You sound like a kinda of junky person. Oh well, get in the pile.

thanks for everyone for what they've done and said, but you can stop mailing me now. I'm good xxxx

IndigoSparkles xxx

I think you are and I would have given you twice as many mean comments back if I really knew you but most likely we would still be friends until I get sick of you.

Feeling mean doesn't always mean your being mean. From quite a bit of the stuff you said it's seems that you appreciate your friends and that you are nice person. People can't always be sensitive to other peoples feelings when they them self are having trouble with there own feelings (such as you feeling like you may be being mean). The mood swings could almost certainly be explained by it just a teenage thing a lot of people have mood swings when there teenagers as its all part of growing up blah blah blah . In conclusion it seems to me your intentions are good, your a nice person and your just a going through a stage which is making you feel uneasy.

Hope that helped XD.

'and throw insults at them without thinking how they might react or feel inside and the I say I'm joking'

Don't need to read any further. Yep. You are.

You want people to like you, you gotta quit that crap.

WHY you are doing it doesn't matter in the real world. Only your actions matter.

Not mean, insecure and insincere with a tendency towards egoism and those traits manifest strongly in the teenage years when you're building your own character. That's also a good time to work with them and get rid of them or risk spending a lot of your adult time fixing it instead.

I would suggest practicing pausing before talking and evaluating two things:

1. Am I speaking the truth now?
2. Might this be insulting? And if it is, can I formulate this in a way so that I'm still honest but not more offensive than necessary?

Your friends might remark about your "new" opinions if they are used to you being one way but it'll work itself out for the best - pretending gets tiresome very quickly and you have to remember what you weren't honest about to not contradict yourself at a later time. Way to much energy put into something that ends up making you feel worse about yourself.

Security in your self comes from being completely honest to yourself and then working with it. You can't truly change if you only look at the symptoms, not the cause. Being insecure is normal and wanting the approval of others in some form is how humans are wired. Everybody has doubts at times, no matter what age they are - if you practice, you simply get better at overcoming them.

Picking on someone when you feel bad, to make yourself feel better is called lifting yourself up by putting others down. Just on that one I would say yes, you are treating people cruely. And you are going to need to open up about your hurts, your harmful habits, and your secrets to get over feeling bad about yourself.

indagosparkles i am a teenage girl and the exact opposite of u, im more introverted and shy.but one of my friends is exactly like u! And i luv her 2 death in between the days i want to hit her. I often feel like i need her though just for being the outgoing strong person she is, for being what im not.I think you should just find something that works for u, cuz acting the way you do doesnt seem to be helping anything. you dont have to pretend for anybody.If you are not happy or feeling uncomfortable about something dont joke!dont laugh! and dont use it as another way to get attention.!! you do sound mean but you can stop that.and nobody really likes being around a person who is desperate for attention.Try finding a sport ur good at,you can literaly be the center of attention and have people still cheering you on,i also find it a good stress reliever to.As for boys dont overthink yourself.I know plenty who are hyper attention seekers like yourself. good luck with life.

Are you mean? No more mean that anybody else your age. Honestly, I think you've just described almost every single teenager there.

On the other hand, does that mean it's okay? No, because it's still selfish behaviour that might cause you problems in the future. Everybody else is the same as you, but if you're self-aware enough to realise your flaws, you have a chance to fix them and improve your quality of life.

In short: don't beat yourself up for acting shitty something, especially in ways you describe, but don't think that because it's normal it's fine and there's no need to care about it - you'll be a lot better for trying to change.

There is nothing wrong with being a mean girl. Its how Amanda Bynes became a actor. Its the survival of the fittest. I don't know where all they overly sensitive sissies come from thinking they can get anywhere in life from being nice. Nice guys finish last. But you should be neutral to everyone.

I don't think so.
I agree with ~Endeavor-To-Freefall You're immature, maybe.

You are who you are. Although I will say, if you know it's wrong, why not try to fix it? You can't change who you are, but you can change how you act.

1) Try to think about what you say before you say it. I'm pretty straightforward half the time, too. The trick is to word it properly, rather than just flat out insult them. And if you aren't giving advice or help, keeping it to yourself might work better.

2) I used to do that, and it feel horrible. Rather than picking on others, why not figure out what's causing these mood swings? If it's something you can change, focus on that.

3) That depends on your friend. Try to ask what's wrong, gently, and if she doesn't want your help that's that.

4) Something you're going to have to work out yourself. Why would you say that if they're not is my question

5) What drives your need for attention? Just remember that while it's good to be appreciated once in a while, others need their time too.

6) Sorry I know that one pretty well. Just think, if someone calls you ugly they're either jealous or just trying to get to you. Tell them to screw off by showing them you don't care, even you do. After a bit you truly won't anymore.

7) Again, people need their time too. Praise them, celebrate with them rather than getting jealous. It's natural to be jealous, but it's only immature to really act like it and may only upset them.

8) That's a personal thing, but if I were you I'd talk to somebody. It doesn't sound like you're living a healthy lifestyle, and trust me, it's much better to open up than to stay closed.

9) We all have those. Try to remember how you felt on the good days when you're having a bad one. That person is still there, whether you see them or not.

10) It's good you try to stay happy, but you can't be hiding things like that. You don't have to tell anyone, but write it down and burn it, ect. Harmful addictions can be overcome. I used to be a terrible cutter, as in 4 at least each day. But the minute I told someone, it gradually got better. If you want to note me you can, and if not that's perfectly fine too.

11) That's something that you can overcome too. Remember, some guys love shy girls! Instead of pretending to hate them, tell a close friend or somebody about it. If they're good friends I'm sure they'd love to help you out.

12) Sounds like a teenage thing, but that's only what I can see. You don't seem like a naturally mean person, just how you act sometimes. If I were you I'd take a long look at your life and decide if you really want to live it like this.

I really hope I helped you Good luck

You are who you are. Although I will say, if you know it's wrong, why not try to fix it? You can't change who you are, but you can change how you act.

1) Try to think about what you say before you say it. I'm pretty straightforward half the time, too. The trick is to word it properly, rather than just flat out insult them. And if you aren't giving advice or help, keeping it to yourself might work better.

2) I used to do that, and it feel horrible. Rather than picking on others, why not figure out what's causing these mood swings? If it's something you can change, focus on that.

3) That depends on your friend. Try to ask what's wrong, gently, and if she doesn't want your help that's that.

4) Something you're going to have to work out yourself. Why would you say that if they're not is my question

5) What drives your need for attention? Just remember that while it's good to be appreciated once in a while, others need their time too.

6) Sorry I know that one pretty well. Just think, if someone calls you ugly they're either jealous or just trying to get to you. Tell them to screw off by showing them you don't care, even you do. After a bit you truly won't anymore.

7) Again, people need their time too. Praise them, celebrate with them rather than getting jealous. It's natural to be jealous, but it's only immature to really act like it and may only upset them.

8) That's a personal thing, but if I were you I'd talk to somebody. It doesn't sound like you're living a healthy lifestyle, and trust me, it's much better to open up than to stay closed.

9) We all have those. Try to remember how you felt on the good days when you're having a bad one. That person is still there, whether you see them or not.

10) It's good you try to stay happy, but you can't be hiding things like that. You don't have to tell anyone, but write it down and burn it, ect. Harmful addictions can be overcome. I used to be a terrible cutter, as in 4 at least each day. But the minute I told someone, it gradually got better. If you want to note me you can, and if not that's perfectly fine too.

11) That's something that you can overcome too. Remember, some guys love shy girls! Instead of pretending to hate them, tell a close friend or somebody about it. If they're good friends I'm sure they'd love to help you out.

12) Sounds like a teenage thing, but that's only what I can see. You don't seem like a naturally mean person, just how you act sometimes. If I were you I'd take a long look at your life and decide if you really want to live it like this.

I really hope I helped you Good luck

I don't think you're mean, it just sounds like you can be childish at times but that's okay. We all get like that every once and a while. Honestly, you seem like a pretty cool person to me.

We don't know you, but if you think you are then you probably are.