Everyone talks to themselves in their heads, or argue with themselves, or anything. That's natural. For some people it's easier to do so when they picture the other part of their thoughts to be someone else. I don't think that's unhealthy at all.
Milana992Featured By OwnerFeb 7, 2013Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well I don't really have that kind of problem but when I'm bored or lonely I usually make up stories in my head and put myself in different roles. Or then I just go to sleep because I usually see good dreams about these stories. Well I actually sleep because of my depression but why should I stay awake when I could see live in dream even for a moment
Well... i heard a voice once. Clear as day to and angry at me. It cursed me... never heard it ever again. Ps i was alone in the house at the time... Also i am very much insane and i would not change it for anything. I just seem to enjoy life so much more then the sane people :3 Glory be to Khorne!!!
UBOA-CHANFeatured By OwnerFeb 5, 2013Hobbyist Digital Artist
i dont have any friends that live near me (heck, they dont even live in the same country as me) so i have imaginary friends too, except the way i "talk" to them (alot of them are videogame characters) is a bit...er...different? ill talk as myself and then answer as that character, voice and all...
I don't think that there's anything wrong with you. I have conversations with 'imaginary friends', too and I know it can be really comforting and makes me happy too. Not Hetalia characters though (but I like the show ), but my own characters. And they are extremly important to me. Okay, maybe they are more to me than just fictional characters so...I can understand you, I think.^^ Of course there are always people who will judge you for that, but there's no need to. There's nothing wrong with you as long as you don't lose touch to reality, and as long as you don't refuse to interact with the real world, too.
its just a replacement because you lack a certain somthing in an area of your life.
i have imaginary football confrences while playing football manager. For me its an aspiration and a fantasy that will never be fulfilled, and thats how i cope with that thought as a coping mechanism. like your creating these characters inside your head to ineract with you due to lack of friends
Heh, I don't see anything wrong with that. I actually do the same thing, except talk out loud, to my story characters when I'm alone, and I'm 24. There's nothing wrong with it in my opinion, just make sure that you can always see the diffrence between real life and the world you've created.
Well, you're not going insane, that's for sure. Infact, there have been studies to show that talking with yourself out loud or in your head, or with imaginary people, is actually a sign of good mental health. There's nothing wrong with you doing this especially if it makes you feel better. It's actually a really good thing that you keep it in your head so that people don't look at you weird if you were just talking to the wall or something haha.
No one will laugh at you Actually your post makes me remember of my own imaginary friends when I was about your same age. I remember I liked creating characters and made them live and talk in my mind. I liked to dream about their adventures, and I was very happy to imagine their stories. Sometimes I tried to write or draw about them...you can try this too. You can try and draw or write stories about your favourite Hetalia characters, and you could also add yourself to these stories. Make them real!!
As long as you realize that they're just anime characters, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't utilize your imagination for entertainment. When I was your age I used to have these absurd crushes on anime or game characters, haha. Whenever I'd get stuck on a particular character I'd be in a sort of phase where I'd write about or draw them a lot. Eventually I grew out of the crush part when I started realizing that actual men were more interesting, but from time to time I still am seized with the occasional phase where I want to draw a character a lot. Right now it's Sergei Dragunov from Tekken, lol.
Anyhow, social interaction is really important at your age and it would be good for you to get out and make some real life friends too. Maybe you could join a group in your town, like a YA book club or something, if only to make some acquaintances you can visit when you get lonely. Perhaps if your parents know some other homeschooled families with kids your age, you could ask them to arrange a get-together or some kind of meet?
Awww that's so sweet, you're adorable. There's nothing wrong with it, you have a very good imagination. I think you should only start to worry if you get voices in your head telling you to do things that you know are bad but you have an urge to obey them. Fortunately, from what you've described of your situation, I don't think you have to worry. It's natural for a youngen' like yourself, who doesn't have many friend to have friends that "aren't really there".
I feel like it's important to remember the imaginary friends. They were there for us when nobody else was.
When I was your age I used to be in love with Harry Potter and actually believed he excisted. I think people with imaginary friends are awesome, because they have such a great imagination, they can actually feel less lonely and happier only with their imagination! Makes me want to have imaginary friends again.
This was basically the only way I ever stayed awake during 10th grade math class. Although it was usually more of a "mental fan fiction" thing with the characters talking to each other instead of me, but yeah.
Pretty sure that's just called daydreaming, though.
This thread is a great example of why people shouldn't get help on the internet.
Everyone does this. I did it when I was your age, younger, and still to this day. Maybe not with anime characters, but with characters, real people, fictional beings, concepts, whatever. It's just imagination and there's nothing wrong with it. You clearly know they're not real or there. It's not much different than writing fanfiction, but in your head.
You don't have split personalities or any medical issue, from what you've said alone, and none of us could correctly diagnose you if you did.
What is concerning is your absolute lack of human interaction. All my homeschooled friends had a lot of field trips and get togethers with other home schooled kids, and they did TONS of community work, to make up for it. Consider community work, volunteering, or joining sports teams/clubs/etc. A lot of towns have youth centers for teenagers to hang out, that could be a good opportunity.
There's nothing wrong with that... Even me in my early 20's right now I do have those kind of things.. but not as much as when I do in my teens. it's just that... my imaginary friend right now is a dog. hahaha! (when I was in my teens, yes, I had anime imaginary friends.)
I do that all the time....like I get characters from my favourite animes/movies to 'speak' back to me if I'm doing something....
They change for me aswell, like if I'm at my martial arts place, I normally have Grimmjow (from Bleach) or Rukia telling me what to do and if I'm drawing I have Kamijo (he's real.....but shares the same values of beauty so I can relate) commenting on it
And I'm not suffering from anything...It helps me to reflect on myself and I think it makes you more connected with yourself ^^~
I think it's pretty normal, mainly because you are feeling lonely and even though you have friends on DA, it's not the same as friends that are near you. It might also be because of your issues, anxiety and depression, you love this serial and those 'imaginary' or fantasy characters kinda fill an empty room in your head, and somehow make you happy. Perhaps because of your strong connection to these characters, you feel more 'bonded' to them, even just in your head. I think it can happen to anyone, I mean, even to imagine a character, doesn't mean you are abnormal. It would be abnormal if you denied the whole story and told us that you have imaginary friends but you are aware of the situation. Even so, I think many of us even talk to ourselves or pretend to talk to somebody else, I mean, talk loudly, I do it sometimes, and I know lonely people do it as well.
On imaginary friends, I'm assuming you partially feel it's a sign of insanity because no one else you know at your age has ever confessed to having one. To me, even if you didn't have depression or anxiety, having imaginary friends doesn't necessarily make you insane. It means you process your thoughts differently and in some ways it has its benefits. I may be mistaken on this, but I recall a psychologist proposing imaginary friends being fragments reflecting your subconscious- citation needed. Where I go with this is pointing out that the goal of the subconscious is self-preservation or simply put, you keeping yourself alive and well. Therefore, I seriously recommend you consider seeking help if America, Canada and England starts influencing you in decisions and/or berating you in ways that would lead you to your own demise.
As for going about having imaginary friends, you're in a society which mainly takes such behaviors as a sign of eccentricity or insanity. So, just keep it to yourself and those precious, understanding ones that you know you can trust. When you're in the mall by yourself walking along, just have those conversations in your head; when you're in your bedroom by yourself, feel free to actually speak.
I'm 21 years old and I've been having an imaginary friend of six years and counting. Excluding her, I have a girlfriend and I have good friends who are there for me when I need them and vice versa. I used to struggle with my depression like you as well and having an imaginary friend contributed to overcoming that fight. Though I haven't watched much of Hetalia, I love anime as well with Serial Experiments Lain and Azumanga Daioh being two of my all-time favourites. I'm happy with who I am now and I doubt I would ever want to change. So, don't worry about having imaginary friends, you're not the only one.
That does make me feel a whole lot better and I better understand from that little bit that the characters may actually be keeping me sane, at least that's how I understood it and to me, he seems to fit. See, America is the hero and likes to save people, thus keeping me safe in a mental state when family issues or whatnot happen. Canada is the shy, quiet one and I feel like that a lot, thus causing that one to act as a best friend. England is the careful one who has raised America and doesn't want to see anyone hurt and I see him as another protective figure in my mind. I guess I could say that, after analyzing them, they work together to keep me from making bad choices but they don't keep me from making my own choices. That probably didn't make any sense but for me, I better understand why they hang around and "talk" to me now
I would say at your age that isn't crazy, it's just having an imaginary friend.
Also I would say it might be good to get to know people with the same interests in you in real life. Imaginary friends may be comforting, but they're also ultimately not real and not a solution to our problems.
Actually when I spent days at a time alone when I lived at my dads(he would be at work most of the day)I'll admit I did that, bleach characters, gundam wing characters, it helped me cope. Pretty much conversations in my head.
Solum-IpsumFeatured By OwnerJan 31, 2013Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I was thinking about elaborately creating a tulpa, but I don't have time to concentrate on it enough, and it might be problematic from a solipsistic approach (I've even written a small essay expressing my concerns). Since you already have these mental projections, it could be actually better for you to learn a bit more about them.