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"Imaginary Friends"

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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know I'll probably only be laughed at for this but please try to be nice. Alright so, here goes. I'm 14 and I love the anime, 'Hetalia'. I love everything about it and the characters are amazing. Here's the thing. I'm not sure if they're actually what you would call "imaginary friends" but in a way, I sorta see the characters but not like on my TV or computer. I'm homeschooled and the only people I talk to are my dA friends. When I get lonely or just feel like I'm having a bad day, I tend to talk to the Hetalia characters. Usually I talk to America, Canada and/or England since those are my top three favorite characters. Now, I don't actually talk out loud to them like it may sound. Since I'm very shy, I have conversations with them in my head and yes, a lot of the time, I can hear the actual character's voice talking to me in my head. Actually typing this, I feel like I've gone insane or something XD I do have anxity and depression, I'll admit and even though he's a fictional character, I say that America is my hero and I love him to death. I don't know if I'm just trying to make myself feel less lonely or if I've really lost it but if you ask me, this doesn't really bother me and I don't want to lose the ability to "talk" to them because it makes me so much happier but it's kinda confusing.
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Elmida Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013
Everyone talks to themselves in their heads, or argue with themselves, or anything. That's natural. For some people it's easier to do so when they picture the other part of their thoughts to be someone else. I don't think that's unhealthy at all.
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Milana992 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well I don't really have that kind of problem but when I'm bored or lonely I usually make up stories in my head and put myself in different roles. Or then I just go to sleep because I usually see good dreams about these stories. Well I actually sleep because of my depression but why should I stay awake when I could see live in dream even for a moment :D
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Mihaihen Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
Well... i heard a voice once. Clear as day to and angry at me. It cursed me... never heard it ever again. Ps i was alone in the house at the time... Also i am very much insane and i would not change it for anything. I just seem to enjoy life so much more then the sane people :3
Glory be to Khorne!!!
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Knightster Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013
If you just talk to them that's fine, but if they talk back, have yourself tested for schizophrenia.
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UBOA-CHAN Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i dont have any friends that live near me (heck, they dont even live in the same country as me) so i have imaginary friends too, except the way i "talk" to them (alot of them are videogame characters) is a bit...er...different? ill talk as myself and then answer as that character, voice and all...
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AskNekoNekoNihon Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
(...I DO THAT 0c0 AHMAIGAWD!!! WE'RE LIKE...BESTIES GONE TOO FAR XDDD)
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Lmao thank you for the comment =w=
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AskNekoNekoNihon Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
(hehe
(^w^)\
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Osayioniwabo Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't think that there's anything wrong with you. I have conversations with 'imaginary friends', too and I know it can be really comforting and makes me happy too. Not Hetalia characters though (but I like the show :P), but my own characters. And they are extremly important to me. Okay, maybe they are more to me than just fictional characters so...I can understand you, I think.^^ Of course there are always people who will judge you for that, but there's no need to. There's nothing wrong with you as long as you don't lose touch to reality, and as long as you don't refuse to interact with the real world, too. :)
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lukasbennett Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2013  Professional Photographer
dont worry... its not uncommon.

its just a replacement because you lack a certain somthing in an area of your life.

i have imaginary football confrences while playing football manager. For me its an aspiration and a fantasy that will never be fulfilled, and thats how i cope with that thought as a coping mechanism. like your creating these characters inside your head to ineract with you due to lack of friends
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Lady-WynterFyre Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Heh, I don't see anything wrong with that. I actually do the same thing, except talk out loud, to my story characters when I'm alone, and I'm 24. There's nothing wrong with it in my opinion, just make sure that you can always see the diffrence between real life and the world you've created.
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LadrodellaSabbia Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I wish I could help, I really do, but it looks like the people on this forum have you covered. :)
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AnAliasUnknown Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013
My friend and I did something similar when we were younger. It made things more interesting, in my opinion. As long as you don't let it get out of hand, I don't really see the harm.
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Skytch Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013
Well, you're not going insane, that's for sure. Infact, there have been studies to show that talking with yourself out loud or in your head, or with imaginary people, is actually a sign of good mental health. There's nothing wrong with you doing this especially if it makes you feel better. It's actually a really good thing that you keep it in your head so that people don't look at you weird if you were just talking to the wall or something haha.
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Bobbelebien Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It's normal

Unless you actually start seeing them and think they're real you're fine
You'renot the only one who does it, just sounds like day dreaming to me
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bottled-mermaid Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013
No one will laugh at you :hug:
Actually your post makes me remember of my own imaginary friends when I was about your same age. I remember I liked creating characters and made them live and talk in my mind. I liked to dream about their adventures, and I was very happy to imagine their stories. Sometimes I tried to write or draw about them...you can try this too. You can try and draw or write stories about your favourite Hetalia characters, and you could also add yourself to these stories. Make them real!!
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Cytoscourge Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You're fine dude - just make some tulpas for yourself and you'll be as happy as can be~
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alectryomachy Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013
As long as you realize that they're just anime characters, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't utilize your imagination for entertainment. When I was your age I used to have these absurd crushes on anime or game characters, haha. Whenever I'd get stuck on a particular character I'd be in a sort of phase where I'd write about or draw them a lot. Eventually I grew out of the crush part when I started realizing that actual men were more interesting, but from time to time I still am seized with the occasional phase where I want to draw a character a lot. Right now it's Sergei Dragunov from Tekken, lol. :icondragunovplz:

Anyhow, social interaction is really important at your age and it would be good for you to get out and make some real life friends too. Maybe you could join a group in your town, like a YA book club or something, if only to make some acquaintances you can visit when you get lonely. Perhaps if your parents know some other homeschooled families with kids your age, you could ask them to arrange a get-together or some kind of meet?
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Shadow-Proxy Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Awww that's so sweet, you're adorable.
There's nothing wrong with it, you have a very good imagination. I think you should only start to worry if you get voices in your head telling you to do things that you know are bad but you have an urge to obey them. Fortunately, from what you've described of your situation, I don't think you have to worry. It's natural for a youngen' like yourself, who doesn't have many friend to have friends that "aren't really there".

I feel like it's important to remember the imaginary friends. They were there for us when nobody else was.
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wezenbeesje Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Professional General Artist
When I was your age I used to be in love with Harry Potter and actually believed he excisted. :P
I think people with imaginary friends are awesome, because they have such a great imagination, they can actually feel less lonely and happier only with their imagination! :D
Makes me want to have imaginary friends again. :p
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Blackrabbit98 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
u just have an over active imagination, you'll grow out of it some day
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ShoppingMonk Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013
Dump....
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RavynneNevyrmore Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Student Digital Artist
This was basically the only way I ever stayed awake during 10th grade math class. Although it was usually more of a "mental fan fiction" thing with the characters talking to each other instead of me, but yeah.

Pretty sure that's just called daydreaming, though.
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Fuyuko7 Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Nothing bad about that, I have a few fictional characters from anime/games that are like role models to me :)
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bohobella Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
This thread is a great example of why people shouldn't get help on the internet.

Everyone does this. I did it when I was your age, younger, and still to this day. Maybe not with anime characters, but with characters, real people, fictional beings, concepts, whatever. It's just imagination and there's nothing wrong with it. You clearly know they're not real or there. It's not much different than writing fanfiction, but in your head.

You don't have split personalities or any medical issue, from what you've said alone, and none of us could correctly diagnose you if you did.

What is concerning is your absolute lack of human interaction. All my homeschooled friends had a lot of field trips and get togethers with other home schooled kids, and they did TONS of community work, to make up for it. Consider community work, volunteering, or joining sports teams/clubs/etc. A lot of towns have youth centers for teenagers to hang out, that could be a good opportunity. 


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HasaY Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
There's nothing wrong with that...
Even me in my early 20's right now I do have those kind of things.. but not as much as when I do in my teens.
it's just that... my imaginary friend right now is a dog. hahaha! (when I was in my teens, yes, I had anime imaginary friends.)
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
After reading all these, it makes me feel a lot better that I'm not the only one that does this XD
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HasaY Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
good for you! ;)
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Romanosvitalregions Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I feel that same way with Germany He's my hero :3
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Vanhir Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
It's only a problem if the men in white see you doing it.
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I will keep that in mind thank you *starts singing 'They're Coming to Take Me Away' because that came to mind*
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ivanka-a Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I do that all the time....like I get characters from my favourite animes/movies to 'speak' back to me if I'm doing something....

They change for me aswell, like if I'm at my martial arts place, I normally have Grimmjow (from Bleach) or Rukia telling me what to do and if I'm drawing I have Kamijo (he's real.....but shares the same values of beauty so I can relate) commenting on it

And I'm not suffering from anything...It helps me to reflect on myself and I think it makes you more connected with yourself ^^~


Glad I found someone that does it aswell~ ^^
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
*hugs* I'm glad that I found others that do that ^^~

For me, it's really just a comfort I guess since I don't have any friends aside from on dA
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ivanka-a Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Yay~ and hehe same....
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puppy-dangerous Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
If it isn't bothering you or getting in the way with your real life...then do it. Who cares. It's only a problem if it's a problem. :)
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lightning-13 Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
I think it's pretty normal, mainly because you are feeling lonely and even though you have friends on DA, it's not the same as friends that are near you. It might also be because of your issues, anxiety and depression, you love this serial and those 'imaginary' or fantasy characters kinda fill an empty room in your head, and somehow make you happy. Perhaps because of your strong connection to these characters, you feel more 'bonded' to them, even just in your head. I think it can happen to anyone, I mean, even to imagine a character, doesn't mean you are abnormal. It would be abnormal if you denied the whole story and told us that you have imaginary friends :P but you are aware of the situation. Even so, I think many of us even talk to ourselves or pretend to talk to somebody else, I mean, talk loudly, I do it sometimes, and I know lonely people do it as well.
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Cunnies Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
On imaginary friends, I'm assuming you partially feel it's a sign of insanity because no one else you know at your age has ever confessed to having one. To me, even if you didn't have depression or anxiety, having imaginary friends doesn't necessarily make you insane. It means you process your thoughts differently and in some ways it has its benefits. I may be mistaken on this, but I recall a psychologist proposing imaginary friends being fragments reflecting your subconscious- citation needed. Where I go with this is pointing out that the goal of the subconscious is self-preservation or simply put, you keeping yourself alive and well. Therefore, I seriously recommend you consider seeking help if America, Canada and England starts influencing you in decisions and/or berating you in ways that would lead you to your own demise.

As for going about having imaginary friends, you're in a society which mainly takes such behaviors as a sign of eccentricity or insanity. So, just keep it to yourself and those precious, understanding ones that you know you can trust. When you're in the mall by yourself walking along, just have those conversations in your head; when you're in your bedroom by yourself, feel free to actually speak.

I'm 21 years old and I've been having an imaginary friend of six years and counting. Excluding her, I have a girlfriend and I have good friends who are there for me when I need them and vice versa. I used to struggle with my depression like you as well and having an imaginary friend contributed to overcoming that fight. Though I haven't watched much of Hetalia, I love anime as well with Serial Experiments Lain and Azumanga Daioh being two of my all-time favourites. I'm happy with who I am now and I doubt I would ever want to change. So, don't worry about having imaginary friends, you're not the only one. :)
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That does make me feel a whole lot better :) and I better understand from that little bit that the characters may actually be keeping me sane, at least that's how I understood it and to me, he seems to fit. See, America is the hero and likes to save people, thus keeping me safe in a mental state when family issues or whatnot happen. Canada is the shy, quiet one and I feel like that a lot, thus causing that one to act as a best friend. England is the careful one who has raised America and doesn't want to see anyone hurt and I see him as another protective figure in my mind. I guess I could say that, after analyzing them, they work together to keep me from making bad choices but they don't keep me from making my own choices. That probably didn't make any sense but for me, I better understand why they hang around and "talk" to me now :)
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signsofortune Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013
I would say at your age that isn't crazy, it's just having an imaginary friend.

Also I would say it might be good to get to know people with the same interests in you in real life. Imaginary friends may be comforting, but they're also ultimately not real and not a solution to our problems.
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risesatspring Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Actually when I spent days at a time alone when I lived at my dads(he would be at work most of the day)I'll admit I did that, bleach characters, gundam wing characters, it helped me cope. Pretty much conversations in my head.
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HametsuNoCharge Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
....as long as you don't start to think they're tangible....that's just for 14 year old brain experiencing sings of moderate to severe fangirlism XD
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
XD Alright
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HametsuNoCharge Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
XD yep REVEL IN THE FANDOM!
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
XDD
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HametsuNoCharge Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:D
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If they're autonomous, they are probably "tulpa". (essentialy split personalities, a special way of thinking) [link]
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's very interesting actually o.o
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Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I was thinking about elaborately creating a tulpa, but I don't have time to concentrate on it enough, and it might be problematic from a solipsistic approach (I've even written a small essay expressing my concerns). Since you already have these mental projections, it could be actually better for you to learn a bit more about them.
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ShadoeKat Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
o.o I see....
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WatchHerFly Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013
I used to do this a lot with my own character creations.
Sometimes, for the hell of it, I still do it...
It sometimes helps me get inspired to develop them more.
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