If someone replies with something that pisses me off, I just delete their reply and don't carry on the conversation. Most of the time I don't even bother reading their whole reply if I see that they're being intentionally mean. They probably think that they won the argument, which is just fine with me. That's why the internet is great: it's so easy to ignore the people that irritate you.
angelxxuanFeatured By OwnerJan 6, 2013Student General Artist
I stopped doing that myself. I stopped feeding them but as long as people do this sort of thing they are going to continue with arguing. I have been on other sites in the past where they would create alts just to argue with themselves. quite sad really, the right thing to do would be ignore them, walk away and not feed them. it's hard to do but it can be done.
The way I solve this problem is the way I solve every problem on the internet: add 3 grams of 'arguement is a waste of time' 2 grams of 'positive attitude towards people' 5 grains of salt and 15 grams of 'sense of humour'
if someone posts something I don't like, I may talk about it for a little while, but if it gets out of hand, well, find a plz account that will end or lighten the convo.
another method is to respond with a progression of faces or icons to each response they give. them: I think 32 degrees is a boiling point and you are dumb! you: them: my fish died at 32 degrees. do you think you are clever with your silly face? you're an idiot! you: them: I hate you! you are a poptart! you: them: UNCONTROLLED SWEARING you: them: i leave this conversation and/or develop a sense of humor.
or alternately, develop some catchphrases that end conversations.
example: i understand what you are saying you understand what you are saying. You're a very smart person etc.
Omg THOSE FACES. LOL!!!!! I am saving this post forever in my 'great comments' folder xD I think I may actually use something random like 'puppies are adorable' too... You're too funny! Quick question, how do people always find this plz accounts?? Do you just type in a random relevantphrase+plz.deviantart.com? Or do people save them whenever they find ones they like? Or just try to remember them... I have too much stuff to remember already D:
If you want to state your point of view, do so freely. You can tell immediately when someone is trying to fight. Simply state that you respect all opinions, but you won't fight. If they continue, delete the message. Simple as that :3
It takes self-restraint not to fight or reply. But it gets easier and easier with time. Eventually, in my case, I stopped caring. If I have an opinion, I'll share it- if you don't like it, tough sh*t.
That's amazing I'll take your word for it that it gets easier, since you've been there. I'll try. And I'll try being clear like that, that I don't want to fight. Because yeah, I don't think *fighting* is ever worth time.. Thanks
In regards on how to have a lengthy conversation with someone who shares your opinions- you can play devils advocate, explore why the person feels that way, how they came to their point of view, alternate ways of thinking on the topic. Nobody will ever agree 100% about every detail of every topic in the world. You can learn and expand yours and others views by having a mutual shared opinion. You can't go into a conversation like that with a poor attitude though, you need to be open to all possibilities and views.
Isn't that just a way of saying that you can find minute differences to discuss even though you agree on the whole? I still feel like it's hard to discuss things that you agree about xD Seems like that's always where a conversation ends... But I suppose you're right, you could ask them how they arrived to thinking that way, their feelings about it, etc.
I mean you can always find something new to consider- maybe you agree with me on somethimg, but we came to the same conclusion in different manners. Learning the differences can help you develop your own opinion even more, perhaps help strengthen your conviction in your belief.
Try it sometime, it works fairly well if both people are willing to talk freely of their opinions. You might find a new friend by doing this, you might also find that someone doesn't have a reason for the opinion and end up giving them a way to support their own opinion.
YOU SOUND LIKE MEEEEE haha i have the same problem... i like arguing with people, but i hate arguing with people. yep, both things are true somehow. i like arguing a little, but then i regret it lol...
sometimes i just have to hold myself back and not say anything in the first place.
here is a good idea... if you are angry at what someone says, click reply, type a bunch of angry stuff... but don't post. do something else for a few mins. then come back and decide whether all that angry stuff is really worth posting.
That is a good tip!! And I'm glad you can understand... Arguing is fun if it's civil, but not if it gets out of hand >.< -Next time I'll try that, writing and then coming back to it later before submitting. I bet that would help!
uhhh btw your avatar looks familiar to me and i see that i have given you a llama. XD where have i seen you before, what did you say? (it's probably something extremely obvious and i just have a bad memory)
Haha, I've been kicking around in the forums the last few days, you've probably seen me! I vaguely remember your avvie too I was probably either arguing or giving people friendly advice - tends to be what I do! If I recall you're super nice and like to give advice too ^.^
I have a similar problem too. When I get angry I must reply back like there's no tomorrow even though I hate it. It's like being possessed. Honestly sometimes I just have to take a deep breath and walk away and pretend nothing happened. The worse is when you start think about it over and over like i do. If the situation is extremely bad it takes me months to get over it. I'll get so worked up I hate it. So before it gets nasty and once you can tell its going to get like that just don't reply back, ignore and breath and distract yourself. Fight the urge to get tangled up in an ugly mess.
People hate being ignored, try acting like you don't care. If they insult you and you can't walk away just say, "Okay," over and over (for each reply) and you'll irritate the fudge out of them. (Its actually quite funny).
People post something, I try to find something I disagree with slightly (so there's something to discuss) You just answered your own question. You find something to disagree with, therefore you are provoking the arguments.
Don't you think that you can't have a discussion unless there is a point of difference between your opinions and the opinion of another? I want to discuss things with people And I want those discussions to be more interesting than even the most elaborate form of "I agree with what you just stated."
It seems to be the way it goes, yeah, but I want to have discussions Maybe some people who post just want people to agree with them, and others are actually open to discussion. Maybe I should just try to avoid the former. Any tips figuring out which are which?
I really hate discussions. I happen to be a person often with another opinion. Most of the time I don't say anything, but when I do, I just say what I had to say and then sort of run away. I just ignore what other people say to me. It's the best thing to do on the internet. You won't change the opinion of someone else anyway.
Yeah! For me, I come to a discussion feeling like it's interesting to have a different opinion and that it should be interesting for everyone. It provides points to discuss. But... people get mad xD I guess I just have to deal with it, and try to do what I can to diffuse situations or walk away when people get angry.