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What to do about one of my closest friends?

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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Ever since I texted my friend early this week she's gotten annoyed or pissed off at me and I don't even know why. Well, because when you text someone you hardly know there mood I didn't know she was annoyed I thought it'd all blow over. I sent blank messages to her and she kept saying she'd block me so I said go ahead... I didn't know that she was really annoyed! I just thought it was a joke cause we never have disagreements and she has been the one I've talked to most since all of my friends split up and went to different high schools. Then yesterday we got into another argument and she was giving me an attitude when i texted her saying Happy Thanksgiving. Her words hurt so bad I was about to cry...I just don't what to do. She's never acted that way towards me before and she won't tell me what I did to make her so upset. I'm convinced its my fault but I'm also stubborn bc in arguments with my friends I always get hurt the most and have to apologise I kind of don't want to be so dependent of my friends for me to be happy or feel weak in the situation Should I give it a week or two before I talk to her again?
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MayJackson Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012
In my experience, friends who start being short with you and picking fights like that, soon break off the friendship. If you don't want to be hurt, I would suggest "backing off" in the relationship and trying to find a better friend. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, and I'm sorry. It's not you, it's them - don't blame yourself. Sometimes people change and don't want to be friends anymore sometimes (stupid people).
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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't know what to say to that...
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MayJackson Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012
It's just a heads up. You can do whatever you want with the situation. Just be aware that the relationship may be ending whether you want it to or not. And that's not your fault. Don't beat yourself up.
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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It just did. And I want to cry but I don't want to seem that dependent...
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MayJackson Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012
You can cry as soon as you're alone, hun :) It's fine to cry. It probably means you have more of a capacity to *feel* and have emotion than your dumb friend. So cry it out, grieve the relationship, be sad for a while, then pick yourself up when you feel ready, kay? It's okay if it takes you a while to get over it. Getting over a really close friendship can be just like getting over a breakup. But you'll get through, I promise :)
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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't think she's dumb but the whole break in the friendship thing is confusing. I don't want to believe it's temporary, I refuse to because I'll just get my hopes up.
Secondly, it's hard because I keep having the feeling that my other close friends will get distant and I won't have any soon because the lack of real friends at my new school. But I will definitely try to. Thanks for your help I really appreciate your advice.
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MayJackson Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012
No problem :) And remember that acquaintences can be very valuable too - saying hi with someone's name and a smile can go a loooong ways. You don't always have to have a best bud. Though I know it can be weird if you've always had one.
Best of luck with it all, and sorry you have to go through this sad time!
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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks again and It's alright, I'll pull myself out of it.
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Flicher Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Not to be a downer, but people tend to move on to other friends after they move. It is hard to keep that old connection with girls. It may just be her way of pushing you away.
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xJessie-chan Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
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