Nobody can ask you to forgive him except yourself. People say you shall always remember the dead ones as they were in life, well you will see how that will be when it happens. But trust me, while you still have the chance, take it. You don't have to run in and force a situation to come clean with all the stuff now. Perhaps none of your will even mention those things. Perhaps you will talk about completely different things, perhaps not talk at all, just spend time together. Whatever.
But do it. Not for him, but for you. Otherwise you will never forgive yourself. If you cannot forgive him, then do it just to proove that you are not like this, that you were at least there. Because those things can haunt you forever, otherwise.
I'll...do it for myself. I'll forgive him, as much as I can...if that's possible. I'll probably even say that "I forgive you," to lessen the strain. But...I won't force it...as long as there's time, I should be able to forgive him for all of the hurt he's caused, and I have caused too. Life's too short to be wasting time.
Well I'm glad if you found it helpful. But somehow this decision cames a little fast. I mean, I think it's the right choice, just I doubt it will all go as you expect it. In such moments people rarely do what they planned to do. So, maybe think it over. Prepare yourself what you want to say but let the situation come to you as it happens. You cannot force this.
Still, I wish you the best, I can only imagine how this must feel and honestly, I also wouldn't know how to deal with it exactly. Well good luck.
And I tend to speak before I think, so to speak...but I have been wondering about this for a while, so it hasn't just come straight off the top of my head. I've just been a little uncertain as to what I should do - as would anyone in my view be, as well.
And I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours, too. There should be more people like you!
Well then I guess there's nothing more to sayabout it.
Thank you, I actually came here for the second time already (it's 4:47 here) to ask for advice about my sleeping problems, lol. But everytime I stumble over threads like this so I forget my own stuff. Well, I guess tomorrow night I might post it.
All I can say is forget about the past and try to start afresh, since you and your father are going well now with each other I would suggest that you both be good to each other, try to make each other happy, and don't worry about death, you cannot help it, so live the life you both have at hand.