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Odd topic, I don't know what to do

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LifeofRoleplay Dec 11, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Okay, I recently got a call from a doctor that my late fiancé would visit before and after a hunt, just as a health precaution, and, apparently, my fiancé had sperm placed in a sperm bank, just in case anything ever happened to him, and I wanted to still have his child… I've been thinking about this all day, and I don't know if I should or not. I'm asking the opinions of others around here, because I'm lost.
It's been quite a while since my fiancé died, and not a day goes by without me thinking of him, but I don't know if I should have the baby or not, because I'm afraid of something happening to me, and forcing my horrid childhood upon my child. What do you think?
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djdanilly Dec 14, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
You know if you think you aren't ready that is fine. As long as you know where the facility is maybe you can ask to put it on hold just for you. You can deal with your other problems before you make any decisions. Life is about making hard decisions. Thanks
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LifeofRoleplay Dec 14, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I know life has a lot of hard decisions, and I've decided that I will have the baby, it's just that I wasn't sure about it because I had a pretty horrible childhood, and I was afraid of something happening to me that'd leave the child in a similar situation, but as someone else said, the chances of something like that happening are pretty low.
Thanks for what?
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djdanilly Dec 13, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
I am a counselor inbox me
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LifeofRoleplay Dec 13, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Alright, thank you very much
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Dancing-Kiwi Dec 13, 2012  Student Writer
I'm 15; I have no place to suggest anything to you.

But it just really..touched me. His gesture, a sort of last...gift?
Horrible words, I can't explain it. But I'm sure he was a very lovely man, & I think he would be content with whatever you choose.
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LifeofRoleplay Dec 13, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I get what you mean, and I guess it was, kind of. He was terrified of anything happening to me since we first met, and it went from there, until, one day, we were talking about a hunting trip, and, for some reason, I brought up the what ifs about his death. It's funny how just a few what ifs can put a whole lot of reality into a person. He was one of the kindest people I've ever met, and I know he'd be happy with anything so long as I was.
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Okay... I know personally if this happened to me (I'm engaged now) I would have my fiance's children. But that's me. There's things you need to consider... If you wish to marry another man in your future, some men wouldn't wish to get involved with a woman with children. It eliminates a lot of men from your dating field sadly. Personally I think if a man can't love and accept all of you, which is also accepting your child/children then he's not worth it. Not true unconditional love. Your fiance put his sperm placed in a sperm bank for a reason... Now it's your decision. Do you want his children? Do you want to be a single mother? Do you want them to have a father? Will you fall in love with another man for him to take the father role?

Questions you need to ask yourself... Look into your heart deep and follow what you think is right. God Bless.
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LifeofRoleplay Dec 13, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I've decided that I'm going to have the baby (though, I'm worried about the needles part) because I really do want to have his child, and I know I could manage as a single mother, my friends will help me if I need it anyway, but I could manage on my own too. The father figure part is just what I don't know about, it'd be good for someone to be there for him/her, but I think my fiancé was really the only man out there for me, so I don't know if it'd happen or not.
Thank you.
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I'm glad, don't worry. Everything will be fine and as I said before if you can't find another man who loves you unconditionally, than he's not worth your time. A good man will love you and your child. I wish you all the best. And it was my pleasure to help, if need anything feel free to note me. God bless.
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LifeofRoleplay Dec 13, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Alright, thank you very much
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