to my bf without meaning it. When I'm hurt I want him to hurt. They target people they are closest too, including friends, bf's, gf's and family. It can be a nightmare, but if she isn't willing to go see someone for help I would FORGET about this relationship.
Level what? and yea, I know. they need pyschiatrist or something. but I don't really need that. seriously. my BPD is not that harshed or I don't know. thats why I am asking what level. those hardcore BPD one was does level 5 BPD?
ur a bisexual? am I correct. cause I am straight. its just that, my feelings is soo unstable. I have hurt many people I love including my BF. its just that, at the end. I realize I hurt him so I say sorry to him then. ;'(