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sad and don't know what to do about it

:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012
So, about three weeks ago my first boyfriend, who I had been with for 2 and a half years, broke up with me. He had been cheating on me with a slut with a baby and eded up leaving me for her. I think it was because she would put out and i wouldn't, but really I don't know the reason why.

I've over the crying part, and now I just feel lonely. I miss him and I miss people to talk to. My friend tod me to stay busy, but I spent all my money on friends for christmas, and now after christmas I either can't get ahold of of my friends or they don't want to hang out. I've been asking them every day.

I don't know what to do. Im lonely and sad, and i don't know what to do about it. I don't know what to even do with myself, I've been laying around bored for days.
My parents never want to do anything and its to cold to ride my horse. Does anyone know something I could do so I wouldn't feel so bad and wouldn't feel so bored?
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:iconicepaw99:
icepaw99 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
This might not work for you of course, but when I feel extremely lonely or upset, I go somewhere away from other people, where I can think and do what I want. Usually I go somewhere quiet, like the woods near my house, and just forget about everything. That always helps :)

Apart from that, I talk to people on the internet or watch something funny or cheerful, a film or a YouTube video.
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
I thought about taking my horse for a trail ride, but its cold, and she a princess and wouldn't go for very long until she started acting up haha.
I might take that advice. Just go sit out at the barn by myself. My horse has been my biggest suporter lately.
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icepaw99 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, I'm always up for a conversation if you need to talk :) I hope you feel better soon.

And, by the way, you're so lucky to have a horse XD
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
Shes my good girl C:
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:iconjstar19000:
JStar19000 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:(

Honestly, I would come over to your house, sit on the couch with you, eat favorite foods, and watch your favorite TV shows if i could...

but i can't.

So i need you to be nice to yourself because i can't...

Promise?
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
It seems like I know you, but I can't remember who you are in real life?
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garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
why would I be nice to myself?
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:iconjstar19000:
JStar19000 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Because i can't. :)
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012
Sorry, I ment why wouldn't I.

It seems like I know you, but I can't remember who you are in real life?
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:iconjstar19000:
JStar19000 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't... "know know" you... But what i DO know is that i want to be your bud... if i could.
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Amberissa Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2012  Student Interface Designer
Love is a complicated thing to handle, I believe we all know! A good thing ofcourse which you already mentioned is to keep yourself busy. Explore the world, dive in books. Do the thing you love to do most. And since you're on dA, I can't imagine your love without art. Express yourself, for many people it's relieving. Find new interests get to know different people on dA. It's not only a community about art, but also exploring. Leave the past behind, how difficult it might be, you'll eventually get there. And you're already doing a great job talking about your issues on dA. Get people involved, it makes you an experience richer!

"Be a queen. Be tender. Continue to give birth to new ideas and rejoice in your womanhood"
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2012
Thank you for the suport.
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:iconamberissa:
Amberissa Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2012  Student Interface Designer
Anytime : )
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lightning-13 Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
it's normal to feel loneliness, you were with this guy for quite some time. Clean your mind. I wouldn't suggest that you stress to find something to do, simply let yourself grief, you will find someone else to replace loneliness with time. If you want to do something, do it because you want to, not to forget about him or not be sad.
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Alexis-OMA Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012   General Artist
You need to take about a full week if not more time to deal with this pain
head first.
yea keeping your self busy is keeping the pain at bay, but...
in all honesty thats not helping, its
just post pone ing what you're going to have to eventually accept.
when you can come to terms with being an individual you'll get over
that loser.

you were fine before he came into your life, nothings changed.
good luck
and god bless
-chimera
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012
Thanks
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InOrganica Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
Try to occupy all of your senses..
While doing art, play some feel good music or movies, grab something you like to eat or drink, light a scented candle...

Or Maybe even draw outside if its sunny... Sun and fresh air does wonders, even if it does sound lame :)
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garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012
Thats actually a good idea. thanks
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:iconword-witch:
Word-Witch Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Aw I'm sorry bout that :hug: It'd be rough, for sure. I'd say use the time to experiment with some new things to do, new art forms maybe? Christmas will be over soon, and you'll be okay :) As for missing him, it'll take time. I usually listen to music that maybe helps understand those feelings (if that makes sense :hmm:) Best of luck to you :)
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012
Music just makes me want to cry haha.
Do you have any ideas on new art forms?
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Word-Witch Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Anything you wouldn't normally do I suppose :)
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:iconavenvia:
Avenvia Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Student Writer
Could you pick up a hobby or project? Try a whole new form of art, maybe? Or just try to see your family more?

It's hard to keep busy without other people, I know, but just try it and know that soon Christmas will be over and people will probably have more time/money. Also, it only really gets better from here. Just try not to dwell on the past, regret things that could have gone better or anything like that; you'll have met someone new one day and that wouldn't have happened unless this did first.
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012
Thank you.
Im not sure what kind of hobby to pick up? THe new form of art thing might be fun though..uh, not on good terms wwith family, but thats not the point. Can you think of anything off the top of your head that could be fun?
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Meemie7 Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well, you're an artist, aren't you? That's why you're here on deviantART, right? Whenever you need something to do, draw. If you need someone to talk to, do what you're doing now and hit the forums. There are lots of people here that would love to talk to you.
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:icongarraswolfgirl:
garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012
there is only so much I can draw before I start getting mad at it haha.
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Meemie7 Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
haha
then, just try something that you enjoy doing
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:iconavenvia:
Avenvia Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Student Writer
Um... well I'd like to try something entirely new, like textiles. I wish I could be one of those people that can fix and modify their own clothes, but I'm (sadly) kind of impatient and more likely just to ruin stuff like that. If you have old or cheap clothes, the internet and a basic sewing kit you'd probably be set to try something like that.

I also design tattoos I'll never have when I'm bored. Maybe you could look around different galleries on here? If you see something you'd really like to try (jewellry is another thing I wish I could do, but I never get around to scouting ebay for parts), maybe look into some basic tutorials and give it a go =)

(Also, roughly the same advice can be applied to plenty of hobbies, I guess)
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garraswolfgirl Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012
tattoos are an idea. I have some peaces to do jewlery. Cloths are an idea too, thank you!
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