When you come out as 'not straight', I think it helps to know that nothing have changed. To know that you are still their friend and you view them in the same way. A few of my close friends asked me about my preferences and things when I came out as bi, but most while we had been drinking. I think it is okay to want to know somethings about his sex life, if you want, but don't press him if you do. Also, since he hasn't actually directly told YOU yet, but you know, don't push him into telling. Maybe give him incredibly small hints but don't confront him about not telling you yet. Some people need more time than others. Coming out is very difficult so indifference is NOT helpful. Be happy for him that he can share that with you and tell him that if he does tell you, then move on. I hope that helped.
I don't like people making a it a big deal when they learn I'm gay. When I first came out to a friend, she told me that she loved and accepted me for who I was (cliche, I know) and proceeded to treat me how she always does - as a friend. She never pushed me to talk about my sexuality... Imo that's the best reaction I could have gotten... It helped; I grew up in a very homophobic environment, and it took me a while to learn that it's to be gay...
This is veri sweet from you. I'm a girl, who has always been with boys and finally fell in love with a girl. I hate that situation, because in my country homosexuality is still a taboo and i'm so afraid of coming out because this will tag me for the whole life; and aboveall, i want to be sure, before making that great decision. However, i know for that how homosexual feel. If it was me, i surely would look for support. It's really important to have non-homophobic friend, who understand that there's nothing wrong with sexual orientation, beacuse it's a matter of love. Friends who don't fear you because "OMH you could jump on me and touch my boobs!" ...No. Nothing about it. I really would search for support, yes. Because it'd be so great to know you're not the only one in your battle and that, whatever people would say, your friends will be there.
Well you should support him, I just recently came out to my friends and I was treated a but differently but I'm still the same persons I'm always am, its just that you should support them as they are and treat them like always, no one wants to be treated differently just because something little about them
Sorry that I'm not a person whosr actually come out but I have a lot of really close lesbian/gay friends
The best thing you can do is not say anything about it and keep treating them the way they are. The only time you should say anything is if they're trying to hit on you and you don't swing that way. But the orientation means nothing really. Its like a persons preference for food. Some people like hamburgers some like hot dogs.
Welp, when I came out all I really wanted to hear was "that's great for you! And just so you know I will stick by you no matter what, because you're still the same person you were before you told me." and that's really what I got. ^^ just act the same as you always do with him. When a friend of mine came out to me, I felt honored that he felt he could trust me enough to tell me, and now he is more awesome than ever xD
There are definitely articles out there that help with the coming out process from a friend's perspective, including a few key things you should say (such as "I still care about you no matter what you identify as" for example) and some things you probably shouldn't mention (such as "I knew you were the entire time!"). I had a friend come out to me and his biggest fear was not being accepted by his family so he was happy enough to find comfort in us as his friends.
I just came out of the closet a bit ago. What I was hoping and wanting to hear and have was for my family and Friends to respect me for who I am, and not treat me differently because of who I am. And fortunatly, that's what I got. Be a supporting friend and support him until the end.
Support is always good, naturally. Nothing much has to change to any huge extent, it's just his sexuality after all For me personally... Questions have never been much of a problem or even an annoyance. You're bound to want to know stuff so... Ask away. Check he's alright with you asking first though so that you're not just like probing him for answers or something. Also try to be sensitive about it without being overly sensitive, if that makes sense. Other than that though... Do as you will.
I think most people just say it to have it said. Like - "just so you know it, I'm gay, you might see me with a boyfriend in the future, stop trying to hook me up with girls". It might not be that specific reason, but it's just said so that people in the surrounding knows.
I know there are people who think it's ridiculous to "come out" since "who cares about your sexuality?" but unless a person comes out, everyone will presume they are straight and it can become bothersome for some. In some aspects it doesn't matter, in some it does.
Anyway. When I came out as bisexual it wasn't to get any reaction, it was simply junior high and sex and relationship was what was talked about. It was also then I had my first girlfriend, so not telling my friends would be odd since they any way would be hearing about my relationship and then they'd know it wasn't with a guy, anyway.
My advice? Don't take it up with him before he tells you about it (or you could, but it might get weird since you heard it from a third part). When he tells you, don't make a deal out of it. Depending on how you relationship is, of course you could talk about it, but don't make a big deal of it.
Oh, and most important: remember that the only thing that has changed is that you now know that he'll be dating guys instead of girls. So don't try to treat him after some stereo type or such. Just be the same friend that you've been before.