1. Knowing language is worthwhile. Though if it's something that you enjoy learning more at a self pace (obviously that works for you because you're English is better than some native speakers) and need credits, maybe see if there is an online or "distance learning" class where you have more time to self-teach and less time sitting in a lecture that you find useless? Many colleges and universities offer these, even for students living on campus. I found them to be very handy when I was in university.
Literature is surprisingly useful. Reading on your own is nice, but having a hand analyzing them is nice too. I don't think getting a degree in it would necessarily be a good idea though, unless you did want to become a literature teacher.
2. It's hard. But now you're near a bunch of new people and you never know who you might meet. Staying attached to someone who wasn't working would have held you back from the amazing people you're going to meet at university. Just try to use the opportunity to join clubs or societies that interest you and make some friends. It's hard, but if you're in a place with likeminded people, you'll be able to find more people to hang out with. I joined Rocky Horror in college and those were the best 4 years of my life!
3. With a good number of majors, you can pick one when you are a sophomore without too much trouble. I didn't declare the major I graduated with until I was a junior and graduated in 4 years (helped that I'd taken some classes pertaining to it earlier). My boyfriend did the same. I wish I had advice on picking one to get a career, but I'm still trying to figure that out for myself and I graduated with a "good for marketing!" major over a year and a half ago.
Does your university have a crisis line or counseling center? I frequented both when I was in university. They are very good resources when you're feeling down and need some direction.
1. yeah I have the B2 certificate in english but I had a text this week which said I was a C1 and I realized that I arrived until B2 studying and then jumped to C1 by myself, when I went in london and then met people and practised real language. Of course I am happy since mine was the best result in my class, but... it's another proof I don't need this degree to learn languages! anyway I think I'd rather study something more practical and then learning languages on my own and then I could go to work abroad...
2. Yeah being single surely helps... not only for the relationships, I think that I don't feel so social... I want to focus on myself, my possibilities, I want to discover what I want to do with my life and having a person who has been everything, my life, my project, my ambition, with me... it didn't help me. Right now I feel like if there's a huge hole in my life, but I can't call him back since I have to fill it with my projects as a single being.
3. Keep in mind I am in italy, here things work a little different! Here, with a degree in Foreign languages and Literatures, I could choose three different ways: General Linguistic, Translation/Interpreting/Cultural Mediation, or something about Literature... I think that if I should go on with this course I'd pick Linguistic. It may be kind of useless but it kicks asses
I've been to the counseling center and they gave me a form to fill, I filled it and they said they'll call me like... near the end of january, woo-hoo anyway I'll search for other structures providing the free service...
Do you still like languages, though? Because they don't seem SO useless. There are lots of careers that require multiple languages. If you can learn them (I simply can't...) and you really like them, it's not a worthless study. If you're feeling pressure to take something "useful" but can't imagine anything other than languages, have you considered Sign? When I did pastry arts (another useless trade), I was kinda jealous of the sign language interpreters. They attended all of the classes, learned all of the material (as they were translating) and got to go on all of the fieldtrips! LOL Plus, it's a gorgeous language.
cool! actually I was thinking about 3 things - If I keep Languages and Literatures I'll get a major in Linguistic. - I could switch to Biological Sciences and then get a major in Zoology - I could study Illustration and develop my drawing skills
those are the opinions I'm considering... i've just talked to my mother and she was happy for my mark in english, but she is also worried because I've dropped russian... I know she could never take decisions instead of me, but I share her opinion, I'm wasting my time
It sounds to me it might be better if you switch faculties...perhaps try general studies and get a hang of what you like? Take a few classes spread out (eg. science, English, music, art, etc), and I think it can give you a good idea of what you might like. This isn't necessarily a bad thing either, because they may contribute to your degree later so it's not as thought you're wasting time figuring out what you like! Heck, even the linguistic stuff can contribute to other degrees. Because if you are crying 2-3 times about this...well, why invest so much energy in something you dislike?
I would also go and try to speak with someone (like an academic counsellor or something). I think they would have better advice for you (since I'm not sure how schools run where you live). Because right now it sounds like school isn't your only problem!
Is this your first year in University? If so, gosh, you still have time to figure out what you want to do! Going into University, I think a lot of people expect to FINISH IN FOUR YEARS, GET A JOB, GET MARRIED!! Kind of thing. I used to think that way, but my views have changed greatly. I've extended my degree by about a year/year and a half...but you know, there really is nothing wrong with that. I know tons of friends who need 5-6 years (instead of 4) to finish.
You might feel bad about telling your parents...but I think you will have to at some point. I didn't tell my parents I failed a course, but they found out. They were more sad I didn't tell them, actually.
Try chaplaincy or a religious leader for confidential talking-to for now. Definitely fight tooth-and-nail for a talk with career counsilor/advisor. Be shameless and desperate, because your situation is urgent and dire. Wait outside their office first thing in the morning, and refuse to leave until you've set an appointment with them. They will definitely have more knowledge and resource about how to craft a career based on your skills, strength, and interests. Your career advisor isn't someone you're out to be best friend with anyway, so who cares if you're being annoying and insistent, and they don't like you? They still have to do their job or lose it. I wish I knew that when I was in uni. I not only lose 1 year, I lost almost 3 years, got out just with my degree intact. Don't end up like me. If you lose 1 year, don't lose more. Fight!
Does your school have career counselling? Academic advisors? It sounds like a lot of what you're feeling about your classes comes from uncertainty about your degree and/or job, and if you talked to someone who knows about that sort of thing, you'd probably feel better.
You seem to be really awesome at learning languages on your own. You could sit down with a careerer counsellor/academic advisor and find out what you'd like to do with the languages you learn. Then you can take classes to make you better at that thing and study languages on the side by yourself
There are a lot of jobs where it would be much better if you knew more languages. For example, if you went into business and/or marketing, and you put on your resume that you were at least semi-fluent in 7 languages that you learned all by yourself...then people will be impressed and hire you for areas related to international things.
I'm sorry you feel about that. But i feel to say you should drop out University, before you must pay and waste money...unless some exams you wll take are also avaiable for other Uni-s!! If you feel to not belong there, then leave and try to understand what you really want to do. In the while, you can always search for a little job in order to save some money for you and help your parents. I'm not saying it's so easy to do, but it's a way...Photography it's great, zoology too, bt the decision is totally yours you know. Try to ask your friend some help, some infos about other Uni-s Maybe you can get interesred in...and if you have the possibility, why not to follow other courses? (in my country i can) You will make up the ideas..
As for you bfriend,well..friends with benefits is great just until the orgasm. Sorry for being that rude, but it's so..I think you should spend out more time with other peolple, maybe someone who study languages with you. Or invite someone to stay a little in your house, maybe it0ll work..
already payed the taxes for all the year and signed the contract for the house :/ I think I'm going to do the exams, since I've studied for them, and I could take the whole year for thinking about it since I think that the huge flow of ideas and possible lifes is hitting my brain just because of the horribile moment... I'm gonna follow the other courses tho...
anyway, about my ex boyfriend I can tell you that we're not spending so much time together, we just see each other in the weekend so it's not like he's preventing me to see other people cause I don't have time... anyway I don't feel so much like creating new bonds now...
Ok, capito Possiamo parlare italiano, giusto? Cerca solo di non buttarti troppo giù...fai gli esami con calma, magari poi un domani se deciderai di cambiare, qualche esame te lo passano e non dovrai più studiare. In ogni caso, nessuno ha mai detto che la scelta che si fa é quella giusta. La mia ex coinquilina aveva scelto Matematica, dopo un mese se era resa conto che non faceva per lei..si vedeva, non andava a lezione, era depressa nel vero senso della parola. Ha iniziato nel mentre a frequentare altri corsi, Lingue, perché gli esami erano troppo complicati per lei e si buttava giù a studiare per un voto che non le rendeva giustizia..ti ho detto quello perché lei ha counque pagato la seconda tassa del semestre, quando orami non faceva più nulla.. Invece, a mio parere, era meglio se si ritirava e seguiva direttamente i corsi che le interessavano per fare il cambio facoltà!
certo che possiamo! ti ringrazio per il consiglio, adesso darò gli esami per cui ho studiato, nel frattempo ho fatto il passaggio da russo a inglese... anche se mi intristisce stare a lingue a fare inglese in cui non dico di essere perfetta ma per migliorare mi ci vuole solo trasferirmi in un paese anglofono... provo a calmarmi e a vedere un po' cosa posso fare, male che vada torno a casa e per andare fuori aspetto la specialistica...
Two years ago I was studying the art teacher program. I wanted to be a high school or university teacher but kept being placed in grades schools whenever we had practice at a school. All my mentors were really bad and I didn't learn shit about art. Me and my boyfriend also broke up after 4 years and everything was pretty shitty. And to add in high school I was really, really depressed, went to 4 doctors and a therapist. I had a headache for 2,5 years straight and wanted to kill myself.
Well, that sounded pretty depressing. But the therapy really helped, and I started studying art on my own and got onto the music teacher program that was much, much better. Remember that you will NOT feel this way forever. Don't think that this is how it's supposed to be and that this is how you're supposed to feel. You cannot expect yourself to be happy with all the shit you're in. Try to not think too much about your ex right now, try to concentrate on what can make you happy and how you can change the things you are unhappy with. Can you find a way to appreciate the courses you are reading now? Is there some kind of job you want that can be related to what you're studying? Try to imagine how you want to be and what you want to work with in a couple of years and try to work towards it. If there is anything you'd rather study than languages, it's not the end of the world if you change programs. And the headache is probably caused by tension. Don't stress it, because the headache causes stress and the stress causes more headache. I still get headaches very easily, but now when I'm aware of the cause of them they're easier to get rid off. Don't let yourself be caught in thoughts of hopelessness, and don't regard missing a year or telling your parents like "failures". You have not failed just because you don't feel confortable with the courses you are reading. And you have not failed because you don't feel happy right now. Hope I helped a little, at least x) I'll root for you
I do appreciate some of the courses I'm following - I mean, I like literature, but do I need to study it? I'd read anyway! And moreover this is not like going to prepare me for a job (which is also one of the aims of university...i mean I'm not here for cultural masturbation). anyway if I end up finishing this course I think I'll take a degree in Linguistic which is a pretty cool thing, but I don't know if I could do that for my whole life... oh well, we'll see, I can't rush myself into a decision now, I think I should just try to stay quiet, and doing little things I like, doodling, taking pictures, learning languages, and seeing if one or more of these things "develop"... thank you, you helped a lot (:
It's a good thing to not ONLY concentrate on studies and also, like you said, develop your hobbies Who knows, it might be something you'll work with in the future? Follow your dreams and keep cool! And about your boyfriend, it hurts now, it always does. But it won't last forever, either you'll really appreciate being free from the things that was bad about the relationsship or you'll soon be in a better relationship
What made you choose Languages in the first place? If your motivations haven't changed, this could simply be a phase and you should probably allow yourself some more time to adjust to the situation. It sounds like a lot has changed in your life recently and this may be weighing you down.
But if your motivations have changed and you really want to change faculty, try talking to some students who are in the faculties you're considering to get a better idea of what would suit you best.
I think I realised that I like learning languages - but I could do it without following a course on it, since the only extra-competences I'm receiving are about literature and those are not so worth for a job unless you want to become a teacher...
Other languages students are not so encouraging anyway!
FxukerFeatured By OwnerDec 5, 2012Professional General Artist
If you tend to cry 2-3 times a day, I suggest you visit a doctor/therapist/psychiatrist. Being your own doctor doesn't really help achieve anything. Other than that, if you truly feel like yur wasting yur time doing wuht yur doing now, I hate to say this but, try to find a different motive. It doesn't have to be a big risk taking job. Do wuhtever floats yur boat. Sorry if I'm not helping, I'm not very good at advice... But yeah...
Yeah the university provides free psychological aid for students, I went there yesterday and I filled this form, and they said me they will call me for an appointment not before the end of January :/ well I'll see if there are social-services centers around... anyway I'm still attending classes, since I can't tell my parents "hey guess what I dropped uni after two months! tee hee"... anyway maybe I'm just freaking out, it's no big deal losing a year, I'm young after all...
FxukerFeatured By OwnerDec 6, 2012Professional General Artist
Aish. Yur really into a dead zone there, idk wuht to say, (especially considering I'm just 16 trying to give advice to someone in university.) Well, it's good yur ahead of the game on searching for help but really, don't stress yurself about it. And idk yur parents, I'm not very close wif mine either, but in these kinda situations, I think it's best to just tell then no matter wuht u think their gonna say/do because it might turn out not as bad as you think.
yeah I told them I'm a bit unsure about what I'm studying right now... i tried to put them in a different perspective like "What if I don't find a job? I don't want you to provide me for food and clothes until I'm 40", and maybe they would be not disappointed in me changing since I could be more prepared for a job with another course... thank you (:
well they said oh uhm yeah think about it I think that if I should ever decide to swith course, I'd tell 'em, oh well, you'd rather pay everything for me for an extra year or until I'm 40? it's up to you!