Missed opportunity? And does this sound desperate......
I was on holiday in New York for the last week, and staying at a hostel (a really friendly/full of activities place!).
Anyway, I met this guy from the hostel at a bar (we were a big group from the hostel on a pub crawl). We got along immediately, and he was very forward, there were definitely sparks....
Anyway, we hung out together for a few hours, and he was really keen to get closer and I almost made it (and I really liked him), but I don't know, something from my stupid upbringing, or ideas i've had about myself being this type of person, with an image to uphold, I sort of pushed him away.
Well now i'm back home, i'm sort of regretting it, and I can't stop thinking about him or what could have been.
I was even thinking of calling the hostel and leaving a message at the front desk in the chance he might still be there.....does that seem desperate? Maybe he's not thinking of me still, but I know he was very interested.....
This probably sounds like whiny teenage crap, but i'm not. It might help to know that this is the first time i've experienced anything like this.....
Anyway, I met this guy from the hostel at a bar (we were a big group from the hostel on a pub crawl). We got along immediately, and he was very forward, there were definitely sparks....
Anyway, we hung out together for a few hours, and he was really keen to get closer and I almost made it (and I really liked him), but I don't know, something from my stupid upbringing, or ideas i've had about myself being this type of person, with an image to uphold, I sort of pushed him away.
Well now i'm back home, i'm sort of regretting it, and I can't stop thinking about him or what could have been.
I was even thinking of calling the hostel and leaving a message at the front desk in the chance he might still be there.....does that seem desperate? Maybe he's not thinking of me still, but I know he was very interested.....
This probably sounds like whiny teenage crap, but i'm not. It might help to know that this is the first time i've experienced anything like this.....
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Given that you were "on holiday" I'm assuming you're not from the US, let alone from New York. You said he's Brazillian but not if he's actually living in Brazil at the moment or living somewhere in the US or whatever country you're from.
So I'm just going to assume you're both from opposite corners of the world. Let it go. Long distance isn't worth it for a stranger flirting with you at a bar. There will be more strangers flirting with you in more bars who live closer.
So I'm just going to assume you're both from opposite corners of the world. Let it go. Long distance isn't worth it for a stranger flirting with you at a bar. There will be more strangers flirting with you in more bars who live closer.
Both from south of the equator though haha. No, i'm letting it go, i'll just remember it as a fun night in New York.
jst think......he could have been a multiple murder/rapist who kicks puppies.
Could be....although he said he had a white German Shepherd, and he liked flamenco guitar.....
so he's a spanish multiple murderer/rapist who kicks goldfish
There's no harm in being a little cautious around people you don't know~! 
But if you can do something to make yourself feel better, maybe get in touch with him if you can. Give it a shot. But otherwise, don't beat yourself up about it! It might have been something you regret, or in the long run, been a good decision. You just never know!
But if you can do something to make yourself feel better, maybe get in touch with him if you can. Give it a shot. But otherwise, don't beat yourself up about it! It might have been something you regret, or in the long run, been a good decision. You just never know!Ah well, I tried to contact him via the Hostel, no cigar! Oh well, it will be a nice night i'll always remember Or maybe i'll compare everyone to him....damn....honestly, Aussie guys.....blegh....
Or maybe i'll compare everyone to him....damn....honestly, Aussie guys.....blegh....Just try to remember it as a good time! But don't worry, I totally sympathise, australian men don't have much of the same appeal haha. But I'm sure they're out there
Haha glad someone agrees. I just don't get that singlet/big biceps covered in tattoos look.....
I agree, I personally prefer someone who looks like they bathe regularly 
Haha true And I hate their really Aussie/semi-bogan/macho voices
And I hate their really Aussie/semi-bogan/macho voices
Desperate, no. But if you aren't going to take some sort of action it's best to not dwell on it. Do you have a facebook and is it possible for him to have one as well?
I actually met my boyfriend at a rave a few years ago but I had to leave early because I worked in the morning, but I managed to find him on facebook with only his first name. I don't care if that's a little desperate, I'm in a great relationship because of it
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I actually met my boyfriend at a rave a few years ago but I had to leave early because I worked in the morning, but I managed to find him on facebook with only his first name. I don't care if that's a little desperate, I'm in a great relationship because of it
.I called the hostel to try and find out his last name, but they wouldn't give it to me 
Oh well, after that I felt ok, I think i've moved on haha
Plus I tried searching facebook with his first name, there are way too many Eduardo's from Rio.....
Oh well, after that I felt ok, I think i've moved on hahaPlus I tried searching facebook with his first name, there are way too many Eduardo's from Rio.....
Well you tried at least. 
next time go get 'em darn it.
next time go get 'em darn it.I think I totally will!
oh also you know that brazil is riddled with aids and its increasing for a reason... not to sound negative...
Actually I was wondering about that...
Haha.... I think you got to remember that you where there both on holidays. your not the first to go through this. Things are much different then, he might have just wanted a one night thing for all you know... other wise if your after a relationship, long distance is not a good way to start.
But then again you got an image to up hold that no one else really cares about.. who really holds your image as an example... probably better not to worry about other people..
But then again you got an image to up hold that no one else really cares about.. who really holds your image as an example... probably better not to worry about other people..
Haha all good points! I'll try to stick by these
Well I guess its like with rock stars or so on... maybe lets use a porn star as an example.. they may be a complete idiots and only care about them selves and no one else. In the end people only respect them for it and for us ordinary people that care about what others think and don't want to offend anyone. You get no where..
You would do much better at a gay bar.
What? Lots of straight guys there?
Would you people stop using opposite sex avatars! You ruin my train of thought processes!
Orangekiss is rather stupid.
She looked at your icon, didn't notice it was Jim Carry, assumed it was you, and thought you are male.
She looked at your icon, didn't notice it was Jim Carry, assumed it was you, and thought you are male.