Oh, she made a mistake and then ignored and avoided you, she's the worst friend ever. I think you're a pretty bad friend, not reassuring her that you didn't think poorly of her for her mistake. You can't support friends in rough situations? You can't reassure them it's okay? Nope, you just want to kill her because she's avoiding you.
You are a complete, faceless, other body/soul on this entire internet. I also gain this ability with you, however by being an artist with every shitty drawing I've made from around 2006 onwards on this site, my soul is, sadly, here. Lesson number one I've learned is that stories that start with (figuratively) "This guy said..." don't usually mean anything after a few weeks. Since the case is clearly a little more far fetching than that (and certainly not far fetched) what you need to do is first cut off your own responsibility from the lives of those too petty to let anything that hampers their own lives go. On an art site, we should all be able to let go of anything that has nothing to do with the greatest picture of all, just leave. We are better than this, and anything greater than our reality should be handled by scientists. We make the ideas first, then they make it real, it's a balance. I promise, it applies to every single argument in life. I stay at home mostly, I'm trying to become a pipefitter currently, but I play in a band and still produce some... modicum of visual art, (fuck that doesn't even matter here). All I'm saying is other people will do whatever is necessary to gain their own whatever, and so will you. So regardless of whether you achieve your goal or not, don't flsuter yourself with these people who are obviously below your thinking. Though my friends come to my place and buy the booze in exchange for me being left with the mess, they meant the best, and that's the circle. It's a balance. Just be As awesome as you can all the time and nothing else will matter, it will click into your brain, and you will never be a victim again, because FUCK YOU! And also all the love. Some people are Neil Patrick Harris. Some guys paint frescoes on billboards to upset the status quo. Some people stack eggs like a mad boss that makes that grocery store own every other store ever, some love hard and some die young. The only thing we all have in common is that we are all the best at something no one else is, from being stinky to being pardoned.
In "Gran Torino", everyone disses each other constantly, and yet maintain respect. It's the same in real life, whether online or to their face, we say crazy things to our friends that SHOULD be super offensive, but they don't care. Whether it's about our pets, our friends, some family, doesn't matter. We badmouth people as openly as possible to show our love, it's a sign that we know you're always there, my cats and friends and family, I make the foul jokes that are funny to no one but me, because I care. Merry Christmas, to all you motherfuckers. I wish death only as a cartoon gag where it never actually happens, and we keep on going as we always have
I'm reminded of The Lion King, and the scene where Timon explains "Bad thins happen, and there's nothing you can do about it." To an extent, he's right. Bad things happen, and people can sometimes overreact. It's just who they are. Whether or not they realize it is not something you can effect. Your best bet would be to make Friend X friend Y, and the other girl...well, it would seem she's made her choice, now hasn't she? What goes around comes around. Rest assured, Karma will deal her a blow sooner or later. Besides, this just opens up more room in your circle to meet a better person and befriend them.
You made the mistake of letting him back in, but that can be remedied. Just be an "Itch" with a capital, bold, and italicized "B" and I'm sure he'll back off, but don't be afraid to call the police. You can never be too safe, and there's stalking, and menacing are felonies he can be charged with, which is what it seems he's doing to you, given your statements.
Your friend is hurt, I see? Well, if you've tried all you can to repair your friendship and nothing works...perhaps it's for the best, no? He chose to go, so if he comes back it will be of his own choice. You were willing to fight for your friendship. I think that means enough that, if it were me, I think we could have been friends again. Unfortunately, I don't think he sees it the way I do. Time to just go with the flow from here.
So just because some people behave like assholes towards you, you want to kill yourself? Give it a break. You're worth more than that. Everybody that can't appreciate that, isn't worth your time at all.
The world is just f*cked up. Most people are leeches or behave like total assholes. It's no reason to kill yourself over.
Maybe part of this story is missing, but calling someone a "crackhead whore" for ignoring you seems quite childish to me. It implies that you do let stress (and anger) get to you far more than it should. Yes, it's not nice when someone starts ignoring you - especially if it's unjustified - but people are stupid and it will happen to everyone more than once. Just move on and be glad you're not friends with someone that immature; don't get all angry about it because it's really not worth it.
The guy that won't leave you alone? Make it clearer than clear. Say that as far as you're concerned he is harrassing you and if he doesn't stop you'll have to report it. If he ignores that and keeps contacting you, follow through on the threat.
It sucks about your best friend, but these things also happen. Sometimes friendships fall apart and one person just doesn't want to talk to the other anymore. My advice would be to send him one last message detailing your feelings (don't beg, though) and don't contact him again afterwards. You can't force someone to like you.
You asked for caring advice, so sorry if I was a little blunt for you, but I honestly think it sounds like you need to learn to let problems like this go. You're so stressed that you're threatening suicide over two people not liking you and one liking you too much? Really, learn to get a better grip on your emotions and maybe you wouldn't feel so terrible about what seem like problems everybody goes through more than a few times in their lives.
Like I mentioned to the many other replies, I need some bluntness or else I'll never get the real idea, so don't be sorry. I needed it, and appreciate it fully.
What I got from you is basically more or less the same conclusive ideas others have given to me, and that is that I do hold on a bit too much to one particular thing and have a hard time just "letting go." I actually wasn't aware that I harbored such an issue and that's why I love hearing other peoples' points of views because it helps me see what I might be seeing at first.
Thank you for your replies c: The first two situations I'm much more confident now in handling, yet as you can see, the last case is a lot more delicate and to me, a lot more precious. I will give it one lost shot (fingers crossed), and if it wasn't meant to be, then at least I can say I tried and won't have any regrets.
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