How do you fall in love?


YSLiao's avatar
When you're terrified of anyone getting close to you, because you feel defenseless against any harm?
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ApAtHeTIcBuNnY's avatar
Being alone is not a bad thing. People will disappoint you eventually, save yourself the heartbreak.

Make lots of friends, though. Or do what I do, and sell your soul to the internet.

The internet has cats.

Just saying.
Mitchialia's avatar
Simple most of it happens unexpectantly and naturally-> Form bonds of trust with people such as a friend-> listen to your natural sense of attraction when you feel you're starting to like or become attracted to someone and they start giving you signs back -> take risks and go on that date if they ask you out or ask yourself, the worst they can say is no, if that's the case you can still be friends or try again with someone else. When you're hitting it off and falling for someone trust me, you'll feel it. Do what it tells you too even if it can be a little scary.
HappySnapper74's avatar
You take the risk...
Solum-Ipsum's avatar
:iconpylonsplz: YOU MUST CONSTRUCT ADDITIONAL PYLONS!!
YSLiao's avatar
HA! Good one :D
Solum-Ipsum's avatar
But seriously, gather guts, build defenses. Not that I'm any better, though. =P
Mew-Sumomo's avatar
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WorldHero's avatar
You don't look for it. Have it look for you. :meow: It'll show up when you least expect it.

I was never looking to fall in love with anyone, yet 2 years ago, I met one boy on here that just happened to share the same interests as I did and we hit it off really well for a few months before he asked me out. :shrug: And since then, we're still together. c:
YSLiao's avatar
Good to hear your story, thanks for sharing!
WorldHero's avatar
No problem. Sorry if it wasn't much help. ^^;
LexisSketches's avatar
It comes with time, and the steady build of a relationship of a sort :) At least that is what I think
YSLiao's avatar
That would need time and careful attention...
LexisSketches's avatar
Careful attention? I disagree :) It happens naturally usually.
PMMurphy's avatar
Some people doubt if love even really exists. Its such a strong word.

It's one of those things that just kinda hit you without expecting it.
YSLiao's avatar
I'm a doubter... need to paint a target on my chest, lol!
PMMurphy's avatar
Its fine to be a doubter. All you gotta do is go out and talk to people. Hold conversations and try to have fun. You can leave your privacy walls up if you want to it doesn't matter. Sooner or later you will run into someone you feel comfortable around to let those walls down.

Then maybe they feel the same with you.
YSLiao's avatar
I hope so too :) Thanks for encouraging me...
PMMurphy's avatar
i just described dating to you. Thats all i did. Everyone has their own walls they keep up to protect them self from harm.
YSLiao's avatar
Lol! I think living in a hard place like NYC makes those wall taller and colder... :(
PMMurphy's avatar
dont think that. Everyone has their own shit to deal with just in different places and at different levels.
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Fuyuko7's avatar
It just happens...when you let your guard down :paranoid:
YSLiao's avatar
0o0! I need to sack my battalion of guards then :P
Fuyuko7's avatar
:lol:

I choose to guard my emotions
CynicalPsychic's avatar
You let go and just let yourself live :)