Being an aspie, I try not to blame my diagnosis for my ineptitude and lack of interests and spark of life. I'm rarely happy these days, I'm only content, and when I'm not content I'm depressed and angry at myself and my lack of special skills or talents. My self confidence exists only as a small shard of broken glass in the shadow of my self loathing. I am surrounded by people I find to be amazing, my friends. However, my envy breaks me sometimes, they're all good at something, amazing at other things, what's my talent? What's my specialty? What use, function and purpose do I have? I can never find a reason to love and appreciate myself. I keep trying to get into hobbies but I eventually lose interest and stop, it's like while normal aspies have few interests, I seem to have been born with none.
I'm not quite sure what you need help with. I immerse myself completely in things that I like to block out paranoid delusions that make me upset. If you're looking for something new then go out where there are lots of people and look around to see what catches your eye (I'm assuming you live in or near a city).
You're bound to get BETTER at whatever it is, and I'd rather be moderately good at something I enjoy, than REALLY good at something that's a slog.
So try a couple of things and see what really inspires you!
I recently thought it would be better if I socialized more, so I went to meetup.com and found this pretty awesome group in my area that aligns with one of my hobbies. I'm not trying to shill for the site, but it might be worth a try. Since the group is computer-oriented, everyone in it is ALSO pretty introverted, so mostly we all just sit around uncomfortably, but it's a START, darn it. And seeing them keeps me motivated to work on my hobby.
What's the worst that could happen, for reals? Even if it doesn't work out somehow, you're just back where you started, but you've gained valuable experience. You may even find some people going through the same stuff you are!
I'm an aspie. Don't really know what I do throughout the day... but mostly I'm interested in more 'off' handicrafts, preferably old stoneage ones like survival skills, tanning and leatherwork, woodworking, that kind of stuff. I'm fascinated by the concept of taking things found in nature, and make tools to make better tools to make better tools to pull of something really amazing. I want to build a radio that way, without any man-made materials(except for the ones I craft and collect myself of course), but probably won't get around to it.. mostly because I'm too lazy to learn how to put a radio together, and handling the copper sounds like a bitch! I'd need to haul iron from the bottom of a lake in order to make the smithy I need to extract the copper from the ore, not to mention fixing the safety tools like thick leather gloves (I'd have to shoot a large animal for that, and would probably have to bark tan the hide to get the right thickness) or eye protection. *le sigh*
But yeah, I once had a problem with a fandom that consumed my entire world view. It was awesome at first, then it became annoying, and then I realized I couldn't get out. That's partially why I don't play video games as much as I used to, but previously those games were my escape route. Fangirling is an awesome state of mind, really, but I don't want to get back to it any more. I enjoy the idea of clarity of mind and what not.