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January 3, 2013


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Too mature or overly-introverted bastard?

Cynicrylle Featured By Owner Jan 3, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I study in a Catholic school. You probably think it's full of polished good kids who follow adults right? Ahahaha... they don't exist in my life.

I'm surrounded by, forgive the term, immature kids who swear a lot, get away with cheating, and even have 'boyfriends' and stuff.

I say words like 'damn' and 'bastard', but I at least don't say it near many students. Even I feel shame. I don't even say stuff like 'f*ck' or 'sh*t'. Not in public, at least.

I have few people I actually like (though most are boys) and most of them say I'm a lone mature/smart person or whatever. I don't think so. I over-analyze lots of things. I don't even know if I'm thinking right.

I dislike most of the girls for being all err... 'malandi' or flirt-ish only caring about a dude's looks. I mean, they literally fall for the handsome guy who is probably taken and older.

I've had crushes before, but I didn't fall for looks that easily. Even a guy is mildly trying to flirt with me (obvious though mild) and I know I shouldn't prioritize that kind of stuff first.

The bad news, most of them are actually a year older than me. And I still feel like some loner who should just get homeschooled.

Alright, I feel like I'm gonna get tons of hate for this so... what's your opinion on mine? :-/

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Bobbelebien Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Wait what.....

Sorry but what's wrong with having a boyfriend and how is someone too old for you when he's only 1 year older .-.

(don't mind me if I misunderstood it but that's what I got)
Marc-F-Huizinga Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
I don't know how old you are obviously but it sounds to me you're a lot more mature than the rest of the people in your age category. This is by no means a bad thing, really I have exactly the same thing going on. Except well, I'm a dude haha. You know the ways of the world better than most of the people your age, and that is a good thing. The big problem is, or so I believe, is that a LOT of children get everything thrown into their lap by their parents, and thus the ''child'' in them stays there an awful lot longer than say someone who had to sort things out for him/herself. They just don't understand, and that's no problem. Don't feel like a loner either, because trust me I could be the first to tell you it is very hard to find people that resonate well with your mentality. Heads up and be proud!

A bit much of a rant, but as I started there was no stopping me, haha. =p
saykha Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2013  Student Writer
My thought on this is that you shouldn't be so concerned with what others do or don't do. Regardless of what they do, it's best to not focus on the faults and shortcomings of others. God says that we should be kind to others, forgiving them if they do something that's wrong. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what they do or don't do - all that matters is that you're happy with your own actions and who you are. Forgive them and do everything you can to get along with them.

"And be kind to one another, full of pity, having forgiveness for one another, even as God in Christ had forgiveness for you." Eph 4:32

"If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all." Rom 12:18
Phlip627 Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2013
My opinion? I think you are envious =P.

Having a mature personality is not how much you judge the people around you, it's having an understanding that comes with age and/or experience.

I'm not exactly sure where you are getting at with this post, but it sounds like a form of compensation. You said it yourself, that you feel like a loner. When someone is the outsider looking in, it's not too uncommon to justify it. Heck it's very common to antagonize others while doing so.

So when I say that you are envious, I don't mean anything bad by it... I think that you are having a hard time finding a place in life at the moment. My advice is let them be who they are and don't worry about it.
JZLobo Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I can relate, and I was homeschooled. I don't feel comfortable around people like that; I retreated into geekery and have a small cadre of friends who share my interests. And there's nothing wrong with that.

There's also nothing wrong with holding yourself to a higher standard. You are you, and don't let anyone make you feel bad for that. You're still young, and have a whole lifetime ahead of you to make friendships. The difference between you and those other kids is, you're looking for quality, not quantity.
RockstarVanity Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2013
People mature at different rates and are interested in different things at different times in their lives - none of it is right or wrong, it's just individual variances. If you think about school, you're basically stuck in a building with a limit number of people every day. You don't have a massive choice of friends and are kind of expected to have things in common with people simply because you're of a similar age, which is ridiculous when you think about it! I know it probably doesn't help right now, but there will be times later in your life (and sooner than you think) when you'll get to meet a lot more people who you can genuinely connect with. Until then, focus on the people and things that make you happy :aww:
Helija Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2013  Student General Artist
Ha, sounds like younger me. Nice to meet someone similar.
Neywa Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2013  Student
Welcome to yourself. I can tell you that I can somehow understand you. I grew up in a little school full of bad people. I had to hear all srots of jokes, comments... I had to deal with people that seemed to be 5 years younger than me and well, what doesn't kill you make you stronger haha, but I think the main thing is, don't loose yourself. I have been in the situation when you start looking at all those girls only living to flirt and go out with "boyfriends" and you think how immature and stupid it is. Then when you're a bit older you think that, maybe it's you the problem, maybe it's you that always lived like a more mature person and now fell like you didn't really experimented everything. And then's when you can loose yourself. I personally never had boyfriend but, I really never wanted to, even though, as everyone, I like boys but, I might like the look in the outside, they seem to have nothing interesting for me in the inside. And I could see that clrearly when a boy almost 8 years older than me fell in love with me. Yeah crazy, I couldn't even believe it in that moment but then I realised a lot of things. Don't get me wrong, I suffered a lot and I'm just commenting it and I had those days when you think nobody looooooves you haha. But I think you shouldn't care about that. Try to be social with the people you like and try to understand the others, that way I'm sure you will be happy as I am right now ^^
TTFNJinx Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Student Interface Designer
I feel you. I come from a public school but its the same way. I judge guys on personality. If I don't like the way they act then being cute wont do em any good. I "baby sit " a freshman who is a very I -need -attention baby n she "dates " supposedly a new guy every week. I'm hoping some of my maturity will rub off on her.

Truth is you n I have a lot in common. Ive had guys annoy me trying to get me to lose my virginity n ill say this I ain't doing it with no snooty preppy good looking foot ball playing jerk. Its hard to find good guys by judging looks. No matter what situation it is. Being open minded is the best way to find friends.
Dylan40 Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I had a friend who had gone to a catholic school for her High School years. She would tell me stories on what had gone on there. More or less a bunch of rich kids went there. Not everyone was bad or anything but for the most part they had there "Groups". If you weren't in a certain category you were pretty much outcasted. She was a Lutheran going to a Catholic School which apparently is as bad as a atheist going to a Catholic school. Man there was a lot of crazy stories.

My advice stick to "Who You Are" don't let the crowd change you. You will more than likely regret it later.
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