Curiosity happens. You might be straight but just fancy the other side, you might be gay but are just finding it out. Don't stress about it! People "need" to know WHEN and IF -you- think they need to. It's your life, it's your sexuality, it's your decision. Never feel bad about being who you are. The sooner you not only accept it but own it, you will be so much happier!
chirohitoFeatured By OwnerJan 24, 2013Hobbyist Traditional Artist
eh, i'm a girl and i'm not gay, but i don't MIND them either, you know what i'm saying? i think girls are hot. i like to look at a bust. yeah, i'm quite perverted. but unless you do somethin, like, i dunno, touch yourself while thinkin of another guy, then you're pretty straight.
it doesn't really matter if you even ARE gay, bisexual, transexual, etc. YOU are who YOU are. YOU love who YOU love. nobody can tell you different, because nobody else knows you better than you do (asides from mothers).
I don't think you're bi, but maybe bi-curious. I really don't know much about determining sexuality because I already known and have known for years that I'm straight. I can start analyzing by knowing your age.
angelxxuanFeatured By OwnerJan 22, 2013Student General Artist
if you are curious then go for it. it could be just society throwing up ideas and fantasies or it could be legit, you never know until you actually step up and try it out. there's bound to be places to hang out to find same or opposite gender relationships, don't be afraid to live. those who don't accept you, then it's not the end of the world, hang around those who do accept you, may be less but it's more positive than so much negative, you don't have to put up with that.
I'm bi and when I came out nobody cared. I say just go with your heart. Maybe experiment a little bit. I personally believe that all girls are bi to some extent or another even if they are not aware of it. Maybe tell a good friend how you feel. They know you best ad know the best advice to give you.
Sexual prefferance's not a sin or bad thing, just be sincere... I know this will be hard to understand for othe rpople, but first try... may people gets confused, and then they try out... you have two possible results: (duh!) You either like men as well as women, or... you just like one of them...
Just try... our society (in world) needs to be more open and less judging...
No such thing. Do you feel sexual attraction/desire? Then you're 'bisexual' to some extent. Maybe you tend to prefer both men and woman to a more equal extent to most, and that's perfectly fine! Where you stand on this scale isn't a choice, but for the most part, "-sexuality" is. My advice is not to get sucked into labels - be yourself. Most people who "come out" just move into a different closet. Fuck that.
One word of caution: If you let people around you know, it will make a world of difference if you can gracefully understand and accept what they're comfortable with hearing after the fact. Do you want your "straight guy" friends ranting at you for hours about every girl they've banged? I don't know anyone in the right mind who would.
don't be so quick to label yourself if these feelings only popped up recently, as you say. they may not be lasting- they may go away after a little while.
and don't go looking for a girlfriend right now. or boyfriend for that matter. you seem too confused and tense right now. i think you just need to relax and calm down and try to focus on other things in your life besides girlfriends, boyfriends, and sex. that way, you can clear your head and then come back to this issue later. if you try to rush yourself now into labels, "coming out," girlfriends, etc then you may just become even more frustrated and confused than you are now. so just focus on things like your own personal dreams and goals, family, religion (if you have one), and friendships. good luck
OprahWinfreyXFeatured By OwnerJan 18, 2013Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Ever heard "it gets better"? well it does, but only if you're willing to make it better. Emancipate yourself from mental slavery. Why should society have a say in your life, Vive la vida! assault norms and violate folkways, you're no one's bitch. Be who you wanna be, please.
Eh, just don't pay any attention to it. If you still feel this way in a few years, then you probably are.
And you really shouldn't be ashamed of it. Being bisexual is more complicated than being straight or gay, but there's nothing wrong with it. Personally, I prefer the term queer, but there's a huge list of terms that people use.
Labels aren't particularly helpful as there are dozens and dozens of orientations out there. I still don't get the concept, but some people just have a fetish for members of the same sex. I'm not sure I understand how that's different from being slightly bi, but I'm not about to impose my values on other people.
Well, you don't have to use one and no one can force you to use one. If you want to find people that don't want a fucking sexual orientation label, pomosexual it is. Pomosexuality is not a orientation, it's a non-orientation and does not contradict itself because of it.
Ignoring the complications involves conceptualizations of sexuality and sexual orientation. Feelings=/=Sexual attraction. Why do I have the point out that it is not that simple of a matter every single time?
You do realize different feelings do suggests that there are many possibilities and you've obviously ignoring the subjectivity of feelings plus sexuality.
For example: Assume that I want to have sex with a guy/girl. You might think that it's because that I'm sexually attracted to him/her in a certain conceptualized form, but in reality, one could have sex with another person for so many other reasons other than sexual attraction. The reasons could range from emotional attraction, experimental desire, curiousity, out of boredom, reproductive reason, etc. And some of those reason does not necessarily counts when factoring into the average laymen perspective of sexuality when sexual behaviors does not count.
How young are you? If you're between 16-20 or so, spontaneous gay feelings are common even in mostly straight people, as the body works itself out. I'd wait a lot longer before coming out about anything.