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I've been masturbating and now I feel bad...

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ChibiBlu Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2013
We all at one point or another get sexual urges right? Well I've been having them often and when they hit, I usually just lie in bed and go nuts when everyone else is asleep. Yeah, it feels great releasing the tension and it makes for good stress relief, but is it okay for me to be doing so in the first place?
Let me clarify what I'm experiencing in a not that graphic manor.
Bed, mild warmth, touch, better touch, sweaty hot, orgasm, relaxing sensation after orgasm, cooldown, "Did I just do that?" moment, shame, moderate regret, curiosity if God is nodding lightly in shame at me and all others who play in the valleys or shine their flutes, inner debate about whether it's a sin to masturbate, think about health benefits (yes, it's proven it can be good for you... at least for men) to counter argument, have so many questions I don't know the answers to... repeat roughly 4-7 nights later.

I'd like as many of these questions answered as possible.
Am I committing a sin when I do this? Does the Bible say anything against masturbation?
Is there a way to combat the sexual urges effectively if I need to stop?
I do have a crush on my friend, and I think about him when I "goof off." Would it be okay to tell him?
Are there any health hazards, like STD's or infections you can get from playing by yourself?
Is it okay to feel guilty about this? Do you feel guilty if you do it too?
What if my desires get the better of me and lead to me acting a bit too sexy than my friend would be comfortable with?
If for some reason I should be pleasuring myself for my own benefit, how much is too much?

I'm sorry if this is something that is grossing you out, but this is pretty heavy on my conscious. I don't want to be upseting God by doing something I legitimately enjoy, but I'm worried about how else I'm going to express these sexual urges in a not sexual way
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M-G-Studio Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Masturbation is basically you exploring your own body and figuring out what you like and how you like it. God would never punish you for such a thing, why would he even give us the pleasure sensation if it was wrong to feel such a thing?
The only thing you have to make sure is that your hands are always clean, touching yourself with hands that either have lotion or are not clean (lotions have chemicals in them that might not be the best to get to such a sensitive place), such things can cause infections or much worse. Always keep your area and your hands clean.
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ChibiBlu Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013
Would an Admin who sees this please close this forum? My questions were answered about a week ago, and everyone is just saying the same thing. If anyone else is reading this, is there anyway to contact an admins I can close this forum? I don't think I can close it myself.
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TheArtOfCBYoung Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Masturbation is one of the little proofs that God gave us to show us that he loves us and wants us to be happy. Yes, this world is horrible at times, so he gives us little pleasures to make up for it. Candy, orgasms, true friends, etc,
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nishi Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Am I committing a sin when I do this? Does the Bible say anything against masturbation?

Hopefully someone answered it by now, I don't think so! I don't think you're committing a sin. Everyone worries about that at some point but later you'll do it plenty and know it's normal.

Is there a way to combat the sexual urges effectively if I need to stop?

Uh the other way is just by dating someone and doing things with someone else other than yourself. Can't really stop or suppress it - you just feel like you want to be able to.

I do have a crush on my friend, and I think about him when I "goof off." Would it be okay to tell him?

Haha, he might like it, start slow and enter a sexual conversation with him gently. It might be weird, if you can talk about sexual things with him openly you could bring it up. (:

Are there any health hazards, like STD's or infections you can get from playing by yourself?

I don't think so - you can get yourself a lil' bruised if you're rough! And I don't know anything about yeast infections, just be careful if you use any kinda lotions and keep your objects clean!

Is it okay to feel guilty about this? Do you feel guilty if you do it too?

It's normal to feel guilty, I used to, don't anymore, couldn't imagine it now. Unless you fap to something you don't wanna but it happens too. ;3

What if my desires get the better of me and lead to me acting a bit too sexy than my friend would be comfortable with?

Everyone makes mistakes, you'll learn if you do. (:

If for some reason I should be pleasuring myself for my own benefit, how much is too much?

Like I said, don't get bruised! And maybe get outside a lil' here and there if you're stayin' inside too much doin' it. Just enjoy yourself, really!
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Zayata Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It's perfectly normal; many doctors consider it healthy.
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GeNeRaLLuLz Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
It's fine, back in my day we did it all the time
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
If god is all mighty and didn't want us masturbating he would of done something to stop us like taking away temptation or sexual pleasure therefore it is not a sin.
Basically by masturbating you're combating sexual urges from going any further.
I don't recommend telling your friend until you're in a close relationship and you're will to start a sexual relationship.
The worst you can get from playing with yourself is an infection or thrush which isn't fatal.
It's okay to feel guilty because your religion and culture tells you it's a bad thing. I don't feel the slightest bit guilty because it relaxes my sexual stress and urges so I can think like a regular person.
Do it as much as you feel the need to.
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saykha Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Student Writer
This is a very interesting topic: I remember when we were discussing it in Bible College - it was awkward but very interesting. The Bible doesn't mention anything about masturbation. The only thing it came down to, was what you were "thinking" about while you were masturbating. You see, it's not really the action that's a sin - but your thoughts at the time. I'm sure you fantasize about people when you masturbate - this is the only thing that God is not ok with. You see, the thought and the act are one in the same with God:

"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28

But other than that, I didn't find anything wrong with masturbation at the end of the class (nor did anyone else really). My thoughts on it is just to be careful not to fantasize about people, and to make sure you don't give yourself a lust problem by masturbating too much. Remember, too much of something causes problems for you in the long run.

God loves you and I'm sure He's pleased that you're asking about this because you want to do things that pleases Him :heart: You'll do fine if your life is well-balanced.
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Imnurhest Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No, you should not feel bad. Pleasure is not a sin, especially if it keeps you happy, gives you health benefits, and erases stress to make you more energized.
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Mihaihen Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2013
Yea, happens to me too ;_; I fap then i can't fap again for like 10~8 minutes, sux man. I wish i could fap non stop!
All hail Slaneshi!!!
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