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I have no idea where i'm going

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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I'm coming up to adult age soon. 18 is a huge step and I really don't think i'm going to get far. I had to drop out of school because I was failing almost every subject. I have to start work soon, become independent, become an adult and i'm going to be starting TAFE soon. I try to be the best person I can. I don't take drugs, drink and do any other shit. but my mother explodes when I don't want to go for a drive with her like it's a crime. I have no emotional crutches. Dad doesn't really care and Mum is just spastic. I don't really have any trustworthy friends so im sort of alone there. I've been overweight most of my life. I keep telling myself if I ignore everything people tell me and just do what is right, eventually I will become the person I want to be. I've been going to the Gym for months now and im on a diet. It seems to be working so I'm going to keep trying. I feel good for once because I look like im getting in shape :). I think the best thing for me is to be alone. away from everyone. I'm not going on Facebook it's just fucking depressing how ignorant and close minded people are. I think the only time I'm really happy is when im alone.

I'm just going to keep telling myself, "Fuck everyone, you're going to become successful and do what you've always wanted to do."

Is my head in the right frame of mind or should I be thinking differently?
Please give me some tips deviants.
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Gingerbaron Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I like a lot of people have said here just look at the positives in life. The more time you think about negative it will slowly bring you down. Like you said yourself you are working on your shape and keeping at it which an awesome job! You know that working hard gets achievements so congrates on that. The more you think about turning that milestone the more you will worry, just let it happen and keep on with what you were doing before. With regards to people in general some of them are closed minded like you said but their are other that aren't people just like you, you just have to find them. Starting a course is always a good start meeting people and decided who you like and who you don't.

So try to be open minded with people we all have our flaws but its the good you look into people. Good luck on turning 18 and as you said if you want to become successful you will be driven to meet you expectations! :)
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012
Thank you very Much :)
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Gingerbaron Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Your very welcome my fellow DA
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Australian-Spongebob Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I think most of your "frame of mind" is right, but some of it isn't. It's really good that you're going to start TAFE and that you are pretty much just trying to be a good person. but I don't think you should have this permanent mind-set that everyone is ignorant and fuck everyone I'll just be alone cause it's better/easier. Everyone needs someone to talk to and have a laugh with, sometimes :)
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I have my kitty. He lays on the computer desk and we enjoy each other's company :P
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Australian-Spongebob Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
okay, well that's cute and I'm sure your cat completely un-judgemental, not to mention adorable, but you should talk to people too. :) you can talk to me whenever you want :P
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012
Sweet Thank you very much :)
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Australian-Spongebob Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem :)
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yami-joey Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Student General Artist
Not all people are close-minded and ignorant.. I hope you can open up yourself to those people. :)
I've figured it's okay to be alone, but finding friends who we can trust is a big weight lifted from us..hope that helps..
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Thank you :)
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yami-joey Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Student General Artist
Maybe you need a hug. It's only a virtual one though :D
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
lol I need a real one aswell but thank you :)
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Glori305 Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Well, while you can be whatever you want to be.....that includes and are willing to work for.

What are you doing to achieve your goals? Dropping out of school is a bad sign, and that goes for employers of even the meanest sort. The person who quits is generally going to keep on quiting when things get hard, and in life, things always go in cycles, sometimes things are hard, sometimes they are good.

Is TAFE going to get you into the field you want to become successful in? Not saying don't do it. Since you have dropped out of school, even if TAFE will not get you into your field, you are going to need some job skills, and completing one program often cancels out the dropping out of another (at least in employer's eyes)

You will need to connect with people for almost any job field. And it will be easier to connect with people and learn how to read them and be personable prior to job interviews, so I would suggest connecting with people. You are not looking for a deathless best friends forever relationship here, just people you can talk to and listen to. That way you have good listening and speaking skills prior to having your future job depending on them.

Since you are working on getting in shape, an exercise group, even if it is just a "walk around the park" group would be a good starting place.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
TAFE do courses that allow you to be eligible for university and give you a reasonable amount of qualifications to get a job.
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Glori305 Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012
Here in the states if you drop out of High School, you can take a test, which gives you an equivilancy degree. If you take that and go on to community college (basicly a 2 year program that prepares you for a specific job, like welder, or to go on to 4 year college) if you complete that program, you generally have a better chance of getting a job than someone with just a high school degree, and if you drop out of/do not complete that as well, you have a worse chance of getting a job than others.

That is why I said stick with the TAFE even if it will not get you to the field you want to get in to.

And "a reasonable amount of qualifications to get a job" depends entirely upon the job. You are saying that you are going to be successful in the field of your choice. That can work, but that may not be the path that TAFE sets you on and you may have to take additional steps and do additional problem solving to get there.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012
To be honest :) I excited to go to TAFE, I'm going to be doing a Cert 3 in IT and they give me servers to play with. I looked at the place and it really feels like something I could get into.
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PMMurphy Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Your in the right frame of mind. For the most part. The only negative thought is the whole "i dont need people" idea. Everyone EVERYONE needs friends. Thats what makes us emotionally healthy people. So don't cut yourself away from the world all because a few shitty people screwed you over.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I think what I really need is just time alone.
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PMMurphy Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Just keep yourself busy. But don't close yourself off from the world around you.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I normally just sit on the computer to keep me busy :)
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PMMurphy Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thats another problem. It's ok to have some hobbies where you just sit around isolating yourself, but you need hobbies where your out and about and being active too. Something simple like going to a gym 4 times a week for a workout and talk to some people while doing it. Maybe you can sign up to a weekly bowling league.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I try to go to the gym as much as possible and it's ironic you said that.. Dad and myself did sign up for a bowling league. we were coming second but we stop going.
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PMMurphy Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
The thing is people who isolate themself miss out on alot of things in life. Not only that but social interaction and various other things lowers your stress levels and makes you a better person overall. Having friends with some kind of emotional attachment is realy theraputic to the soul and really helps you out in many ways by lowering the amount of stress you have to deal with on a daily basis. I know all this because when i was in a mental institute getting diagnosed bipolar all we heard from the counselers and the workers there was ways to manage our stress and take care of ourselves.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I don't think a short break from people will hurt me badly.
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Stop lying to yourself.
Diets will always fail you. They're always temporary.

The only solution is to change your lifestyle. Drop the 'diet' and make permanent changes.
Make sure you're getting your daily fiber too. Consistent intake will help you lose weight over the long haul and keep you healthy.

You could always do the shark diet, wrap yourself in bacon and go play in the waves when the Great Whites are around:P

If you have goals and a gameplan, just make sure you don't burn yourself out. Find ways to relax, chill, and burn stress. Don't worry about other people. You'll eventually meet humans you can co-exist with.


Chuckle time......
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Well I think I could really stick to this diet. I don't really feel like quiting anytime soon and I have made lifestyle changes, I'm trying to do 1 hour of gym every day. hehe shark diet. Well im trying not to get discouraged but no one around my house is helping.
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Don't expect help from the house-mates. You have to be all Arnold in the Terminator, never stopping until some chick tricks you into crushing your head in some factory. Hardcore.

If you get into some sports you will not need the gym. Combine that with an active job and you'll be doing good.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I kinda like the gym, it's the right enviroment to lose weight, I can go at my own pace and there's heaps of sexy girls which helps with hormones
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Sweaty men too :iconhomosexplz:

Just remember to get some outside time too because there are benefits.
Being outside a lot helps with eye sight and depth perception.
Plus fresh air, various terrains, sunlight...
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I used to go walking with mum but I really hated that.
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EbolaBearVomit Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012
Go alone, just be wary of ninjas.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012
Im always on my guard
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drachenmagier Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Go for it and never give up. :)
You sound like someone who will make it, to live the way he wants to live, to get things done.

I like you already for doing it for yourself. Your thought is not "fuck them, I'll show them", the goal is clearly only with a focus on your wellbeing. Which is rare.

Also, Prefering to be alone is not a sickness, even though many seem to think it is. Friends come and go. True friends are harder to find and I know I haven't encountered more than 2 in my whole life. I was even told once, that when you find 3 true friends in your whole life, you are a very lucky person.

You don't need a big group of people around you, especially not to make yourself look social.

Though don't be disappointed when you don't FEEL different once 18. d:
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
I totally agree with you. Thank you :)
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Avenvia Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012  Student Writer
It's good to think positively, so definitely keep believing that you'll be successful. However, it's also good to give yourself a more concrete, attainable goal than simply to be successful. What does successful actually entail?

Write down a list of what you hope to achieve - careers, skills, personal life - and work out the best way to go about getting it. It's great that you've worked hard to get in shape and lose weight; now apply that same mentality to other areas of your life. Trying to become an adult seems like a huge, intangible goal; writing down real aims for yourself will help you to move forward in a manageable way and know you're making progress,
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Alright, thank you for the advice. Listing goals
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LisaReyOfHope Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Why in heaven's name did you drop out of school? A high school diploma is almost required for any job you apply for.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Not in Australia. You can leave school at Grade 10 to go in to a trade. TAFE offer Adult Tertiary Courses which is about the equivalent to doing Grade 12. I left in Grade 11.
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LisaReyOfHope Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Well you almost need a college degree to get a well paying job here anymore. So in other words, you pay money out to bring money in.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
We don't really have a big enough population to make everyone go through university. Of course we need some sort of training but the media keeps telling us we don't have enough workers so they're trying to get as many people to work as possible. Most of the work here is some sort of Mining job or trade. you have a better chance of getting those jobs than a behind the desk job. purely because all the minerals were exporting to China is a main source of money and we need houses because our population is growing rapidly. some people think you can make more money digging up the ground than working behind a desk.
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StupidStudios Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Rev up your ratio. Make a list of your values and then a list of your targets in life. Get rid of the contradictions: if you find a contradiction, check your premises, you'll find that one or more of them are wrong.
Once you have a clear idea of what you think is important, divide it all up in baby steps. Then start walking.
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MrSpeedyPanda Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2012
Alright, i'll try to see if that works. Thank you.
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