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When is a good age to start seeking relationships?

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Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Photographer
Hey, my name is Cody. I'll try to keep this as short as I can.

I've always wondered when a good age to start seeking relationships? I'm currently 15 (16 on Nov 30) and in the middle of my Sophomore year. Getting Drivers license and job soon. A lot of Middle school and High School Relationships aren't taken very seriously between people. Also, me being a Homosexual makes it a little tougher. But I just wanted to hear what you guys think is a good relationship seeking age? I was think around the end of HS, but that feels like a long tine from now.

-Cody
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:icongingerontheinside:
gingerontheinside Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
i have liked peplz, but i is in the middle schools and i believe that relationships are for da highschools, so ya :3
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angelxxuan Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
there's always that moment when you feel it's right. some get started way up into their 30s, others start in middle/grade school. another moment is, when you can afford to date and not rely on your parents ;)
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Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Student Photographer
I will definitely go for it when it feels right. I hit 16 tomorrow, so once my parents get back from LaJolla, CA, I'm going to head out and get some more driving time so I can get my license, and then a job right after that. :meow: So that will be good money to afford going out :D

Thank you very much for your comment! Cute Icon :meow:
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:iconangelxxuan:
angelxxuan Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
thanks for liking my icon I like bunnies ! and it's better to focus on yourself before venturing out and getting into a relationship. have fun, you still got plenty of time to enjoy other things which life has to offer, no since in rushing life
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2012  Student Photographer
I will, thanks again. ^^
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OneEyedMe Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Digital Artist
When you don't need to "seek" a relationship and simply fall in love is when you'll know.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Good way of putting it, short and simple xD

Thank you :meow:
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ssensory Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012   Writer
I would say the age you are when you start high school and/or get a job. That would vary for everyone. A general age I'd say would be 14.
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Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Thanks. Lol I'll be getting my license real soon and a job right after that, that sounds like now xD

Thanks for your comment, it's much appreciated :meow:
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ssensory Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012   Writer
You're very welcome! XD

Yeah, I'm almost 16 (in high school) and I could have a job if I wanted, but I can't get my license until I'm 17 or so. XD

You;re welcome again! :la:
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Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
:D
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ssensory Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012   Writer
:XD:
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bleedlings Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
3 years old.

OH you meant a serious answer! Um, probably 15 in my opinion haha.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Well I'm hitting 16 in a day, but I've decided that I will be at least 17 or 18 (end of HS, Beginning of College) before I go seeking serious relationships, I want to make sure the mate that I Do get in a relationship with will be in the same area as me, or me to them. :meow:
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bleedlings Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's a good idea in my opinion!
good to see that there's still people that aren't obsessed with love XD
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
:meow:
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FerricPlushy Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Since you're gay you're allowed to start dating later, I wouldn't recommend dating in high school unless you're absolutely you'll be safe because very bad things happen to gay students in high school.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Yeah, unfortunately bad things do happen, but I'm not currently hiding who I am to my school. And our administration has no tolerance for bullying.
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FerricPlushy Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Welllllllll you can pretty much start dating when you're comfortable. Pretty much these relationships in high school will 99% of the time lead to nothing in the long term, but you'll learn how to act (or not act) in a relationship. Learn to fool around, spend large quantities of time with a person that isn't your family. You should also look up statutory rape laws in your state, you're never too young to be labeled a sex offender. States have been known to lock up a 15 year old for having sex with his 14 year old gf.
Other than that, have fun, don't be passive aggressive, and use a condom.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
I don't want to get THAT serious before 18, no don't worry. I follow the law. xP
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Officialpoypoy Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student General Artist
just make alot of friends and see where it goes.

and itll only be a good relationship if u have an amazing self esteem
cuz in order to love others you need to love yourself.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
To be honest, my self esteem goes back and forth, but I've never taken it out on my friends or anything. I got some good friends, but I don't honestly think I'll be in a (serious) relationship till my senior year of HS or after.
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lightning-13 Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional General Artist
I don't think you should worry about it, just let it come when the time is right. There is no 'right' age.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Okay :meow: Thanks ^^
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Bagam Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think it has nothing to do with age, although highschool relationships do tend to be over melodramatic at times.
I say this because I know many couples whose age difference is very big. My brother's wife, for example is 8-9 years younger than him I believe.
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wezenbeesje Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional General Artist
I don't like everything attached to age. If you feel you need someone, why wait looking for your love?
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
I just get really nervous.
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:iconwezenbeesje:
wezenbeesje Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional General Artist
I understand.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
I feel like I don't know the first thing about anything relationship-wise.
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:iconwezenbeesje:
wezenbeesje Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional General Artist
yeah it's pretty confusing they don't teach you that in school. All I know is you should trust eachother and don't expect a perfect person to find and don't just wait. And the rest..I guess it's just follow your feelings.
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Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Alright. Thank you very much. ^^
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kausawolf Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Whenever you feel comfortable really.
And even if high school relationships fail more often than not, they will teach you valuable things about relationships.
But yeah, I say let it come naturally. See a person you like? Gopher it.
Don't push it and don't seek. It'll happen when it happens.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
I agree, thank you. I'll take the opportunities when they present themselves.
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kausawolf Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:3 Good luck with all your future love endeavors~
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Thanks :meow: :hug:
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3wyl Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I think it's better once you're out of high school, just because of the hormones, growth, coming into yourself, etc.

Also, things change a lot between high school and college. You may all just go into separate directions anyway.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Very true. I had thought about that, thanks. :meow:
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shogun3540 Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Professional Artist
the most important thing is your personal relationships in high school,
coz we all know high school relationships are the most important...





Harden the fuck up, find some giant black bastard and ride him till it hurts!
fuck relationships! worry bout that when your old!
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Midwinter-sun Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012
Depends on what kind of relationship you mean.

If it's just a random relationship with no expectations regarding the future, you might as well start now, as long as you want to.

If we're talking serious stuff like meeting someone and then considering the possibility of spending your life with him, then you should probably wait a few more years. This is simply because a young person changes so very much - three years from now you might not be able to recognize yourself. You develop, you learn, you perfect yourself. Meeting someone now will most probably result in you both becoming so different from what you were at a younger age over the next few years that you no longer fit together. Besides, I firmly believe that in most cases it's better to have one or two serious failed relationships before meeting 'the one'. A person has so much to learn about relationships and the process of learning is often catalysed by making mistakes, some of which damage the relationship so deeply that the damage is irreversible.

And of course it's important to note that in most cases life doesn't wait for you to decide to do something and instead simply throws it in your face. : ) My advice is: let life happen, take the best of it, learn from the worst and have a little patience. It is very often needed.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student Photographer
Thank you very much, I really liked that advice. :]
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:iconvanhir:
Vanhir Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
There is no ideal age.
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GayMetal Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Wait until you're out of high school. Until then, all you'll find is a bunch of douches who want to get laid on a regular basis (I know this from personal experience). College is where all the more mature and attractive men are anyway :3
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Photographer
Haha okay :meow: xD

Yeah I wanted to wait until I'm out of HS. :D
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summitstars Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I think now would be just fine. :) Just as long as you are ready, though! ^_^
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Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Photographer
The thing I'm worried about that someone else said (Which is true) is that when we reach the end of the senior year, we most likely won't be going to the same colleges. Although now would be really nice, there's just too many reasons I can't. But thank you so much for your comment! Hopefully I'll feel ready in time.
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Toxic-Sumar Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Artist
I would say now, but it is all up to you. When you feel like you
are ready. And you have to find the right people so they don't
just do it to hurt you. (That has happened to me before...)
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Photographer
Thanks ^^
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SpookyInk Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012   Traditional Artist
High school is filled with drama and social interaction.
It's the training grounds for relationships.

Some people whore themselves the entire time and look like shit years after looking like a used nickel stripper.

Honestly, have fun but be safe. Don't be too emotionally attached to people in general since 95% of them won't be in your life after high school.

College is a good place to find mates but don't go in with nothing under your belt. Inexperience isn't always a good thing.
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:iconcody-h:
Cody-H Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Student Photographer
How would I obtain the experience I need to date without dating?
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:iconofficialpoypoy:
Officialpoypoy Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2012  Student General Artist
dating is simply just spending time together.

also look up PUA forums
theres alot of facts and info and physcology behind in normal conversations you could use to your advantage.

Basicly that site teaches you how to sweet talk your way into anything, dating, making friends, persuading people.
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