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Going to have a sort of blind date hopefully soon, need tips

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ricochet188 Dec 4, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Long story short: I work as a cashier, super cute girl comes through my till with her parents, her parents begin talking to my female co-worker who was working at the till next to me. So i figure they know each other. They leave, and I ask her if she knows the girl. She says yes. I say she was one of the most beautiful people I've seen. She says she can hook me up with her if I wanted. I say HELL YES.

This all happened about 2 weeks ago. Yesterday I go into work and she says she talked to the girl, told her I was an artist that I thought she was super pretty etc and that the girl told her to tell me that next time I see her to say hi and then we can chat and maybe go for coffee or whatever.

SO. My predicament. A: I have to somehow bump into this girl randomly, I know she lives near me but she goes to a different college and I've litterally only seen her twice. One time I saw her at the bus stop in the early morning... but just once.

I have no idea how I'm going to find her. but you guys can't really help with that.

IF I do find her: What do I say?? My plan was simply to say, "hi, my name's Mike, I believe a mutual friend told you about me?" yada yada but beyond that I'm clueless.

QUESTION: what are some basic do's and don't's? How should I act? Do I want to be really flirty or what?

help me
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:iconsiegeonthorstadt:
wow youre turkish..
anyway, my advice is: dont take any tips. be yourself. without attaching any "i should do this\that" stuff. bring out your best characteristics without forcing anything.
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ricochet188 Dec 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm actually Canadian. I set my name to "I am A" and then changed my country to Turkey so that when I view my profile it says " I am a male/Turkey"
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IMDSound Dec 25, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
This is awesome! Reminds me of my own situation similar to this! But hmm, you like have to find her? Your co-worker couldn't just give you her number or something? I guess if that's the case then your best bet is to wait at the bus stop for her. I mean, she probably goes to the stop with regularity, it's highly unlikely that she would never ever go to that bus stop again. She was probably heading to school, you know? I'd say be casual. Don't do anything outside of your personality but also don't be meek or too shy, after all she did already express interest just by telling her friend that she'd like to talk to you, it's not like she blew you off completely. Don't mention how you searched for her though haha. Good luck man. I'd like to know the outcome of this date!
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ricochet188 Dec 25, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Already happened. Gave my number to a friend of hers. Went out for coffee. Now I'm just trying to find some time to hang out with her again. THough I'm not 100% sure she wants to. I'll have to keep prodding
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RavynneNevyrmore Dec 26, 2012  Student Digital Artist
How long ago did you see her? Have you texted her since? A lot of girls I know get super paranoid about texting activity or lack thereof. It doesn't help that most guys signal that they are no longer interested by never speaking to us again, so sometimes not hearing from a guy we've gone out with after a day or two can make us start to think this is what he's doing. I am apparently very liberal when it comes to how long I will tolerate waiting to hear back from a guy; I've recently made many more female friends than I used to have, and they freak out and even get angry if a guy doesn't text them back within a few hours or so.

Oh, and that's the thing you need to be aware of: First it's "I guess he's busy right now," then it's "Omg he's ignoring my text he must think I'm a loser, boo hoo he doesn't like me," then it's "HOW DARE THAT ASSHOLE IGNORE ME LIKE THIS. FUCK HIM FOR NOT LIKING ME, I HOPE HE ROTS IN HELL." Then sometime after that is probably when you realize you have a text on your phone that you haven't opened yet.

The best thing to do would be to text a girl the day after you've gone out with her and say, "Hey, I had a lot of fun last night! Are you doing anything next weekend?" If it's already been a few days, don't worry yet and just replace "last night" with "the other day" or whatever.

Or, if there's anything you two talked about on your date that would make sense to follow up on, like talking about a funny YouTube video or commercial she hasn't seen, or an article you've read that she hadn't, or a movie that she hasn't heard about yet, or a band she's not familiar with, link her to whatever it was you were trying to describe to her. Don't send a novel of text with it, just "this is that ___ I was talking about: [link]"
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ricochet188 Dec 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well, we had coffee and walked home together. Then I didn't text her till this weekend, asking what she was up to, she promptly replied she's working saturday and sunday. I asked if she had any last minute shopping to do on christmas eve, she, again, promptly replied luckily she got it all done (I was looking to see if she'd join me in this last minute shopping) Then I asked what she was doing boxing day (today) she said she's going up to her cabin.

I'm thinking of asking if she'd like to meet up again soon, when she gets back. But slant the message toward really asking if she'd like to see me again. Cause I haven't seen her since last monday... I know this weekend has been busy and it's christmas and all so I haven't had the thought that she's avoiding me or anything. And like I said she responded almost immediately after I texted her and they had a light hearted tone to them.

(I feel like such a tool over-analyzing every little thing like this but if you could provide your advice that'd be swell)
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RavynneNevyrmore Dec 26, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Try asking what she's doing for New Year's. Everyone parties on New Year's, right?

If she says nothing or that she doesn't know yet, invite her to your plans. If she says she's doing something, ask if she wants to meet up with you and yours for a while. If she invites you to her plans, go. Or tell her you're already partying with your friends but would love to meet up after.
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ricochet188 Dec 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
what if i'm a bum and don't have any plans?

She doesn't seem to be the partying type either. I work with a number of her friends and they are all pretty straight laced. From what I gather she is too.

Do you think it would be weird to hang out on new years for a second date?
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RavynneNevyrmore Dec 26, 2012  Student Digital Artist
You should make plans... I wouldn't really want to date anyone who didn't have any friends. They would get clingy.

What does being straight laced have to do with partying? Straight laced people don't get together and celebrate New Year's? "Partying" doesn't have to mean keg stands, lines of coke, and body shots off hookers. I had plenty of non-alcoholic parties when I was younger.

I don't see it as weird unless you're like "we have to MAKE OUT at midnight" or "this means we're going to be together all year, LOL." If I was making a new friend and had a party coming up I'd invite them so I don't see why it has to be weird. Just have fun hanging out and don't be super coupley. Frankly if I was talking to a guy and found out he went to a New Year's party and didn't think to invite me I'd assume he was just setting me up to be a booty call and that's why he doesn't want me to meet his friends. Or that he's seeing other girls (or wants to be) and didn't want me to cramp his style and prevent him from hooking up with someone else on New Year's. Or didn't want me to meet his friends because he's playing multiple girls and doesn't want his friends to know about it.

But if you wouldn't feel comfortable then don't. The hell do I know.
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