I haven't dealt with such pain personally but the only advice I can give you is that you have to help yourself. Its difficult when there are things stopping you from doing that but the only person you can help is yourself so try to live in the present and whatever is happening is not your fault. By helping yourself you can help others. I know its easier said then done but hopefully it helps you in a positive way.
The more support you can get from people who understand what you're going through, and Alzheimers itself will make you feel better. Even if you can't talk about it, we understand and we'll be there for you. Please, come over Christmas, it might help. You're part of our family.You're always welcome here.
Yeah I was interested to see what people here would have to say, I can talk about it but its like talking about a subject people don't understand to someone. Spoke to some older people online who lost the relatives that way. Never any young though so they never tend of lived with it or/and have solid adult memories of that person.
Don't worry I'll come over even have your Christmas present haha might be a little out of touch though it's been a year almost now.
Awh, thank you :')The last time you came over we'd just intoduced Penny to the family! She's so big now O.o We should make some definate arrangements, anyway. How long are you home for?
We understand more than you think.Mum talks about him every day, but you two have had a different relationship with him as a father.iI's probably more painful for you because you haven't had the support from him at this time in your life.
I think I can help you here. In 3 days, it'll be 7 years since my mom died of breast cancer that she had for 3 years before finally dying. Even while she had the cancer, I was very upset, since in a way I felt death was inevitable, even when I hoped she'd get better. So I feel like we all started grieving before she was gone. Being as it's been about 7 years now, just thinking about it isn't so bad (and I probably briefly remember once a day), but really delving into it still makes me upset, and I feel that's okay. I accept she has died, and there has even been some good that happened afterward, even if there was a lot of bad. My family did go to counseling for it, but I don't recall the therapist really talking about my mom very much, more often it was my plans for the future (since I was in high school at the time of the counseling). Considering my age, I never really thought of it as getting worse as much as her having cancer at all was bad. It was upsetting when she was in the hospital, and it was upsetting when she was at home struggling to do day-to-day things and becoming bedridden. All I can say is that it will be hard sometimes, and talking about it will get easier as time goes on.