PLEASE DON'T POST ANYTHING ANYMORE. I don't know how to close a forum, but thanks to the support provided below, I realized that not breaking up with him was a waste of my time. So I did. And shockingly, it went over fairly well. I'm glad to say that I'm free, and thank you for your support. DEVIANTART RULES!
Here's a great example of someone doing all the wrong things for everyone but themselves. Ask yourself, whose life is it? Is it your friends? No, so fuck them. Is it anyone's business? No, so fuck them. You don't need to give any reasons to anyone (minus your boyfriend) and if you do, it can damn well be because I feel like it if you want. It's your fucking life, stop living for everyone else.
This same issue carries over to why you can't break up with someone, and be honest about how you feel. You'd rather him be happy in a lie, than to allow yourself to be happy. But this doesn't make things better. Now that you feel like this, the relationship will deteriorate slowly but surely. And all you accomplish by trying to spare him now, is to make things much worse for him later, and for you. You just end up pissing away parts of both your lives because you're too scared of telling the truth. And he'll feel deceived that you've been living a lie to him, and that could have a resounding impact on how he trusts people in the future as well.
If you know it's over, and that is how you feel, than have to conviction, and the respect to be honest and end it as soon as you can. If you really do care about him as a friend still, than the better thing to do is to just end it now.
Break up with him. It's not trolling to tell you to bloody well do it. How would you feel if you found out someone you loved had been faking their feelings and lying to you in return? It would be horrible and not something a friend would do. It might hurt him in the present to deal with a break up, but it will be infinitely better in the long run. Also, definitely do it face to face; it shows you care and aren't trying to weasel out of an awkward conversation.
If your friends ask about it, just be polite about it all and say that you feel like you've grown apart. He's a great guy, but you don't think of him as a boyfriend anymore. Whatever. If they keep pushing, just shrug and say it doesn't always have to be complicated if you're mature about losing feelings for someone.
Two years isn't all that long compared to a lifetime. He'll get over it and eventually thank you for being respectful instead of lying to avoid feeling bad. Doing that (or trying something silly like making him break up with you) would be selfish on your part, trust me.
It'll suck at the time, no one will disagree with that. But future you and your future ex boyfriend will be glad you did it rather than lie about it; all that does it encourage resentment and bitterness.
Why would being predictable be an interesting trait? As for your problem you shouldn't stay in a relationship because you're afraid of hurting the other person if you leave them. If anything it would cause more heartache and problems in the future. Who cares what other people think, are they part of the relationship? How old are you by the way? Just it sounds like you're in a American high school film. Relationships while young are hard to keep as both people mature and grow which leads to separate ways. I think this is what's happening here. At some point both of you are going to be unsatisfied and eventually move on. If you're going to post on DA opinions will be given, you're on the help with life forum after all.
Oh, and keeping a friendship after a relationship has ended can be hard. But can be possible, good luck with that if you claim to want to be friends after.
Still I would suggest moving on. Life's too short.
LOL. You've got me pegged. I'm seventeen, about to go to college, and I am shockingly aware of how cinematic and pathetic my situation is. It's ridiculous, really. And predictable isn't interesting, it was just one of his main three traits. He can't really surprise me. *shrug* He tries, does that count? And thanks for the luck; I'll need it.
Pegged? Still you're young and when I read your post I thought you're were around 15. Whoa! if that's one of his main three traits no wonder why you're bored with him XD What you need is a bit a mystery from a man. He shouldn't have to try it should just happen. He sounds sweet though making an effort. How unfortunate you're not on the same page as him.
Pegged, means like, you got me down. Pegged! On the nose, so to speak. I'm annoyingly young for my age And yeah, bored definitely pegs it. It is unfortunate, but c'est la vie... I just hope he doesn't cry. I can be a cynical bitch from hell, but if he cries... *shudder*
Weird slang word lol Oh well what can you do? But offer him a Kleenex. It doesn't make you a bitch you're just doing the right thing. I completely understand what you mean, I used to make my boyfriend(ex) cry quite a few times not on purpose I swear I'm not heartless. Thinking back it still makes me feel bad.
I sure hope I'm doing the right thing, I just don't know how to do it. I mean, I can't exactly call him up and be like, "Yo. Dude. Is over." And then hang up. The only time I see him is at school, and with the harpies about...face to face just gets harder and harder to pull off. And aww, don't feel bad. Past is in the past; it's more efficient to freak out about the future.
Yes that's the worst threw text, email or phone. Breaking up face to face takes guts. Just you have to do it can't you arrange outside of school to talk? When he hears the word "talk" he will probably know what's going to happen. But if you're not happy with the relationship there is no point carrying it on for his sake. It sure is, I learn from my past and one of those things I learn't from a relationship is you can't trust no one, rely on him, and not to reveal one's true self. I enjoy not having to deal with relationship bullshit. But then I've always loved being on my own.
As for the girls tell them to mind their own business. They really do sound pathetic. Like really immature XD
You don't feel a connection with him anymore, so unless you talk to him and he actually tries to change... it's a complete waste of your time, and you'd be better off without him. If you'd rather be friends, that's also fine. If things don't work out, it's not impossible to just revert back to friends.
I dumped my boyfriend today and lets just say I have to deal with everybody being like OMFG WHY and I was like cause fuck you thats why. Ignore them if they question you just say you guys drifted apart to much.