In my experience, friends who start being short with you and picking fights like that, soon break off the friendship. If you don't want to be hurt, I would suggest "backing off" in the relationship and trying to find a better friend. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, and I'm sorry. It's not you, it's them - don't blame yourself. Sometimes people change and don't want to be friends anymore sometimes (stupid people).
It's just a heads up. You can do whatever you want with the situation. Just be aware that the relationship may be ending whether you want it to or not. And that's not your fault. Don't beat yourself up.
You can cry as soon as you're alone, hun It's fine to cry. It probably means you have more of a capacity to *feel* and have emotion than your dumb friend. So cry it out, grieve the relationship, be sad for a while, then pick yourself up when you feel ready, kay? It's okay if it takes you a while to get over it. Getting over a really close friendship can be just like getting over a breakup. But you'll get through, I promise
I don't think she's dumb but the whole break in the friendship thing is confusing. I don't want to believe it's temporary, I refuse to because I'll just get my hopes up. Secondly, it's hard because I keep having the feeling that my other close friends will get distant and I won't have any soon because the lack of real friends at my new school. But I will definitely try to. Thanks for your help I really appreciate your advice.
No problem And remember that acquaintences can be very valuable too - saying hi with someone's name and a smile can go a loooong ways. You don't always have to have a best bud. Though I know it can be weird if you've always had one. Best of luck with it all, and sorry you have to go through this sad time!
i still don't see why she would be mad at you for sending blank messages. i think there's something else that is troubling her. has she been acting weird at school or different? i think you should ask her why she's mad at you and what you did wrong (well..technically it's not your fault). she might just be throwing her anger on you, people do that a lot and i hate it too.
AuroriazFeatured By OwnerNov 25, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
Perhaps something is troubling her, and she is taking out her frustrations/anger/sadness on others. Waiting a few days before communicating again might be a good idea, then maybe try asking me if she is okay. Hopefully, whatever is going on isn't too serious (ex:suicidal thoughts/actions). IDK, some people tend to take out their emotions on others when they are upset while some keep it all inside (Neither is good, maybe somewhere in the middle..). I'm kind of an "expert" on friendship dramas since I have known "drama queens", but it doesn't sound like your friend is mad at you (at least not to me). She's just going through troubling times I think. I am certain things will be back to "normal" shortly. Hope so!
I'm confused so she's annoyed at you because you sent her a blank message and she just decided to avoid you?
If your friend honestly doesn't want to talk to you then she's not worth acknowledging. Since you have shown concern for her and yet she doesn't want to take the extra step to acknowledge your friendship then she's not worth it. Believe me I've been in that situation too where I've had friends ignore me for no good reason and if I speak my mind out about something reasonable then they get all over-sensitive about it that they would automatically ignore me nor talk to me ever again.
BTW another possibility could be that she's going through a rough time and just wants to be left alone. Have you seen her talk to any other friends or people? If that's the case then she's just ignoring you. Give her a week and if she still doesn't want to talk to you then leave her be.
I usually will attempt to communicate. If the other party simply refuses to respond. I will just drop the person and look for someone else. Some people do enjoy going on a cold war or giving cold shoulders to torment the other party a little more. It is just something to make one feel guilty more even though they are already sorry.
So far, when I went along with the 'cold war' game to the extent of really dumping that other party out of my head or forgetting him or her, I was most often approached to reconcile or in rare cases, confronted because I seemed not to care .
Not sure if it works for you. But I tend not to beg for forgiveness over non life and death matters.
I can totally understand if my friend is upset with me for something I may have done wrong on that day itself. But to prolong that bitter feeling to a week or so when I did nothing to annoy further, I think it is a little childish. I usually will forgo such a friend.
I don't beg unless I know it's absolutely my fault and I've hurt someone really bad, otherwise I am very stubborn saying sorry, especially if the person won't tell me why I am at fault. After today I honestly don't know how we'll get past this if she won't even talk to me.. >.< thanks for commenting though
Just keep pestering her 'till she tells you. True friends never leave other friends alone...and that includes pestering them until they give you answers for what you did wrong...as odd as that sounds, but it's true.
Just tell her, "Look, I can't apologize for something when I don't know what I did wrong!"
...you may not really want to apologize but it'll probably get the answer from her.
Try reaching out to her once more - REALLY HUMBLY. Don't make it all about yourself either, ask if you have done something to upset her and if there's something stressing her in her life now. If she blows you off - back away and let her approach you. Don't actively avoid her, rather just do not actively seek contact and be friendly and open to her if she seeks contact with you. Things and people change - sometimes very quickly and if the problem is between you two you should give her space to decide what she wants to do with your relationship.