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Im might be bisexual.. HELP PLEASE!!

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too-hot-for-you Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
Ive never felt "gay" before but recently, i just have these feelings and fantasies. i still am attracted toguys but its a different sensation idk which i prefer. i can NOT come

out to anyone. im too ashamed. i want a girlfriend to hold and be with so badly but i dont know any other gays.. why me?
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Key-Master-Himeko Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013   Traditional Artist
Curiosity happens. You might be straight but just fancy the other side, you might be gay but are just finding it out.
Don't stress about it! People "need" to know WHEN and IF -you- think they need to. It's your life, it's your sexuality, it's your decision. Never feel bad about being who you are. The sooner you not only accept it but own it, you will be so much happier!
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Maylion Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Church can heal you from your confusion.


fuck no, Just kidding.


actually everyone goes through a '' Love the same gender phase'' when they are child/teenager (SO I HEARD)

wether you're bi-sexual or not, you're good the way you are, and try to see yourself like that.
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ApAtHeTIcBuNnY Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You don't have to tell anyone about your sexuality if you don't want to. Nobody is forcing you to come out, so chillax, yo.
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chirohito Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
eh, i'm a girl and i'm not gay, but i don't MIND them either, you know what i'm saying?
i think girls are hot.
i like to look at a bust.
yeah, i'm quite perverted.
but unless you do somethin, like, i dunno, touch yourself while thinkin of another guy, then you're pretty straight.
;)
it doesn't really matter if you even ARE gay, bisexual, transexual, etc.
YOU are who YOU are.
YOU love who YOU love.
nobody can tell you different, because nobody else knows you better than you do (asides from mothers).
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chirohito Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
*girl
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edaofblacklagoon Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
nothings wrong with being bisexual. impreg a woman and ur out of it. HAHAHHAHAH!
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Skytch Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013
I don't think you're bi, but maybe bi-curious. I really don't know much about determining sexuality because I already known and have known for years that I'm straight. I can start analyzing by knowing your age.
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JStar19000 Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
In Lady Gaga's "Born This Way"...

"No matter gay, straight, or bi, lesbian transgendered life, I'm on the right track, baby, I was born to survive!"
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bleedlings Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Just love whoever you want to love.
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angelxxuan Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Student General Artist
if you are curious then go for it. it could be just society throwing up ideas and fantasies or it could be legit, you never know until you actually step up and try it out. there's bound to be places to hang out to find same or opposite gender relationships, don't be afraid to live. those who don't accept you, then it's not the end of the world, hang around those who do accept you, may be less but it's more positive than so much negative, you don't have to put up with that.
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DaisyTailsMousery Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
I'm bi and when I came out nobody cared. I say just go with your heart. Maybe experiment a little bit. I personally believe that all girls are bi to some extent or another even if they are not aware of it. Maybe tell a good friend how you feel. They know you best ad know the best advice to give you.
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Mercury-Crowe Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2013  Professional Artisan Crafter
So? I know lots of guys like that. Don't worry about it.

Stressing over your sexuality is not good for anybody. Just let things go the way they do naturally.

Being attracted to or fantasizing about the same sex isn't deviant, and it doesn't mean you're gay. It's perfectly fine.

And I know tons of guys who experimented in college who are married or have girlfriends. Who KNOW, maybe even participated, in said experimentation.

Just relax and try not to worry :)
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bohobella Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
...You joined today, with a sexual username, to ask this and make a cum joke at the same time? I am pretty damn skeptical.

That said, who cares? No one. Fuck what you wanna fuck and ignore labels.
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OrangeKrissy Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
Wait, so you think being attracted to another woman is necessarily bad? Being bi sexual also doesn't mean gay, just that you like both sexes and can go either way.
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DarkShadow7777 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Sexual prefferance's not a sin or bad thing, just be sincere... I know this will be hard to understand for othe rpople, but first try... may people gets confused, and then they try out... you have two possible results: (duh!) You either like men as well as women, or... you just like one of them...

Just try... our society (in world) needs to be more open and less judging...
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Odalist Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
No such thing. Do you feel sexual attraction/desire? Then you're 'bisexual' to some extent. Maybe you tend to prefer both men and woman to a more equal extent to most, and that's perfectly fine! Where you stand on this scale isn't a choice, but for the most part, "-sexuality" is. My advice is not to get sucked into labels - be yourself. Most people who "come out" just move into a different closet. Fuck that.

One word of caution: If you let people around you know, it will make a world of difference if you can gracefully understand and accept what they're comfortable with hearing after the fact. Do you want your "straight guy" friends ranting at you for hours about every girl they've banged? I don't know anyone in the right mind who would.

All luck to you. Take care.
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Sachi-pon Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
don't be so quick to label yourself if these feelings only popped up recently, as you say. they may not be lasting- they may go away after a little while.

and don't go looking for a girlfriend right now. or boyfriend for that matter. you seem too confused and tense right now. i think you just need to relax and calm down and try to focus on other things in your life besides girlfriends, boyfriends, and sex. that way, you can clear your head and then come back to this issue later. if you try to rush yourself now into labels, "coming out," girlfriends, etc then you may just become even more frustrated and confused than you are now. so just focus on things like your own personal dreams and goals, family, religion (if you have one), and friendships. good luck =)
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Aapis Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
i want a girlfriend to hold and be with so badly

You're probably just lonely. And a teenager.
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OrangeKrissy Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
Or she could simply want to be with someone who understands another woman and knows how to comfort and relate to her, something that men can't always do.
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Aapis Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2013
What the fuck does that have to do with anything?
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OrangeKrissy Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
it means you are a troll post. Get a life!
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Aapis Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2013
Pot, meet kettle.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
You don't have to come out. Don't listen to people that try to force you to.

Unfortunately, coming out can put your life in danger. Don't come out until you're ready.


If you feel okay with coming out, that's good, but remember, no one has the right to shame you. For being bi, or for deciding to not come out.
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OprahWinfreyX Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Ever heard "it gets better"? well it does, but only if you're willing to make it better. Emancipate yourself from mental slavery. Why should society have a say in your life, Vive la vida! assault norms and violate folkways, you're no one's bitch. Be who you wanna be, please.
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KingStephenArthur Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student Photographer
Honestly...it's not even a big deal, lol. Whatever you are is fine :D. You are not obligated to come out to anybody either if you don't want to. You can do whatever you want.
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hedwards Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
Eh, just don't pay any attention to it. If you still feel this way in a few years, then you probably are.

And you really shouldn't be ashamed of it. Being bisexual is more complicated than being straight or gay, but there's nothing wrong with it. Personally, I prefer the term queer, but there's a huge list of terms that people use.

Labels aren't particularly helpful as there are dozens and dozens of orientations out there. I still don't get the concept, but some people just have a fetish for members of the same sex. I'm not sure I understand how that's different from being slightly bi, but I'm not about to impose my values on other people.
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TrueSoprano Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Does your sexuality need a strict label? I'm attracted to both guys and girls, but I have different feelings for both sexes so I have no idea what to define myself as.
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Pomosexual/Queer/Homoromantic heterosexual/Heterosexual homoromantic/Aesthetically-hetero and heterosexual homosexual....So much labels I can suggest.
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TrueSoprano Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't want a fucking label.
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Well, you don't have to use one and no one can force you to use one. If you want to find people that don't want a fucking sexual orientation label, pomosexual it is. Pomosexuality is not a orientation, it's a non-orientation and does not contradict itself because of it.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
still bisexual. bisexual doesn't mean 'i have equal feelings for both genders'. just 'i have feelings for both genders'
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Ignoring the complications involves conceptualizations of sexuality and sexual orientation. Feelings=/=Sexual attraction. Why do I have the point out that it is not that simple of a matter every single time?
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Ignoring the fact that the person themselves used the word 'feeling' :roll:
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
You do realize different feelings do suggests that there are many possibilities and you've obviously ignoring the subjectivity of feelings plus sexuality.

For example: Assume that I want to have sex with a guy/girl. You might think that it's because that I'm sexually attracted to him/her in a certain conceptualized form, but in reality, one could have sex with another person for so many other reasons other than sexual attraction. The reasons could range from emotional attraction, experimental desire, curiousity, out of boredom, reproductive reason, etc. And some of those reason does not necessarily counts when factoring into the average laymen perspective of sexuality when sexual behaviors does not count.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
And your point is..?


if they don't like the term bisexual, they don't have to use it, but I was saying they don't have to reject it.
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Oh, then you could have made that clear on the response to that person. I was thinking 'still bisexual' kind of suggests that you would want to shove that label down that person's throat, so...
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hedwards Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
That's why I use the term queer. Life's way too short to waste it worrying about such utter silliness.
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Pakaku Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
"Other"
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TrueSoprano Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
ok
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Better solution, don't give a fuck about labels, just go with the flow.
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kemcar Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
I too think you need to give yourself some time before deciding about your sexuality. Think about it, maybe after sometime you will not want to be called or be a gay.
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EnuoCale Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
How young are you? If you're between 16-20 or so, spontaneous gay feelings are common even in mostly straight people, as the body works itself out. I'd wait a lot longer before coming out about anything.
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IncandescentInsanity Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Society likes to paint sexuality as black and white, where in reality there are many shades of gray in between. There's nothing wrong with you. You're simply attracted to humans :>
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
This and society likes to paint sexuality as not-ever-changing, where in reality it's always changing and for some, it changes a whole lot.
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IncandescentInsanity Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
People really just have to stop giving a fuck about what people are attracted to. It's not hard at all
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ReptillianSP2011 Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013  Student General Artist
Yes, I agree.
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too-hot-for-you Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2013
*to guys
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