feeling lonely, helpless...
The Problem: Everytime when I´m in school with wy friend, I feel good, but when they are ill,... I feel really bad, i feel like don´t fit in! I alway have the feeling that I´m lonely, the same at home!
I fell all the time lonely...
I don´t have many frinds,
And I don´t have much confidence, even if it looks for other people as I have much!
Yah, maybe I´m sometimes crayzy, but when other people say that, I feel hurt!
And I still don´t feel pretty! My friend alwys say that im ugly... One time whwn I was in school, there were some some boys.. one sayed: "Hey, are you joking, she´s so ugly" (I know that he was saying it to me, becouse they always looked into my way... and no other girl was there)
And I´m quite short, I´m just 155 cm tall...
I always feel so small...
Sometimes when I walk around The people staring at me, without a reason, loughing at me, when I walk next to them...
Some people find it´s funny, if they put their foot to mine, so that I´m falling!
What is wrong with me?!
I hate myself, i´m ugly, I have a hateable personality, I don´t have many friends....
Do you have some tipps for me, plese... I can´t take so much feelings.
I feel myself every day more breaking...
please help!
I fell all the time lonely...
I don´t have many frinds,
And I don´t have much confidence, even if it looks for other people as I have much!
Yah, maybe I´m sometimes crayzy, but when other people say that, I feel hurt!
And I still don´t feel pretty! My friend alwys say that im ugly... One time whwn I was in school, there were some some boys.. one sayed: "Hey, are you joking, she´s so ugly" (I know that he was saying it to me, becouse they always looked into my way... and no other girl was there)
And I´m quite short, I´m just 155 cm tall...
I always feel so small...
Sometimes when I walk around The people staring at me, without a reason, loughing at me, when I walk next to them...
Some people find it´s funny, if they put their foot to mine, so that I´m falling!
What is wrong with me?!
I hate myself, i´m ugly, I have a hateable personality, I don´t have many friends....
Do you have some tipps for me, plese... I can´t take so much feelings.
I feel myself every day more breaking...
please help!
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Like many other have said before me, you're only 16, it gets a whole lot better once you graduate. Learn to love you for who you are, and it gets much easier for people to love you back. People will notice if someone hates themselves, and they'll feed on that emotion. I know it might be difficult, I was for the most part in your position in middle school. I shut myself out from the outside, mostly sitting infront of my computer playing games. I didn't have many friends to talk to and I felt kinda lonely at times. I was for example bullied for my real name, which is shared with the name of a mushroom. (I know, silly isnt it?) But once you find friends you love and they love you back, you forget all the things in the past. It seems like you worry too much about how people act in your presence. Most of the time the laughter might be meant for something else, like a conversation or a joke someone just told the said group or person and you just happen to pass by, thinking that the laughter was pointed at you. It's not like that at all. Just ignore it, and don't worry about it. People with little confidence tend to find behaviour or conversations in their presence directed to themselves when they're clearly not.
And from what I can tell from your ID, you're not ugly at all. You're very cute. Don't believe what those boys say about you, or if those comments were directed to you at all. People who make fun of others usually have their own problems to deal with, and by making fun of others, they ease the pain for the moment. But it won't work in the long run. Once guys gets older, they see that beauty don't only lie in looks alone. The boys your age just don't know it yet.
Try talking to someone about your problems. If by some reason you can't talk about it to your friends, talk to your parents, or any siblings you might have. It might feel awkward or embarrassing, but its going to feel so much better once you talk about it.
Once again, youre only 16. you have a whole life ahead of you, most people hated their childhood, but they stood strong and held it together. Just learn to love yourself for who you are and ignore anyone who tells you otherwise. I hope I made some sense in my text, I wish you the best of luck!
And from what I can tell from your ID, you're not ugly at all. You're very cute. Don't believe what those boys say about you, or if those comments were directed to you at all. People who make fun of others usually have their own problems to deal with, and by making fun of others, they ease the pain for the moment. But it won't work in the long run. Once guys gets older, they see that beauty don't only lie in looks alone. The boys your age just don't know it yet.
Try talking to someone about your problems. If by some reason you can't talk about it to your friends, talk to your parents, or any siblings you might have. It might feel awkward or embarrassing, but its going to feel so much better once you talk about it.
Once again, youre only 16. you have a whole life ahead of you, most people hated their childhood, but they stood strong and held it together. Just learn to love yourself for who you are and ignore anyone who tells you otherwise. I hope I made some sense in my text, I wish you the best of luck!
That´s a long text O.O
Thanks for giving me your time, yah I think you are right, I´ll try the best in my future C:
Thanks for giving me your time, yah I think you are right, I´ll try the best in my future C:
youre very welcome
Dear IokoThePanda,
You do not have a hateable personality; what you are is normal, and nice. Unfortunately there are some mean people at school, who treat nice people badly. Those mean people are louder than the nice people, but that does not mean they are more common. Unfortunately, meanness cannot defeat meanness. But niceness can. Go out of your way to be nice to other people, and you may be pleasantly suprised to discover two things: 1. some of the mean people will stop being mean. 2. alot of people who said nothing before will open up to you and be nice to you.
This advice I am giving is very difficult advice to take, but it is also advice that if taken, could change your whole school experience, as well as many other people's.
I'm sorry you have to go through what you are going through in the first place; I went through the same thing. Be assured that after I graduated, I never had to experience anything like that again, but I still have nightmares about it.
However, as time goes by the nightmares are becoming fewer and fewer.
Hang in there!
SoF
You do not have a hateable personality; what you are is normal, and nice. Unfortunately there are some mean people at school, who treat nice people badly. Those mean people are louder than the nice people, but that does not mean they are more common. Unfortunately, meanness cannot defeat meanness. But niceness can. Go out of your way to be nice to other people, and you may be pleasantly suprised to discover two things: 1. some of the mean people will stop being mean. 2. alot of people who said nothing before will open up to you and be nice to you.
This advice I am giving is very difficult advice to take, but it is also advice that if taken, could change your whole school experience, as well as many other people's.
I'm sorry you have to go through what you are going through in the first place; I went through the same thing. Be assured that after I graduated, I never had to experience anything like that again, but I still have nightmares about it.
However, as time goes by the nightmares are becoming fewer and fewer.
Hang in there!
SoF
oh, I´ll try my best with your advise 
thank you for spending your time <3
thank you for spending your time <3
Making Internet friends help, Since people can feel a bond with a person they are talking to. And trust can be developed.
However though I have not been in your situation. I can say alot of people don't actually care what a person looks like. Atleast not until they start talking to others who decide to ask.
Try going out by yourself to events that no one you know goes to. And try and see if you can meet some new people. Unfortunately school. is a place where you have some tribal bullcrap going on. So even if someone wants to be friends with you, they won't because they don't want to risk their rep or whatever.
Going out and meeting new people, Starting a conversation with the person in the queue with you, is a way to build up self confidence, You might even end up being friends, who then meet up to go to events together.
However though I have not been in your situation. I can say alot of people don't actually care what a person looks like. Atleast not until they start talking to others who decide to ask.
Try going out by yourself to events that no one you know goes to. And try and see if you can meet some new people. Unfortunately school. is a place where you have some tribal bullcrap going on. So even if someone wants to be friends with you, they won't because they don't want to risk their rep or whatever.
Going out and meeting new people, Starting a conversation with the person in the queue with you, is a way to build up self confidence, You might even end up being friends, who then meet up to go to events together.
yah, a really good tipp C:
but in my town aren´t much event´s...
And I don´t like going out alone, the I feel a little bit lost... :S
but in my town aren´t much event´s...
And I don´t like going out alone, the I feel a little bit lost... :S
Ahhhh i see. I used to be like that aswell not wanting to go out. Was pretty much a recluse for 5 years but not because I was afriad of being alone but more like I had nothing to do out there. Till I decided I need to change my life. Guess the difference is I was in a city, So I could find events to go to.
Don't feel down cause your short, I find short to be attractive for women. Since they are the right height for hugs.
Don't feel down cause your short, I find short to be attractive for women. Since they are the right height for hugs.
lol, yah, I think I´m looking for something I can go to C:
^_^ Good luck. I hope you can find something to go to.
yah, thanks C:
Your welcome.
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How can you call this guy a friend if he's always putting you down? If he was really your friend he would treat you with respect and accept you for who you are. You should end your friendship with him because he's not worth it.
Perhaps you can befriend someone who is exactly the same size as you or meet someone that shares the same interests/hobbies like you in school clubs or youth groups. If not then you can befriend people on the Internet. I can be your friend if you like
I can relate with you because I also don't have much friends in real life and I've gotten most of my support from my father and friends on Deviant Art.
Perhaps you can befriend someone who is exactly the same size as you or meet someone that shares the same interests/hobbies like you in school clubs or youth groups. If not then you can befriend people on the Internet. I can be your friend if you like
I can relate with you because I also don't have much friends in real life and I've gotten most of my support from my father and friends on Deviant Art.
yah, maybe C:
lol, the same size... so I have to meet someone who is 11?! x´D
yah, we can be friends C:
lol, the same size... so I have to meet someone who is 11?! x´D
yah, we can be friends C:
Wait you mean your height is 11 
? I converted your size 155 cm into ft and inches and it's 5"1.
I'll watch you and add you to my friend list
? I converted your size 155 cm into ft and inches and it's 5"1.I'll watch you and add you to my friend list
ähhh, no, tha age is 11 x´D
Yah <3
Yah <3
Well it's optional to befriend people your age or a little older or younger. In my situation I tend to get a long with people who are either older than me or younger than me.
You may consider socializing more with a "controlled' group of people like say at meetings church or some other social gatherings with people your family knows well. This can help build your self esteem some and you don't have to worry too much about being picked on since they know you or someone close to you. It's less risky than just trying to socialize with strangers who have no incentive to be nice if you already are having esteem issues.
Yah, we even don´t go to the church, we don´t belive in god....
but thanks <3
but thanks <3
It doesn't have to be a religious group, do they have anything like the YMCA in Germany?
what´s YMCA?
It's a community outreach group, they do tons of programs and services. It can be stuff from swimming lessons, counseling, shelters for homeless people, or sporting activities.
But key point, finding a low stress place to socialize is important if you want to build self esteem or get comfortable dealing with others.
But key point, finding a low stress place to socialize is important if you want to build self esteem or get comfortable dealing with others.
yah, we don´t have something like that...
but yah, thanks a lot C:
but yah, thanks a lot C: