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What would you do?

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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Student General Artist
What would you do, If a good friend of yours who moved away was chatting to you and then confided that they had been abusing prescription medication?

My best friend moved away about 1 1/2 years ago, and we try and talk often, even if its only Facebook messaging. 2 nights ago she told me she has been abusing prescription medication, that was prescribed to another family member. Though I freaked out and obviously expressed was totally against this, she said that it wasn't an addiction and that it was just a replacement addiction for something worse.

I dont know what to do. She lives so far away, it makes it difficult to REALLY talk and have one of those meaningful conversation that can help out a person in need. But she has made it clear she "doesn't need help". What should i do? What CAN I do?

Thank you for your advice on this :/
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NeutraStaff Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
This is a tough decision, think the real question is what can you do.

You can attempt to help your friend who lives far away, tell people who can do little to help her or you can ignore her and let something potentially bad happen. I think this is one of those decisions where you have to allow it's natural course to take place.
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psychogizmo Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Responsible recreational drug use really isn't a big deal. Moderation is key. Try it before you flip your shit on your friend, or don't judge.
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IdNiDveifencetum Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
She's your friend. You have a responsibility to help her, and in this case, save her. If she doesn't listen to you that it's wrong, yes, go tell her family. Why don't you tell her why what she's doing is wrong? The effects and all. Tell her what happens if she keeps doing that stuff. Maybe she'll listen. Don't stop telling her it's wrong. Don't ever. Good luck to you on this. Don't give up, even if your bones break.
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2013  Student General Artist
thank you for your advice :iconthankyouplz:
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IdNiDveifencetum Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:hug: good luck
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
You could ninja-douchebag secretly tell her family and hope they're not stupid enough to be in denial and ignore you or worse rat you out.

If she's abusing prescribed drugs and mixing those with alcohol or other drugs she could be dead at any time.
Prescription drug abuse is racking up a huge body count every year in the United States. Less people are dying in Syria because of war then fools who abuse prescribed medications in the US.

It's probably an issue for many nations.

If anything, you're still her friend and keep that in her mind as you gently attempt to get her to rehab.
Just don't throw it at her like a hammer. You need to be a Jedi on this.
There's almost no chance she'll quit cold on her own, that only happens when you've been 2 seconds from death and if you have to wait for that to happen you might as well get ready for a funeral.

Good luck
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Student General Artist
thank you :iconthankyouplz:
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siantjudas Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013   Digital Artist
Do you even know what pills she's taking and what they do? Calm down.
Personally I would do nothing, it's her life. Also, I would consider it a betrayal of trust if you did do anything. I would also lose faith in you as a friend if you started freaking out like you're doing.
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Student General Artist
She's taking dosages of concerts. any how thanks for your advice.
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CherylBlanche Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
As omega pointed out, what you're saying is really like letting someone put a rope around their neck. Look at this girl's avatar, she looks 16ish, how old do you think her friends are likely to be?
If kids could be trusted with their own lives they'd have freedom to do a whole lot of things sooner than 18.
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
Ha! Let'em tie they're own rope! Rough!
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xL4n1x Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Explain to her the negatives of the pills she is taking and express that you're worried about her well being and help direct her to find help but remember you can't make her do anything. Keep in mind that you shouldn't constantly drill her about it, try not to judge her, or make her feel like she can't talk to you. Maybe right now she isn't willing to accept help but one day she might be willing to but feels like she has no support. I wish you luck and hope for the best!
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Student General Artist
thank you for your advice :iconthankyouplz:
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xL4n1x Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
My pleasure =)
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GGordonS Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
The drugs always change a person. Treat her the same as always and keep in mind that you can't make decisions for her. If you respect her, especially when she obviously feels awful that changes how the person thinks about it. When you do drugs you expect lectures, flak and disappointment, but when you are met with genuine love and respect it changes your life. Also keep in mind that she told you about this because she trusts you with it, just try to let her know she made the right choice telling you.
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Student General Artist
Of course, looking at it from that point of view definitely helps. Thank you :iconthankyouplz:
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GGordonS Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
peace! :D
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the-ever-eternal Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013
try talking to her through your messaging, believe it or not iots a better form of communication since you could always look up what one person said that one time not to mention you could share these problems with a community like you do here, some one has to have an answer or something you to could associate with, hell you might make a friend that way or someone she can confide in or both

thats my advice to you
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Student General Artist
thank you very much :iconthankyouplz:
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Juliabohemian Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013
If she’s a minor, I recommend contacting her parents or whoever is legally responsible for her. If she is not, consider calling whoever is most involved in her life, first being certain that they are not participating in and/or enabling the problem.

She says she doesn’t need help. But the fact that she told you means some part of her realizes she may have taken a wrong turn and will need some help to get back on track.
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
No! Tell her to take moar pills!:P
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Juliabohemian Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
What the fuck. Let’s just tell her to drink some bleach.
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2013
You're brilliant!
(love you)
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Juliabohemian Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2013
I try
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pendawg Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013  Student General Artist
Thank you for your advice, it really has helped. :iconthankyouplz:
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Juliabohemian Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2013
Good luck to you
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