I don’t understand people all that well and sometimes I understand people too much to the point where I get information spot on or I over calculate. Im a aspie, so either way it messes with me. My friend lives with her boyfriend and another friend of ours, who dislikes her boyfriend. I had only met him a couple of times prior to me hanging out around their place recently these past few months. The two have been dating a year and she is now pregnant by him. She recently found out a few weeks ago, and is talking about getting married to him. So when I found out she was pregnant I started hanging around more to make sure she is taking care of herself. I’ll go get her food to make sure she eats or drive her home when we both get off work. She lives about 10 minutes in the next city of our State.

So, while hanging around more, I got to met her boyfriends friend. I’m gonna give everyone a fake name here, so my friends name is gonna be Ashely, her boyfriend will be Jake, and his friend will be Alex. So, I hang out more and I end up talking to Alex a lot, to the point where we are actually flirting with each other in private whenever Ashely and Jake are not looking or around. You know how some women openly expose themselves, wearing love cut shirts and like pushing their chests around to be noticed? She does that a lot. Around alex as well. She use to talk about how nice he was and how he has good manners different from Jake. Jake is a ass when he wants to be, which is about a hundred percent of the time. He tells her that he is ‘single’ so he can go flirt with others girls and it makes her upset. Says he has a second girlfriend and she says he’s joking. He calls her fat and calls her the name of a friend she hates. And has called her several other girls names.

Things get a little serious with me and Alex, I ended up sleeping with him. Probably too soon than I should have, and we have been seeing each other secretly for a while now because I didn’t want to tell Ashely. She freaks out over my choices of dating and tries to act like my mother, she's a very controlling person. I've known her for 12 years and she knows everything about me from my bad past to my happiest moments. She knows that im a sex addict, it's not something i can control. And it's not my fault she decided to tell that to her boyfriend. Im kind of mad at her for telling him my secrets anyway, because i've been working hard to try and control myself.

The point of the story is that Jake asked me to give him a bj, and I said no and freaked out on him. Told him never to ask me something like that again. He said he would pay me to do it and I told him no again and ended up leaving with Alex. It kind of made me mad. So, I ended up telling her the next day, and instead of getting mad at me. She starts telling ‘bad things’ about Alex, like including girls he was went in the past and I don’t really care about that. Jake keeps telling her more things now that I told her what he tried to get me to do. And she’s now telling me I should stay away from Alex. I started sneaking around again so I see him a lot and we don’t go to her house together. When we are both there, she doesn't like me being in the same room as him. So we'd go in her room and the guys in another. Jake scares me sometimes. The reason I told her because he said that ‘You should just do it, cause im gonna tell her you gave me a bj even if you don’t’’ And she’s getting mad at me and I didn’t do anything. Last night i went by for my last visit because my work schedule is changing and i won't be going there for a week or so. And when she wasn't looking, Jake would make a gesture of me giving him a bj and i'd just look away. I don’t know how to handle this situation and im constantly worried that something bad is gonna happen. Like im going to say something out of place and make her mad again…

When we first met Jake, together, she tried to get me to date him but i said no because i knew she liked him. And he looks at me weird, like if he's going to kiss or hug her he'll do it and stare at me. I either look away or get up and move. He keeps making comments like 'when can i get in on this' In those slight chances that i am alone with Alex at her house. I know what he's saying, and she's still on a trip saying he's 'joking' but i don't think he is. One night he came up and said "when is it gonna be my turn?" Alex is a witness to all of these comments Jake has mad, but she has made it clear that she thinks Alex is a liar so she isn't going to listen. I don't like drama. I try to pull myself away from it. But the fact that she's pregnant, hormonal and careless of taking care of herself, i try to be there for her. If you were in this situation, what would you do? Cause im seriously drawing blanks on this.