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Couldn't help a stray kitten. Feeling horrible.

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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
This small black kitten rushed up to me when I stepped out of my apartment this morning. He looked hungry and he had an infection, diarrhea leaked out of him constantly. He kept trying to rub up against me and I stayed a while petting him before I went to the store. He looked happy when I wrapped my hands around him and warmed him up (it's winter and the ground is frozen and cold). When I started walking he followed me all the way to the store and people kept telling me he was a cute cat and asking me if he was mine.

I couldn't feed him or help him with his infection. My landlord has already been giving me crap about taking in one cat who was going to be euthanized, I couldn't risk feeding him and having him hang around my apartment constantly. My own cat is a semi-outside cat and I didn't want to create trouble with the two of them either. I didn't know what I could have done to help but I chose to let him go and not risk making myself or my cat sick by touching him too much. I already had to clean the carpet on my porch because he was leaking all over it.

I'm trying to think about other stuff and keep myself distracted but I keep thinking about the kitten. I love cats a lot, I've had them my whole life. I feel like he came to me for help and I turned him down, even though in the back of my mind I know I did the right thing to protect my own kitten and my apartment. I'm barely paying the bills and have no money to spend on vet bills either.

Just had to get this off my chest. I feel so heartbroken for this cat. To think there are dozens like him out there... >:
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dakki-dono Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2012  Professional General Artist
Once I found a cat by a road that was in bad, bad shape. I don't know if it got hit or was sick or what. I thought it was dead until it tried to move. I looked around, flabbergasted. I was a few blocks from my house (on foot) and only had a small purse on me. I talked to it softly and stood up and looked around. My cell was dying. I called my mom and she told me to come home and call the local vet's office for advice. As I hung up, a burly dude covered in tattoos pulled up. The first words out of his mouth were, "Is the cat okay?"
He got out and of course I was wary, but it was obvious he was seriously worried about this cat. I told him about my plan and he was skeptical. He told me he could pick up a cat carrier and drive me to the vet but I was like, yeah, no, not getting in a strange dude's car.
I told him I was going to call the vet and bring it in when I got home and he nodded solemnly. Neither of us wanted to leave it there, but reluctantly parted ways.

I got home and called the vet, mentioning the street names. The woman on the other end told me that a man had brought it in already and I was so happy. He really couldn't wait. Apparently he had gone back and wrapped it in a jacket he had in his car and brought it to the vet.

You can't save every animal but we're all caught in situations where we can only do so much. And sometimes you need to leave the job for somebody else.
You did what you had to, and no one should be shaming you for it. No Kill shelters get full---not many understand that. We caught 4 kittens in our backyard and all the shelters turned us away. You can't just drop animals off at every one. And you don't always have the time or money to get them to one.

I, for one, do not blame you. You couldn't be that kitten's angel, but it's not your job to be ready to be it at a moment's notice. People can flame you about things not being as important as a life, but I say no one can judge until they've been in your position.
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
Hey Dakki, glad to see you're still around. Thanks for the support.

People have judged me like I haven't thought about the options before making my decision but reality is, sadly, not always as pretty as you wish it could be. I had to make a choice, not an easy one but I had to make it. I chose to keep my own cat (and myself and my living space) safe and to avoid feeding the sick kitten, part of the treatment for an infection like he had is a strict specific diet and I could have made it worse by feeding him. Those are all things I thought about while I was petting him and warming him up and he was leaking everywhere on my porch carpet. I knew the shelter near me was full and I had no way to take him anywhere, I don't own a car and don't know anyone who owns one either. I could either take him in or leave him outside.

Whether or not people are able to accept the fact that sacrifices have to happen in life is out of my hands, I made the thread to take it off my chest but I don't expect people to actually understand the situation. Having two sick kittens on my hands if my own cat and the sick cat had come in contact with each other would have been the worst thing ever and I wouldn't have been able to afford treatment for either of them. I figured one cat having an infection was better than two, I made that choice out of love for the cat I already have.
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The-Smut-Peddler Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
I think what you did was the right thing to do given the situation. Reality is sometimes hard to swallow, but hey, it's what happens. I understand what you mean about shelters that have waiting lists or simply refuse to take in more than they have. They are a business after all, they can't take them all either, and they have regulations and guidelines to follow as well. I'm sorry you're catching flack for doing what any responsible person would do in the same situation. I just want you know, no matter what people say to you, you did the right thing. Feeling that hurt over that little animal makes you a good person who obviously is selfless and caring. I hope someday you look back on this and hold your head up high knowing you're a sweet and kind person. ^___^ Sorry for the bit of a rant but I felt you might need that pointed out!

Keep being you!
Stay beautiful!
~Levi
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Midnyte-Wolf Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Have you asked around, maybe? Seen if there's anyone else willing to adopt and take care of it? Like any of the people at the store?
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bryosgirl Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I know it's not a favorable, but *if* whatever is wrong with the kitten is terminal, it may actually be more humane to euthanize the kitten, rather than allow it to die slowly and potentially infect any other animals in the area.

Another option, as was mentioned below, would be to see if there are any no-kill shelters within commuting distance that would be able and willing to take the kitten in.

It's really horrible when you're faced with this kind of situation. I have a soft spot for dogs, but right now it would be impossible for my husband and I to take one in, so if we were in your position, we would either have to find someone to take him/her in, or else bite the bullet. :(
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
know it's not a favorable, but *if* whatever is wrong with the kitten is terminal, it may actually be more humane to euthanize the kitten, rather than allow it to die slowly and potentially infect any other animals in the area.


THIS. I really don't understand how people would rather animals suffer and possibly hurt other animals :S
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AnAliasUnknown Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
While I understand that you weren't able to physically take the kitten in for a variety of understandable reasons, I don't understand why you didn't think about looking for a local shelter or animal control to deal with the situation? If you couldn't physically take the kitten there, could you have found someone who could? If you happen to encounter the kitten again, I would consider looking into those options. Otherwise, we can only hope that someone else will be able to do the right thing.
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
I've tried actually, with another kitten before this one. The shelters around where I live are all full and they can't take any more cats in. There was another stray kitten I tried to help the same way and they couldn't take it. They told me that the only option I had was to send it to a clinic where they would euthanize it and I didn't want to do that.
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AnAliasUnknown Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
:hmm: I don't suppose you could have thought of anyone who might be able to take care of the kitten? I would check the shelters again in the off-chance you see the kitten again, but it does sound like an alternative would have to be in order.
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LabCreatedRuby Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
If you encounter the kitten again, find a cardboard box or confine it to your bathtub or something, then call Animal Control to come pick it up. You only have to hold it for the time it takes them to arrive, and then once they take it, it's their responsibility to deal with. You don't have to go anywhere or pay any money.
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SnowLeoLuv Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
To the people who said take it to a shelter, if there were none close to her, how is she supposed to get there without a car and no money?

Anyways, it's hard to see suffering, but there is only so much one person can do. There is so much suffering in the world I know I have to tell myself that I can't save everyone... or even that I can't save anyone. It is the way of this world. There is not life without death.

Hope you feel better Steph!
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
A lot of shelters will come and pick animals up. If the shelter will not do it, I'm sure they know someone with a car.
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SnowLeoLuv Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
As she mentioned above, no shelters would pick it up. Also, sometimes people don't know other people well enough to ask them to use their cars. Don't just assume things about people.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
She didn't ask the shelters, she assumed. Situations do change.

I'm not assuming. :B
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SnowLeoLuv Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
If you say so :)
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
<3333 Sera :iconcryforeverplz: Thank you
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SnowLeoLuv Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
<333 *hugs*
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AnAliasUnknown Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Lack of a car wasn't mentioned, she could have called someone who could do that. Any other questions?
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SnowLeoLuv Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
I know her personally so it doesn't need to be mentioned. Any other questions?

I also know of shelters that wont take animals because they don't have room, even if you offer to take them there. And obviously by Steph's comment above, all the shelters wouldn't take it in.
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AnAliasUnknown Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
Sure, YOU do. WE don't. You can't get in a tizzy over our questioning of it if we don't know.

Did she actually confirm that all of the shelters in her area wouldn't take the kitten in? Because I didn't see any comment regarding that.

My point is, while I understand she couldn't personally give herself completely to doing something for this kitten, I just wonder if alternatives could have been sought.
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w01fg4ng Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I took in a kitten not knowing she had an infection, the whole family caught it so we couldn't look after her anymore, now my cat has the it too, and it cost so much money for vet bills etc. It's really sad but it's a good idea to avoid ill kittens, I've had too many bad experiences, though it does break my heart :(
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
Yeah that's what I was afraid of. My own cat has already had a minor eye infection when I first adopted him and it was so much work to heal him, I couldn't risk letting him get sick again. I'm starting school again soon and I wouldn't have time to watch over two sick kittens.
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WhiskyOmega Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional General Artist
Take it to an animal shelter where they can heal it and it'll have a chance to find a loving family; it's a far better fate then leaving it to fend for itself and die without help outside.
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OrangeKrissy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Leaking all over, not a good sign. Maybe someone used him for their bestiality fetish which is horribly depraved. An animal shelter probably would have euthanized it. Maybe another kind soul will take it in but I agree you did the right thing for you.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
An animal shelter probably would have euthanized it. There are no-kill shelters. Herp, derp.

. Maybe another kind soul will take it in but I agree you did the right thing for you.

Just like somebody will adopt all the other strays that die on the street? :lmao:

Here's a lovely life lesson.

Once upon a time there were four people: Their names were Everybody, Somebody, Nobody, and Anybody. Whenever there was an important job to do Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. When Nobody did it, Everybody got angry because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Somebody would do it, but Nobody realized that Nobody would do it. So consequently Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done in the first place.
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OrangeKrissy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Or you can just kick it to the curb and go about your business then.
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:icondivine--apathia:
divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Because that reply makes total sense :lmao:
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:icondivine--apathia:
divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
And why didn't you take it to a shelter...?
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
Shelter was not an option available to me. The shelters around where I live are all full and they can't take any more cats in. There was another stray kitten I tried to help the same way before this one and they couldn't take it. They told me that the only option I had was to send it to a clinic where they would euthanize it and I didn't want to do that. I don't think I could have lived with myself if I had it put down for being sick and there are are fees to pay to have a cat killed.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
I don't get people like you. You'd rather the cat suffer a slow, painful death than a quick, painless one. Diarrhoea is a killer in young animals. It's the biggest killer of children in Africa.(It kills more children than even AIDS)
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
Not necessarily. In a lot of cases it's actually pretty easy to treat with a strict diet and antibiotics when you have the resources to do it, which I don't. Do your research before trying to make people feel guilty.
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
The stray will magically get treated. The medical treatment will just appear out of nowhere, and treat the cat itself.Yeah, no that's not going to happen.

If someone was treating it, it wouldn't in that condition in the first place, would it? The stray has no one to give it medical care. It is going to die.

I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, I'm just saying the truth. I'm not going to lie to make you feel better :roll:
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Stephromancy Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Professional Interface Designer
It takes money to treat a cat's illness and it also costs money to have a cat euthanized. Obviously if I had the money and I had the option to make that choice I would have already put that money into treatment. Go be self-righteous somewhere else.
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MagicMoonBird Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh that was my thought as well....once it gets better I bet some nice people would love to adopt it O.o
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Because, let's face it. Which kitten are people more likely to take into their house?

1.Sick,dirty kitten that's getting feces all over the place. unknown temperament. unknown problems.
2. healthy clean kitten, had a vet check, temperament checked (I don't know if all shelters do this, but the ones around here categorize animals into temperaments. So,for example, a family can get a pet that'll be good with kids, or a single person can get animal that doesn't demand as much attention etc.) had it's needles, possibly even desexed (depending on the age)


As much as I am a animal lover, I could not look after the first one. I couldn't risk my other animals or the small children I am around getting sick and I'm not experienced with extremely ill animals. With other animals and small children so it's not like I can introduce bad tempered animals into my household

However, I definitely could look after the second.
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MagicMoonBird Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Definatly the second one!...and as far as I know, most shelters will do their best to help the kitten if they can, so yeah...
Indeed...I couldnt do that either, I would be afraid that my other cats might get infected O.o ...I would have called the animal shelter for sure, so I know they would do their best to help it, otherwise my heart would be broken :XD:....leaving it there by itself
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
If the cat is too sick to survive, they'd stop it suffering. If it was healthy enough to survive, they'd foster it out until it was better and then it'd get adopted out. (and kittens are high in demand...it's usually older animals that have trouble getting adopted)

Either outcome seems good to me. :shrug:
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MagicMoonBird Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah true :nod:

I totaly agree on that
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
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MagicMoonBird Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh hey its your icon! O.o
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
damnit it, wrong comment :iconfacepalmplzL
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MagicMoonBird Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Haha that can happen :pat: :giggle:
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Danium Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
This
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Karret Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2012
Aweee -clingsto- :'C
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