Anyway ANOTHER thing is that SHE needs to admit her faults and mistakes instead of BLAMING OTHERS FOR THEM. Today the dog chewed on her "expensive insolene comfy shoe-thingies" AND SHE blames me. WELL EXCUSE ME I was keeping an eye on the dog YOU UNGRATEFUL Bitch: I fed him, took him out many times, came out to keep an eye on him EVEN WHEN MAKING cookies and doing laundry.
AND ANOTHER THING NOT ONLY WILL I keep her from ruining Christmas-BUT ALSO FROM RUINING OUR SPECIAL DAY OUT TOMORROW: RED ROBIN, MALL, AND BOOKSTORE. I've been busting MY ASS Off with my college work and to me this day out sounds like a pre-graduation celebration from GRADUATNG FROM COLLEGE! AND I WILL NOT LET HER LITTLE WHINY, SPOILED, TEMPER TANTRUM ASS RUIN THAT FOR ME!
Chemical imbalances aside, it could just be simple memories of this holiday turning into stress - every single year - that has her even more stressed and on guard.
Why not talk with her, ask her what would make this holiday feel better for her? Try to focus on positive stuff but if she mentions something negative, listen as well. Write it down with her, see if there's a workaround or way to nix that bad thing.
"So board games are stressing, but movie night would be funner, check! Any movies you think would be great for the season?"
She could also just have a huge workload and feel obligated to do more than her share of things. Try to see if it's that and work out a list of things you can all delegate out to the rest of the family.
So instead of her just working on the special dinners all by herself, let someone else pick up one of the dishes, or bake the desert at a relative's house. Stuff like that, share the burden or cut out the extra unneeded stuff.
Also, if you don't already, keep charts going or mark your calendar so events are easier to prepare for. For example:
- A list of cards mailed out or received and by whom. Include addresses to keep it together.
- A master list of 'gift wishes' and single lists that each family member can have for themselves. They can mark off when they find what they're looking for, etc.
- A list of family traditions, movies/games and dates they're enjoyed on. Include also new traditions that the family wants to try out.
- A list of foods to bring for the big gatherings, who will bring what, make sure every one is up to date.
Make sure your mother has access to these so she's aware of what's going on and that she can see a lot of folks are pitching in. That in itself should help a ton.
Until you move out and away from your family, your gonna have to deal with it unfortunately. People, especially your parents, arent going to change unless THEY see a good reason to. Its highly unlikely anything you say will change her behavior. Same thing happened with my mother until I moved out. Now she begs me to come to Christmas every year .